If you’re a mum and use Facebook or Instagram….

[Youngatheart00]

lighthearted

….little plea for you to post something other than yet another pic of your child every once in a while.

I don’t care if it’s your lunch, your holiday, hell even a motorway service station just not more baby/kid spam please. It’s astounding to see how once interesting friends have changed and now post pretty much daily updates of their offspring eating toast, watching tv, with relative xyz. Fine to take the pics, why do they need to be shared with the world?

NB also stop with the damn elf on a shelf

...are you okay

Hope that wee vent helped!

I’m a Mum and have both - although only use them to nosey at other people, rather than post my own stuff.

I would tend to agree though, and certainly wouldn’t post pics of my kids - they’re teen/pre-teen and don’t want to be on other people’s SM.

I’m quite ok thank you - hence the lighthearted comment!

No issue with people sharing pictures of their kids. They are an important part of their life. I get that.

But not Every. Single. Picture.

Full disclosure I’m child free (not by choice) and it does add to the isolation when it seems pretty much all of my friends have been in this zone now for several years.

I’m awake (potential covid) and thought I’d do a social media scroll and it was just striking.

People will post about what's happening in their lives and what they're passionate about. Its different for everyone (I'm sure plenty of my followers are sick of my travel spam) but for a lot of parents it's their children if that's the phase of their life that they are in.

I agree OP.

People posting about their lunch, holiday, or a motorway service station is equally as boring as them posting about their kids. It's all very boring.

Newsflash OP - these platforms have the unfollow/mute function. Use that, it is your friend. Much healthier than letting it wind you up like this.

What is really annoying is when they post 50 photos from the same event such as an hour in the park. Can't they just pick one. Oh and 4 different photos of the same takeaway on a table...just why.

Ive unfollowed a few because of their constant elf photos, it's like a badge of honour to prove how creative and he hilarious they are. It makes my teeth itch...
But each to their own and all that...

I don’t have insta and when DC were born we agreed not to put them on SM. This has caused no end of problems, mostly with schools who simply don’t seem to understand that some people want to respect their DCs privacy and don’t need their children plastered all over the schools Twitter and fb pages. We’ve also upset people by asking them to remove pictures of our children from their feeds.

I completely agree with you OP, but I’d extend your request to anything on repeat and anything mundane.

I agree, especially when they label them. My clever, beautiful etc.

I used to think the same. Since I’ve had kids though, I don’t really do anything else so it’s pictures of them or nothing! Lockdown obviously didn’t help. I do try to mix things up a bit so on the rare occasion that I do something nice, I’ll share something different.

I'm a mother but I'm not on your Facebook or Instagram.
Thing is, these people are YOUR friends and family. YOU chose to add these people to your SM pages.

Since becoming a mum, my life has become pretty uninteresting!

You’re friends weren’t more interesting beforehand, they were just posting stuff you could relate to or were probably actually involved in. Seeing Elf on the Shelf or kids eating toast is no more boring than the 500 duck selfies or the boob and bum out pose with a drink in hand photos. People, with and without kids, are actually quite dull and post all their inane shit on social media.

My family and friends like it. They comment on the pictures saying so. Those who don't like it can click on the mute button.

Yabvu

I could take a picture of the floor I sit on?

I’ll post whatever boring stuff I like thanks. I love looking back at the pictures of my DDs on this day in previous years using the memories bit on Facebook. Also, we have lots of family we rarely get to see or who haven’t met DD2 at all because of bloody covid so I share pictures.

Between being a mum and a teacher, I very rarely do anything that isn’t related to one of those things so I have nothing else to post. Plus, my children are beautiful and I look like a potato so know which people would rather see. We don’t do Elf on a Shelf because it’s a load of bollocks and don’t have time for another job that involves setting up and clearing up so my friends don’t have to endure that.

Just like a PP said, the mute button is your friend. When someone I work with was pregnant whilst I was desperately TTC DD2, I muted her to save myself from the heartache of daily bump updates and what she’d bought for her baby.

I'm with you. I don't get really get why people are so comfortable posting so much about their kids. It's boring to many and unfair on the kids.

Also hate the 30 pictures of one event, and the annoying phrasing "someone's finding her voice", "love these guys", "so lucky", "feeling loved". No-one talks like this in real life.

Plus, people who change their profile picture to a picture of their DC. I know it'll be an unpopular opinion but I just think "fet your own flippin identity, and stop muscling in on your kid's they're separate people in their own right". I'd hate it if my DM used a photo of me as her profile, so why would I use a pic of my DC?

The thing is, I don’t do much else start from work and spend time with my daughter. Boring but true! I suspect many other mums are the same.

I do try to break it up with cat photos and anything else I find interesting, like a book I’m reading, but it’s just the way life is at the moment.

By the way, is it just your mum friends who do this? What about their partners/ your dad friends? Are they boring too, or do they still get to do interesting hobbies and have days/ nights out? If that’s the case, I wonder who is looking after the kids while the dads are out having fun…

Sorry but I'd much rather see a picture of someone's kids than someone's lunch! Also, all my child-free friends just post photos of their pets...

On Twitter I rarely mention my children because that's not how I use it. I use Facebook just to keep in touch with distant friends and family so I post the odd photo of nice leisure times. Most of those will feature my children because most of my leisure time features my children!

I agree with the flipping Elf
I'm sure their children are suitably mesmerised by the cheeky little chap's " antics" , but the adult audience of Facebook are not .
I've got a child , I never post about him .
My friends and family get phone calls / texts with news of his important achievements ( or we see them irl)
I don't think I'd get much out of a thumbs up from John the butcher.

My friends and family get phone calls / texts with news of his important achievements ( or we see them irl)
I don't think I'd get much out of a thumbs up from John the butcher.

But that's an argument against putting anything at all on social media, not specifically posting about children?

I've got one friend on fb who never ever posts photos (of her children or anything else) but about twice a year she'll share a totally random minging recipe 🤷‍♀️

Ps sorry you're a bit low. FWIW I do have kids, but I get really bored with scrolling past picture after picture of some snotty brat looking totally underwhelmed by Christmas lights/plonked awkwardly in front of a Christmas tree/scowling at father Christmas etc etc 😏

Putting "lighthearted" on a post doesn't make it lighthearted when clearly it isn't and indeed you go on to post again saying the same thing.

Scroll past anything you don't want to see. It is up to other people what they wish to post on their own social media.