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Would you ask dd to not work in restaurant this weekend?

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thetinsoldier · 16/12/2021 18:42

Dd 18 has PT job in restaurant. Would I be U to ask dd to cancel her shifts Fri and Sat night? We are planning to see family in England over Xmas, 400 miles away, leaving Monday.

We have booked holiday cottage, Tesco order etc and I don't want to have to cancel if dd catches Covid!!

Help - wwyd?

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ImInStealthMode · 16/12/2021 19:30

@thetinsoldier

I wonder if you'd all be giving this advice if it was your family Xmas stake!!! 🙄
We're due to spend Christmas with DP's Mum. He's only seen her once in the last 3 years (at a funeral) and I've never met her.

It would be great to just 'cancel' work until the 24th in case we get covid, but we have a mortgage to pay, colleagues & clients relying on us and employers not to let down Hmm

YAB (wildly) U.

Dontdrinkcola · 16/12/2021 19:34

Very unfair of you to put her in that situation tbh.
She's an adult and it's her job. You're setting a terrible example to her of how to treat your employer. The chances are her restaurant will most likely not be very busy!

Mrsjayy · 16/12/2021 19:34

I definitely think the super market drivers should ask for shifts off so they can have a family Christmas!

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Stuffin · 16/12/2021 19:35

Do you work OP?

I take it you don't given your attitude.

Emmelina · 16/12/2021 19:36

@thetinsoldier

She is working over NY too. I'm fine with that as we don't have a holiday planned right after it.

She sees our POV, just doesn't want to let work down.

If she cancels her shifts the last weekend before Christmas, she likely won’t have a job to work on NY op.
77kidsandcounting · 16/12/2021 19:36

I havent read the whole thread, just down to the part where you said your family christmas is more important than her job 😂

What kind of parent are you!

TheGarbageManCan · 16/12/2021 19:37

Could she tell management that in the event of it being super quiet due to cancellations that she’s happy to be the one who loses the pay?

I’ve swapped my day shifts to night shifts (supermarket) as it’s quieter so I think less risk. But I have committed to the job so no way I’d can the shifts now and leave the team up shit creek

katieg03 · 16/12/2021 19:38

What if they Tesco employees all did the same, the cleaner for the air b and b did the same? You'd be scuppered. I get that you want to protect your family holiday. I couldn't see my family last year as my dad had cancer and we were only allowed to travel for one day and we live miles away. It's such a tough time for everyone, again

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thetinsoldier · 16/12/2021 19:39

@77kidsandcounting

I havent read the whole thread, just down to the part where you said your family christmas is more important than her job 😂

What kind of parent are you!

Then you'll have missed my post from 15 mins ago acknowledging that I have BU 🙄
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thetinsoldier · 16/12/2021 19:40

Yes, @katieg03, you're right! I get it.

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Stroopwaffle5000 · 16/12/2021 19:40

My OH works in the hospitality industry and has had an absolute nightmare trying to hire and retain staff this past year. Everywhere is extremely short staffed and struggling. This is setting a really bad example for your DD.

By your logic, everyone who has public facing jobs should cancel their shifts so that they don't ruin Christmas!! You sound a little unhinged!

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thetinsoldier · 16/12/2021 19:42

@Stuffin

Do you work OP?

I take it you don't given your attitude.

What an odd assumption. Yes, I run my own business, have done for 20 years. There's nothing wrong with my work ethic, ta.
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DirtyDancing · 16/12/2021 19:44

I'm going to be totally honest. Ready to be flamed.

I would OP. I've given my everything to jobs in the past. But post covid - family first.

Helpstopthepain · 16/12/2021 19:46

After reading this I’ve decided not to go to work because my Christmas is more important than my patients health. What would happen to my Waitrose order? Shock

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thetinsoldier · 16/12/2021 19:47

@Helpstopthepain - ok, thank you, I get it! Please see my post from about 20 mins ago...

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xxxGirlCrushxxx · 16/12/2021 19:47

what does your DH say op?

RightOnTheEdge · 16/12/2021 19:48

Manager should have thought of higher risk of staff having to isolate/test positive for Covid and should have hired more staff - not rocket science

Of course you are being unreasonable!
It would be a nightmare for the restaurant and the other staff.
Do you honestly think that restaurants can afford to hire extra staff and pay out extra wages just in case some piss taker decides to let them down?
You sound ridiculous.

What if all the Tesco drivers and pickers decide their family are more important than your shopping, what if whoever cleans or own the holiday cottage decide its not worth the risk and cancel on you at the last minute?
Everyone can't just decide not to do their jobs.

Onerulefor1 · 16/12/2021 19:48

@thetinsoldier

But when she agreed to work weeks ago, the situation with omicron wasn't anything like it is now. I think our family xmas is more important than her job... 🤔
Does dd think that one day is more important than her job? I can see your point of view op, but I think that it would be unreasonable for dd to cancel and let her manager down. You wouldn’t be telling her not to go to work if she was a teacher, or a nurse, just in case it ruined your plans (at least I hope not).

My dd also works in hospitality, but in her case it is her full time job and she is the manager of a very busy hotel. I know she would normally struggle if her staff let her down like this, however we are in Scotland and after Sturgeon’s recent speeches about not going out she has seen a huge number of cancellations for Christmas meals, so maybe your daughter’s employer will find this too and she won’t be needed at work.

Helpstopthepain · 16/12/2021 19:48

Saw it, read it, still think it’s a bonkers thought to have even gone through your mind. HTH…

Babyroobs · 16/12/2021 19:49

I guess she could ask. If they have had cancellations then they may need less staff, but if they need her to work then she should honour the shifts she has agreed to do.

Enzbear · 16/12/2021 19:50

Lol, yabu and a bit entitled.
I think I'll cancel my 7 clients tomorrow and Monday and lose £500 and probably the clients because I don't want to risk a sore throat at Christmas. And tell dh to do similar.
Nope.

ImInStealthMode · 16/12/2021 19:50

@thetinsoldier Do you have employees in your business OP?

FindingMeno · 16/12/2021 19:51

We're all working in our household up to and including Christmas Eve outside the home.
Someone has to if we want any services over Christmas.

northbacchus · 16/12/2021 19:52

@thetinsoldier

But when she agreed to work weeks ago, the situation with omicron wasn't anything like it is now. I think our family xmas is more important than her job... 🤔
Of course family Xmas isn’t more important than her job
mbosnz · 16/12/2021 19:53

I have an 18 year old working in hospo'.

I'm so proud of her integrity and work ethic.

We're lucky that we don't have to consider extended family, it's just our immediate family for Christmas Day.

But I only ask her to cancel shifts when they're to her detriment, not to ours.

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