Not looking forward to 2022. Anyone else?

[AlbertBridge]

I usually get excited and optimistic at the thought of a fresh new year. But this time I'm not looking forward to it at all. "Same shit, different year" is the phrase stuck in my head!

Anyone else feeling unexpectedly deflated about 2022?

Reading these posts I feel a little guilty for feeling so positive but I can’t wait for 2022, I have a milestone birthday and am getting married. I’m so happy!

Thanks River, Albert and Lost for your kind messages. Hope 2022 turns out to be much better than expected for all of you.

@Garysmum I can understand why you feel so worried. Please do talk to friends and family close to you if you are concerned for your boy. The world is a sh*t show on a normal day and it really can be very bloody hard. it will be OK, it will just take time

@GiveYourHeadAWobble

I’ve been knocked back so many times I’m struggling to pick myself up.

There's been a theme of similar posts on this thread. It really sounds like "resilience burn-out" is a thing.

@Doidontimmm

Nooo, that's great!!! I love hearing from
positive types as well as my sisters in misery. 😆 I'm so glad you have a wonderful year ahead of you - congratulations and good luck!

(Someone please lock the door behind @Doidontimmm - that kind of buoyant happiness is a real bumm... oh, hello! You're still here. Yay!

😆

[quote RiverSkater]@mistermagpie I could have written all that word for word.

I think to get back into running is partly the answer, fitness allowing.

Make yourself get out there again! [/quote]
That's my plan, I've downloaded a training plan to start next week. I think it will help my head and my body.

I'm dreading 2022. Although this was the worst year of my life - nursing mum through cancer and losing her in the summer - I don't want to leave her behind in 2021. Yes, I know this sounds crazy!

@Munchies123 It doesn't sound crazy - I absolutely get you. It can feel like they are slipping further away from us. I'm so sorry for your loss 💐

I don't want 2022 to come, there is absolutely nothing good that is going to come out of it just heartache and pain.

Silkieschickens you have a very positive mindset. I wish you the best going forward with your treatment. I hope that this time next year you will be here telling us that your doing well.

I know that the past 2 years have been hard on every one. Covid came and it upset the whole world. Along with this most people make plans about what they are going to do in the next few months or year. Plans have had to be shelved, changed or put on hold because of covid.
I am trying to look that the glass is more than half full. This year I sorted out a few things and built up some savings which I plan to increase next year. I have a few days out planned during the year. I hope to go abroad later this year depending on how the covid situation pans out.
I have friends who have agreed to do antigen tests before they meet up to make sure they are well to meet up. As one friend said to me covid has made me look at life and I am trying to make the best of the current situation.

Lots of ways I don't feel optimistic about this coming year, on a national/global scale, but personally I do have some goals that I hope to achieve: getting through to 2023 in good health, carrying on improving my fitness, having some nice holidays with DP (even if just in the UK, that would be fine), maybe making progress with learning piano. And looking forward to seeing all the bulbs come up that we planted in the autumn.

@Munchies123

I'm dreading 2022. Although this was the worst year of my life - nursing mum through cancer and losing her in the summer - I don't want to leave her behind in 2021. Yes, I know this sounds crazy!

Oh Munchies

How's everyone feeling today? I'm in bed 🎉 staring at the Vision Board I did this time last year. A lot of it came true, but some didn't.

I think looking at a whole year is a bit overwhelming, too daunting. I think I might split it into quarters, like big businesses do, and set smaller goals for each quarter. And then break those down into weeks.

One thing I'm definitely going to do is join my local Action For Happiness group. They meet once a month online and follow the Action For Happiness calendar that sets specific happiness-boosting actions for every day.

I think I might split it into quarters, like big businesses do, and set smaller goals for each quarter

This is kind of what I’m doing. I’ve resigned my self to the fact that travel abroad next year is unlikely so have thought about other things. So first couple of months I am going to declutter (a bit, as I do like a lot of my “stuff”) and have a spring clean. Then in spring I’ll be working on the garden, getting it ready for summer. There are a couple of improvements I want to make. Summer will be for relaxing in the garden. I practically live out there when the weather is good. Autumn will be preparing the house/garden for winter. Then Christmas shopping, then Christmas and another year closer to some sort of normality, I hope!

I also have some “mini projects” I want to do. Like I have a pine dresser, which is nice but looks dated, so I’m going to paint it and replace the knobs etc. I like crafting and DC got me some kits at Christmas so I have those to do as a more “fun” thing.

So I guess my goals are not particularly high, but just simple, little things to gain a sense of achievement and not feel like the year is just wasted.

I'm having a year off from goals and improving.

In 2021...

Work- I got turned down for a promotion, unfairly imo, so 2022 is my year for COASTING all the way.

Marriage - finally plucked up courage to leave terrible husband, 2022 I just need to sort the finances and divorce.

Kids - both teens but neither have exams in 2022, so I just need to keep things steady for them.

I am honestly too tired to try and achieve anything and I don't feel like I need to.

Ugh...barely slept, allergies playing up (hayfevery so God knows what that's about) and woke to what may or may not turn out to be my first period in more weeks than I care to remember. Either way I'm snotty and feel like I've been kicked in the back by a horse.

But still feel weirdly positive about the coming year...guess the drugs must be working .

I'm also going to break it down...was looking at journals yesterday but none really suit me so I'll do my own.

Have decided my motto for the year is going to be 'Don't dream it...be it...' (thank you Mr Frank N Furter).

@Munchies123 I know how you feel. It occurred to me that this next time next my dad will have passed away 'last year' and it feels weird...(((hugs)))

@Silkieschickens your positivity in the face of cancer is truly humbling. I wish you all the very best for the coming year, both health and otherwise .

@MoiraNotRuby

Sometimes you need to just be...nothing wrong with that.

@AlbertBridge

How's everyone feeling today? I'm in bed 🎉 staring at the Vision Board I did this time last year. A lot of it came true, but some didn't.

I think looking at a whole year is a bit overwhelming, too daunting. I think I might split it into quarters, like big businesses do, and set smaller goals for each quarter. And then break those down into weeks.

One thing I'm definitely going to do is join my local Action For Happiness group. They meet once a month online and follow the Action For Happiness calendar that sets specific happiness-boosting actions for every day.

I have people coming from mental health service to write a care plan to help me with my eating disorder. I've had it thirty years so not holding my breath. But grateful they are coming. In a dreading it sort of way.. I don't do resolutions but I guess for 2022 I have a goal of really working towards recovery. I think your idea of breaking things into smaller goals would be useful here, Albert, as it pervades every area of my life.

@bloodywhitecat I read about your husband on another thread and I'm so sorry

Thank you for your kind messages After and Ilady I am not really a positive person, more someone who plans for the worst and hopes for the best though I am mostly cheerful and at peace with whatever the outcome now I have planned all scenarios. at first the doctors told me I could well be at stage 4 as they found a second mass elsewhere and then its incurable and survival rates are pretty bleak so after that stage 3 although its still not great, I think 72% survive 5 years, its a lot better than stage 4 when its 22% and 35% dont survive the year. I also a few years back when going through other cancer checks which were benign spoke to a very inspirational lady on here WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo who sadly died at 27 but she said she did not waste the time she had left on negative emotions and her approach has helped me.

I get through things by looking at the good things in my life and also I always plan a holiday at start of year so I have something to look forward to. Always remember to be kind to yourself to. I also looked at how I can try and help myself be in the 72% and I pushed for earlier treatment and won and exercise 3 to 5 hours a week cuts reoccurance rates by half so I am aiming for that and threat of chemo is a very good motivator, so doing half an hour leg and arm exercises a day from my recliner as recovering from operation now, dont think it has to be anything that strenous, says ideal is half aerobics, half resistance but I also find exercise helps mood and reduces health issues. Pre diagnosis was doing house projects and that is lovely when done, have a new thatched roof, boiler and chimney but rest is now on hold but just improvements rather than essentials so that is fine.

I've taken my Christmas decorations down and surprisingly this has made me feel a bit better. Like I'm starting to put 2021 in the past and getting ready to move forward.

I recommend it if anyone else thinks it might help!

@MoiraNotRuby

I'm having a year off from goals and improving.

In 2021...

Work- I got turned down for a promotion, unfairly imo, so 2022 is my year for COASTING all the way.

Marriage - finally plucked up courage to leave terrible husband, 2022 I just need to sort the finances and divorce.

Kids - both teens but neither have exams in 2022, so I just need to keep things steady for them.

I am honestly too tired to try and achieve anything and I don't feel like I need to.

This is fine. It's more than fine, it's healthy. The relentless pursuit of improvement is overrated in my opinion, you're allowed to just coast.

@mistermagpie Ooh! I've been keeping mine up as I thought it was lifting my mood, but maybe a clean sweep is what's needed. Thanks for the tip!

@MoiraNotRuby I love the idea of taking a year off self improvement! That's such a liberating thought!

A week before Christmas I started getting down at the thought of 2022, mainly because the idea of setting new goals, overcoming issues, working to become a better person, etc, just sounded EXHAUSTING. 🥱

In the past few years I've done a lot of self improvement. I lost 4 stone, gave up drinking (except 2-3 times a month if I go out), did a load of courses during lockdown... I've decluttered, sorted my teeth out, had the garden done, redecorated... changed jobs... I'm bloody knackered!

I do have some things I really must change in order to have a better life. I need to earn more money, get over my driving phobia, and get regular exercise. But I guess every year goes by doesn't have to be spent in the relentless pursuit of change and success? But then, if I stopped setting goals, I'm reallllly scared I'd grind to a halt. Even though all the big goals are so scary that I easily feel overwhelmed...

This stuff goes round in my head a LOT.

I don't know where to start.