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Things you find a bit odd about Mumsnet

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valerianroot · 14/01/2022 16:39

Let me start by saying this is 100% lighthearted and fueled by being a bit bored in my last hour before weekend officially begins.

Anyway, I ventured onto the Royals board recently and found it a bit weird that people refer to Kate Middleton as Catherine. Now, I know that's her full first name (well I assume it is) but I've never heard anyone IRL refer to her as anything but Kate. Maybe I'm behind the times as my Royals knowledge isn't very up to date (as you'll notice by calling Kate Middleton.)

I'm sure I'll regret starting this but anyone else have anything?

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FrankieBoyleSezLoveOneAnother · 15/01/2022 10:17

Year in and year out, without fail, there are threads about posters' partners pissing in the wardrobe, where the OP will be asking if this is normal behaviour. It's bad enough that the question has to be asked, but the number of posters who think it excusable is bizarre and depressing in equal measure.

I would have added this to my first post if we had an edit function...

LadyWithLapdog · 15/01/2022 10:18

I find it odd that there are so many right-wing feminists.

AshLane · 15/01/2022 10:20

Experts in their field give advice ( in my case education) backed up by statutory DfE guidance - and either it doesn't fit the Op's narrative so is ignored ( a sign of why they don't understand their school's decisions) or other posters, who haven't read the thread or the guidance, wade in with more incorrect advice.

The fact that the app doesn't work properly on the latest iPad. The app doesn't update the 'active' threads, the only way see anything new is to turn off and start again. I did post about this, MN asked for more information, which I provided - but nothing changed.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

The royal family
ButtOutBobsMum · 15/01/2022 10:30

The absolute frothing hatred of men. I really hope none of them have sons!

boireannach · 15/01/2022 10:35

The overuse of the word “begging”
Yesterday a poster said her managers were “begging” staff not to attend the office in person,
Women “begging” their husband/partner to step up.
“Begging” their Mother/MIL to do emergency childcare.
I can’t remember ever begging.

Sparklingbrook · 15/01/2022 10:36

There’s also quite the hatred of teenage boys. They are all up to no good, drinking cider and taking drugs in the park and out mugging the elderly or looking for sex.
If you have a teen boy and they aren’t doing any of that you get told they definitely are you just don’t know it!

NotMeNoNo · 15/01/2022 10:46

It's a good point about anxiety, people who have a lot of time on their hands and things to worry about, getting stuck into a good long confrontational MN thread must while away a few hours for them. It's not really about the subject.

BarefootHippieChick · 15/01/2022 10:57

I agree about posters only reading the opening post and then wading in with an opinion without reading the full thread and finding out any updates. Then invariably someone will come along and tell them to RTFT. That's the reason why I never really comment on anything that already has more than around 70/80 comments, because I can't be bothered to scroll down to see if the narrative has changed first.

Winederlust · 15/01/2022 10:57

Yes to the bizarre hatred of attending weddings, or any kind of social event for that matter. God forbid you may have to have a nice, fun time with your family and friends.

TomAllenWife · 15/01/2022 11:13

For me it's the porn & wanking threads
So many posters believe that their partners don't do it / don't watch it / have never done either Hmm

I haven't met a man (or that many women) who don't have a bit of 'me time'

Also the A&E threads, and then arguing when posters think they're bat shit. Basically if you have time to come on MN and argue you don't need A&e as a general rule

sorryforswearing · 15/01/2022 11:40

That you can’t reply to a particular comment underneath that comment. Would put all replies to that comment together and stop the need to scroll to find related comments.

LittleBearPad · 15/01/2022 11:52

@sorryforswearing

That you can’t reply to a particular comment underneath that comment. Would put all replies to that comment together and stop the need to scroll to find related comments.
I like the simplicity and loathe nested comments. Takes ages to read everything
LittleBearPad · 15/01/2022 11:54

So MN can probably never win

JenniferJareau · 15/01/2022 12:02

The hatred of 'extroverts' is clear on here. They are 'so exhausting' etc.

FitAt50 · 15/01/2022 12:11

LEAVE HIM - is always the first reply to any complaint (no matter how small) about a husband, partner or boyfriend.

traintraveller · 15/01/2022 12:13

I find the attitude to anything wedding related bizarre, I don't see it in real life at all. The intolerance to other people's experience or opinion as well. I was told I must have a medical condition because I didnt agree that the smell of sanitary towels hit you the minute you entered a supermarket.

Mellowyellow222 · 15/01/2022 12:36

Yes the wedding stuff is odd.

People get so angry if they are invited to something that doesn’t suit them. They go mental if their children aren’t also invited and are advised that the bride is either stupid or selfish not to take into account the needs of parents!

Few people on mumsnet seem to be able to graciously decline an invitation, wish the bride and groom well and love on!

Exhausteddog · 15/01/2022 12:38

The hatred of 'extroverts' is clear on here. They are 'so exhausting' etc.

Extrovert being anyone who answers their front door without prior warning or doesn't mind passing the time of day with work colleagues, neighbours or school mums. They probably (shudder) enjoy celebrating their birthday past the age of 8 as well. Grin

JenniferJareau · 15/01/2022 12:53

Extrovert being anyone who answers their front door without prior warning or doesn't mind passing the time of day with work colleagues, neighbours or school mums. They probably (shudder) enjoy celebrating their birthday past the age of 8 as well. Grin

Exactly Grin

JanisMoplin · 15/01/2022 13:13

@Exhausteddog

The hatred of 'extroverts' is clear on here. They are 'so exhausting' etc.

Extrovert being anyone who answers their front door without prior warning or doesn't mind passing the time of day with work colleagues, neighbours or school mums. They probably (shudder) enjoy celebrating their birthday past the age of 8 as well. Grin

Some of the threads are so bizarre I am convinced they are written by aliens who don't understand human behaviour. Like "My neighbour dropped off a card for Xmas. WHAT DOES SHE WANT FROM ME? I have no time for a needy relationship" or " A school mum suggested coffee after the school run. So clingy! IS she a psycho?
Fluffycloudland77 · 15/01/2022 13:16

Although another way of looking at it is that online forums attract introverts so we have an unnatural amount of introverts here not reflected in society.

If I was an extrovert I’d probably be out today meeting people and having lunch. Not sitting here waiting for lunch to go down so I can paint the woodwork.

Waferbiscuit · 15/01/2022 13:18

Nothing is ever anyone's business. On virtually every post a high proportion of posters shout 'keep your nose out'.

An entire country of people turning a blind eye - nuts!

JanisMoplin · 15/01/2022 13:22

@Fluffycloudland77

Although another way of looking at it is that online forums attract introverts so we have an unnatural amount of introverts here not reflected in society.

If I was an extrovert I’d probably be out today meeting people and having lunch. Not sitting here waiting for lunch to go down so I can paint the woodwork.

I was supposed to meet someone for lunch but they cancelled:( hence am here.

I wouldn't call myself an extrovert, but I don't attribute nefarious motives to every neighbour who smiles at me.

midsomermurderess · 15/01/2022 13:37

And on the flip side, introvert seems here to cover poor social skills.

I also find it odd that some posters get so angry about people talking about something, what holidays they're going on; a recent thread about a newly-bought expensive but noisy flat: well I haven't been on holiday for years; some people are poor and can't feed their kids and look at you and your fancy flat. That's just the nature of conversations, some are relevant to your experience, some not. Not all threads are going to, or are required to, speak equally to all Mumsnetters. It's such a tiresome, often pompous, policing of things other people want to talk about. It's a big site, there's something for everyone. Go find a conversation you can join with. No one is deliberately or maliciously excluding you.

lljkk · 15/01/2022 13:40

Since I'm not British-born, Some things are revelations rather than surprises... like not wearing underwear in bed. That actually is a "thing". So is complaining -- it becomes apparent that for many people, sharing resentments & complaints is very bonding.

The surprise is rants about Facebook doing someone's head in. so er, just "Leave" or "Unfollow" it's so easy to do! Stop 'reacting' to posts you don't like block them instead, job done

Or moaning about other people's successes in life --people called "friends". i mean, I know about the Culture of Envy & the British love of holding a resentment... but honestly, why can't those posters be happy for other people whose lives they choose to know about.

Also, for all the intelligent contributions here, there's a lot of projection that happens, too. Often on very tenuous evidence. Are people not aware they do this? Eg:

"My husband hesitated to answer a question. And he doesn't want me to look at his messages."

He's having an affair!

  • I was just thinking the same! Mine did that the day before I found out about his affair.

You must sneak a look at his phone, it can't possibly be your surprise birthday party or anything else, all men are cheaters you just haven't found him out yet. etc.