[quote AlbertBridge]@MoiraNotRuby I love the idea of taking a year off self improvement! That's such a liberating thought!
A week before Christmas I started getting down at the thought of 2022, mainly because the idea of setting new goals, overcoming issues, working to become a better person, etc, just sounded EXHAUSTING. 🥱
In the past few years I've done a lot of self improvement. I lost 4 stone, gave up drinking (except 2-3 times a month if I go out), did a load of courses during lockdown... I've decluttered, sorted my teeth out, had the garden done, redecorated... changed jobs... I'm bloody knackered!
I do have some things I really must change in order to have a better life. I need to earn more money, get over my driving phobia, and get regular exercise. But I guess every year goes by doesn't have to be spent in the relentless pursuit of change and success? But then, if I stopped setting goals, I'm reallllly scared I'd grind to a halt. Even though all the big goals are so scary that I easily feel overwhelmed...
This stuff goes round in my head a LOT.
I don't know where to start. [/quote]
I'm like you, have goals usually and I feel a bit directionless just now to be honest.
One thing I am an expert in is driving phobia. To cut a long story short, while I was learning to drive (20 years ago!) my friend hit a pedestrian in his car and killed her. It wasn't his fault, according the the inquest, but that didn't matter to him obviously and it pretty much ruined his life. It really got in my head and although I did pass my test (after 4 attempts) I never drove again, not once. I was terrified. Completely terrified.
4 years ago after my second child was born I decided I needed to conquer my fear. It was honestly one of the biggest challenges of my life. I can go into what I did if you're interested, but the point is - I managed it. I now have a car and drive it most days. I've still never been on the motorway but that's ok, I never thought I would drive at all.
It has changed my life and I can't describe the feeling of freedom it gives me. It also really boosted my self esteem so much to overcome something that was such a demon.
No pressure on you, but if you think you might want to do it, it can be done and can have a really positive impact on lots of parts of your life.
Didn't really cut a long story short there did I!!