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My MIL has folded all my thongs into a pile of teeny tiny triangles and I think it may be the straw that makes me lose my shit...

249 replies

Loveatthe5anddime · 31/12/2021 12:40

Light hearted, kind off...

In-laws arrived on the 26th, they hired a cottage near by (their choice) but have so far spent all day every day with us...

MIL doesn’t really get the art of discussion and likes to speak about her childhood in monologue a LOT, quite often we can have good 20 minute stories where no one else is able to speak and with 3 DD’s it makes it tricky.

She also likes to re tell stories...

Mil “did I tell you about the time”

Every else “yes you told us about that”

Mil “retells the story which last 25 minutes”

Every story begins a very small throat clear and then a pursed lip pause for dramatic effect which makes me want to stick a knife in my eyeball!!

She is only late 50’s so can’t even blame it on being old and dithery...

Today she has take it upon herself to go into our washing basket in our bedroom,while we had nipped out, has washed all my delicates and I’ve came back to a thong tower, all folded into identical triangles...

Please tell me I’m not the only one on the edge with having relatives staying?!

OP posts:
Lollypop701 · 31/12/2021 14:46

My lovely mil tidied by underwear draw. She wrapped my suspenders belt around my loose tampons…. I didn’t see her for months.

PupInAPram · 31/12/2021 14:48

My ex-MIL once did this only to my jumbo size control pants. I was f**ing mortified. She had the key to the house while we were away, for emergencies. Apparently jumbo size control pants in the laundry basket was an emergency in her eyes.

AutumnSquill · 31/12/2021 14:49

Thong Tower? Or maybe Tower of Thong, for any Leonard Cohen fans.

CorpusCallosum · 31/12/2021 14:49

My MIL did our laundry till DH told her it was wayyyyy over the mark.

Plus there's the time she took it upon herself to change our sheets while we were both at work. Then she thought the pillows themselves looked dirty so went and found the kitchen scissors and cut them open to take the stuffing out and wash the covers 🙀

CharityDingle · 31/12/2021 14:50

@PupInAPram

My ex-MIL once did this only to my jumbo size control pants. I was f**ing mortified. She had the key to the house while we were away, for emergencies. Apparently jumbo size control pants in the laundry basket was an emergency in her eyes.
Grin sorry!
TitsInAbsentia · 31/12/2021 14:54

My MIL is long gone but the thought of her folding my gussetsm in any size knicker, would be hilarious, she'd have got someone to wipe her arse for her if she could!

mumda · 31/12/2021 15:01

Did she iron them?

Benjispruce5 · 31/12/2021 15:03

Oh god how rude of her! I’d hate someone doing my washing, let alone thongs. Why does she have a key?

KissedintheDark · 31/12/2021 15:05

Seems like there is something mental health going on... perhaps on the spectrum ?

Ooh, you've had it now.

twilightermummy · 31/12/2021 15:05

My ex mil did this and we are now no contact.

Dasher789 · 31/12/2021 15:06

Wow! I would die on the spot. I don't think I could look mil in the eye again.

My mil lived in Paris for a number of years in her 20's. Every time I see her she goes on about her time there. I spent a summer in Paris in my late teens so she bought me a book for Xmas one year on the best places to eat in Paris. She said she wouldn't give it to anyone else but we were in the know having lived there???!!! I was there for 3 months ten years ago!!!!

She also constantly regales tales of dh as a teen and getting into mischief as though he is the only child in the world to be a bit naughty.

I wish she would get some hobbies and new chat.

Says me who lives such an exciting life Grin

Benjispruce5 · 31/12/2021 15:07

@KissedintheDark GrinGrinGrin

over50andfab · 31/12/2021 15:12

A thong tower sounds impressive!

Now, when I was growing up....................😉

justasking111 · 31/12/2021 15:12

When DIL was very ill in hospital DS bundled up washing for all five of them I washed and dried, thought nothing of it under the circumstances hope she's got over it

BlondeDogLady · 31/12/2021 15:14

My Dad tells the same stories over and over and over - all from about 40-50 years ago when he was in his 20's/30's. He hasn't done very much with his life for a decade or so, so I figure there aren't many recent memories to draw on. He sometimes falls asleep mid sentence. Shock

Recycledblonde · 31/12/2021 15:15

I'm late 50s and wore thongs a lot in my 20s, I doubt she was shocked, most twenty something women wore thongs and if I ever folded mine instead of hanging them from the nearest lampshade, it was into a triangle.
I wouldn't go near my daughters washing though, I got too much of the bloody stuff of my own!

Mummyratbag · 31/12/2021 15:18

I'm getting to the stage where I can't remember who I have told what to, if they look like they aren't rolling their eyes I keep going Grin

My MIL's competitive poverty story is refusing condiments as they didn't have such things in her day ... it's a bottle of ketchup, a simple no thanks would do..

lifeinlimbo2020 · 31/12/2021 15:22

@WeaninWoes

Thong Tower....did you snap and fart?Wink
GrinGrinGrinGrinXmas GrinXmas GrinXmas GrinXmas Grin
SocialConnection · 31/12/2021 15:22

God, she's my age! I can't begin to imagine doing that - I'd get a lock on the bedroom door.

Phrenologistsfinger · 31/12/2021 15:28

YABU for wearing thongs! Horrid little bits of arse floss getting into nooks and crannies!

My MIL can come to stay and fold my big granny pants if she likes. Sadly she is in the EU and cannot easily get here.

Morethanthis71 · 31/12/2021 15:33

I'm 50 and I wear thongs but I don't have enough to build a tower.

MazzleDazzle · 31/12/2021 15:36

Every story begins a very small throat clear and then a pursed lip pause for dramatic effect which makes me want to stick a knife in my eyeball!! Grin Grin Grin

My MIL loves a dramatic pause. For added effect, she holds your arm, maintains eye contact, takes a deep breath, let’s it out slowly, purses her lips… looks away, resumes eye contact.

Just.
Fucking.
Spit it out!

It drives me nuts and I’ve lost all patience by the time she gets to the point. Sometimes it’s something trivial: she misplaced her library book. Sometimes it’s something terrible: her brother died. Regardless, it’s relayed in the same fashion. I can’t decide what’s worse, face to face or over the phone. On the phone it feels like time stops.

2bazookas · 31/12/2021 15:40

Love the thing tower.

Next Christmas, give her a thong and say " because I know how much you admire mine".

rwalker · 31/12/2021 15:42

Can't stop laughing (TBF I wouldn't like it ) Thong tower

Anordinarymum · 31/12/2021 15:42

@Loveatthe5anddime

Light hearted, kind off...

In-laws arrived on the 26th, they hired a cottage near by (their choice) but have so far spent all day every day with us...

MIL doesn’t really get the art of discussion and likes to speak about her childhood in monologue a LOT, quite often we can have good 20 minute stories where no one else is able to speak and with 3 DD’s it makes it tricky.

She also likes to re tell stories...

Mil “did I tell you about the time”

Every else “yes you told us about that”

Mil “retells the story which last 25 minutes”

Every story begins a very small throat clear and then a pursed lip pause for dramatic effect which makes me want to stick a knife in my eyeball!!

She is only late 50’s so can’t even blame it on being old and dithery...

Today she has take it upon herself to go into our washing basket in our bedroom,while we had nipped out, has washed all my delicates and I’ve came back to a thong tower, all folded into identical triangles...

Please tell me I’m not the only one on the edge with having relatives staying?!

OMG...

You wear thongs?