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Not looking forward to 2022. Anyone else?

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 20:47

I usually get excited and optimistic at the thought of a fresh new year. But this time I'm not looking forward to it at all. "Same shit, different year" is the phrase stuck in my head!

Anyone else feeling unexpectedly deflated about 2022?

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:08

@AfterEightMintyCedric

I refuse to think I can't change things for the better in 2022...

I KNOW you can! Look what you achieved already in just 5 years. You're so resilient and inspiring. I'm so sorry about your dad. I'm on the woo side, so I think he'll be helping you out now in a celestial way...

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Cuddlywaterfall · 28/12/2021 21:09

I am dying to fast forward to 2023. I'm in the middle of a divorce. I have to tell my kids their lives are about to be blown up, leave my beautiful house, and start all over again in 2022. I'm sad and angry and worried. And Covid is still fucking everything up. So yeah. Hard to be optimistic.

Brightermornings · 28/12/2021 21:10

I agree. I wasn't looking forward to Christmas couldn't wait for it to be over. Hate NYE aswell. But then what? I have some events booked for 2022 they seem so far away.
I think I'm depressed and I need some counselling seems like too much effort to do anything about it .

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:10

Can you take control of the situation by setting goals etc for things that you are more likely to be able to do?

I love this idea. My goals are usually far too lofty and daunting, which might be why I'm currently so flat. Because I never achieve them! Maybe manageable goals are more fun.

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mistermagpie · 28/12/2021 21:11

I'm the same. I'm normally a really positive person who is content with quite simple things in life, but I've really struggled recently.

I feel like I've achieved nothing this year, I've been treading water professionally at work due to the impact of Covid on my employer. I'm normally big into fitness and running but most of my races got cancelled, I got Covid and my fitness really suffered. My DH has a lot of work frustrations and we have both found WFH difficult. Our eldest son started school in 2020 and has really found it tough due to all the isolations and everything. Our Christmas plans were ruined by family testing positive on the 23rd.

I feel really flat and can't seem to shake it. I'm normally enthusiastic about new year and new beginnings but not this time.

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:12

But then what? I have some events booked for 2022 they seem so far away.
I think I'm depressed

This is exactly how I feel. Exactly. "But then what?" would be the phrase I'd get printed on a t-shirt today.

Maybe we're both depressed..

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mistermagpie · 28/12/2021 21:13

@AlbertBridge

*But then what? I have some events booked for 2022 they seem so far away. I think I'm depressed*

This is exactly how I feel. Exactly. "But then what?" would be the phrase I'd get printed on a t-shirt today.

Maybe we're both depressed..

Me and DH had quite a long conversation earlier today about whether we both might be depressed. I've never been depressed in my life but I feel so blaaaaaah just now.
AfterEightMintyCedric · 28/12/2021 21:14

@AlbertBridge

Thanks. I'm also a lover of the woo.

The week after my dad passed away, my best friend came round with some nature oracle cards (a bit like tarot but based on plants and animals).

I drew Hawthorn which is apparently the 'father tree'...I have a hawthorn at the end of my garden.

I was so close to my dad and I want to change my life and make it better in his memory, as well as to make my DD proud (she is a 17yo force of nature).

I contacted GP the week before Christmas and have consultations for weight management and HRT in the next couple of weeks. I've got a few other plans for the year ahead...just need to make them happen.

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:14

I feel really flat and can't seem to shake it. I'm normally enthusiastic about new year and new beginnings but not this time.

This!! This is exactly how I feel. Does resilience wear out, do you think? I was so bouncy and resilient during 2020, but it's all run out.

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Winterlove · 28/12/2021 21:16

Dreading it. I’m 31 and lost both of my parents which has hit me so hard. With Covid I’m finding it hard to make plans or look forward to anything as there’s no guarantee it’ll even go ahead. I always did everything with my mum and it’ll be hard not having her to spend weekends and holidays with.

Xtraincome · 28/12/2021 21:17

@AlbertBridge yes it's a group on FB where they purely focus on you building your writing career in self-publishing to the point where you can just be a full-time writer- own marketing etc. The idea is that roughly 20 books following a set plan is the key to hitting 50k or thereabouts. Loads of people do it and just enjoy it even if their goals are smaller thank 50k.

AfterEightMintyCedric · 28/12/2021 21:17

@Cuddlywaterfall

I am dying to fast forward to 2023. I'm in the middle of a divorce. I have to tell my kids their lives are about to be blown up, leave my beautiful house, and start all over again in 2022. I'm sad and angry and worried. And Covid is still fucking everything up. So yeah. Hard to be optimistic.
I'm sorry you're dealing with that...it's fucking horrible.

Hang in there though...I promise it will be worth it in the long run as clichéd as that sounds.

Despite everything life has thrown at me in the last five years, I have never regretted my divorce and if there's one thing I'm proud of it's having the courage to make the break and the strength to get my daughter through it all, during her teens, and see her come out the other side as an incredible young woman.

You can do it

Ilikewinter · 28/12/2021 21:18

Ok so im breaking the mold here..... I start a new job on 31st January and I cant bloody wait, i currently work in retail so have been happily ticking off 'my final' list so far its been my final shitty Christmas eve, my final bank holiday ill ever work, next will be my final New Years day.... Im full of nerves, excitment and anticipation of whats to come.....probably 12 months of work from home and not meeting any new colleague's 😂🙈😫

AfterEightMintyCedric · 28/12/2021 21:19

@Xtraincome that group sounds fab...I will have to have a look for it.

I have a manuscript I'm about to start editing, and another I'm about 15k words into which will hopefully be the start of a series (have the next two books planned in theory).

Need to get back into it. Have you heard of Writers HQ? They do great courses, and free online workshops which are really good.

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:20

@mistermagpie

Me and DH had quite a long conversation earlier today about whether we both might be depressed. I've never been depressed in my life but I feel so blaaaaaah just now.

Same. I wonder if it's harder for you because your DH is feeling the same? I rely on my DH's positivity to pull me out of my troughs. I think it'd be harder if he felt the same.. but then, it'd be nice to have someone to empathise with.

I hope you both feel better very soon. Group hug! 🤗 🤗 🤗

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:20

@AfterEightMintyCedric

I drew Hawthorn which is apparently the 'father tree'...

Oh - that's just so lovely. Really comforting.

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Lostinafield · 28/12/2021 21:21

Do you usually look forward to a new year?

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:22

@Winterlove -- I'm so, so sorry for your losses. That's desperately sad. No wonder you feel down. You poor thing.

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Cuddlywaterfall · 28/12/2021 21:23

Thank you@AfterEightMintyCedric. I know it's the right thing to do but urgh I just want to be on the other side of it! Glad you have done so well x

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:23

@Lostinafield

Do you usually look forward to a new year?

Yes! I usually feel really fired up and inspired. A brand new year that I haven't messed up yet.. 😆 But this time, no. It feels scary.

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Lostinafield · 28/12/2021 21:24

@winterlove that's really hard.
I'm so sorry. Flowers

AfterEightMintyCedric · 28/12/2021 21:24

@Cuddlywaterfall

Thank you@AfterEightMintyCedric. I know it's the right thing to do but urgh I just want to be on the other side of it! Glad you have done so well x
My waistline and wine consumption might beg to differ Grin but thank you!
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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:25

@Cuddlywaterfall

The year of my divorce, I stayed up to hear the Big Ben chimes and felt the biggest feeling of relief that that horrible year had finished. Everything has been so much easier and happier ever since. It's horrible when you're going through it, but the aftermath is BLISS. Honestly.

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Lostinafield · 28/12/2021 21:26

[quote AlbertBridge]@Lostinafield

Do you usually look forward to a new year?

Yes! I usually feel really fired up and inspired. A brand new year that I haven't messed up yet.. 😆 But this time, no. It feels scary. [/quote]
Sorry, I reread your OP and it's the very first line!
I don't think I've ever felt like that about a new year, which is why I asked.

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AlbertBridge · 28/12/2021 21:30

Sorry, I reread your OP and it's the very first line!

😂

I don't think I've ever felt like that about a new year, which is why I asked.

Really? See, I think maybe your way is more sensible. But you don't dread a new year - you just feel "meh"?

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