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My MIL is actually evil

65 replies

SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 20:55

Huge back story with MIL - was abusive to DH as a child, uninterested in our children but obsessed with SILs, announced my pregnancy at 7 weeks are some examples.

Last contact was on my son's 1st birthday which she made all about her by crying about the mess her adult son had left her house in (fraudulently kept a council house tenancy for four years for her son to live in despite moving miles away with new partner). This was three years ago and we have barely spoken since.

Anyway in 2018 I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 27 years old and had a double mastectomy and reconstruction. Last night I changed my WhatsApp picture to a selfie which I hardly ever take, with my new boobs/cleavage on show.
Woke up to a WhatsApp message from MIL - "WOW you're ugly 🤣"

DH says to be the bigger person but I don't feel it this time.

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ContadoraExplorer · 08/12/2021 20:56

Block her, she really isn't worth it.

EllieSattler · 08/12/2021 20:57

Why does she have your WhatsApp? Delete and block. Replying "get fucked" beforehand optional.

Tomthumbsbigbum · 08/12/2021 20:57

I'd block her and ignore her forever more. What an absolute bitch.

ChaToilLeam · 08/12/2021 20:59

Just block her and be done! What a vile woman.

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 08/12/2021 20:59

Just reply - you’ll never know your grandchild.

Then block.

Comedycook · 08/12/2021 21:00

You all need to go NC...just cut her off. Seriously, she sounds evil. What does she bring to your lives that's positive?

Helpstopthepain · 08/12/2021 21:01

I’d reply ‘wow you’re a cunt 🤣’ and block from your life, not just WhatsApp.

I would tell your Dh to grow some balls and stand up for you as well.

Teaandcakeordeath83 · 08/12/2021 21:02

I don't get the whole "be the bigger person" thing. Fuck her and fuck that. Tell her what you think of the hideous toxic rat and then block her. Report her to the council and sit back enjoying the fact that karma can be a right arsehole.

I'm sorry you woke up to that. Some people are just utter scum.

Kshhuxnxk · 08/12/2021 21:02

Just block her. Be the better person and don't get into gutter responses, she really isn't worth it.

Cruiser123 · 08/12/2021 21:04

I'm sorry. She sounds like an unpleasant person.

To be honest, I would take the low road here and bite back and then block her.

Gretaburley · 08/12/2021 21:05

Your dh shouldn't use the bigger person excuse.
He needs to tell his mother what a nasty piece of work she is and then block her.

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SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 21:05

She has now blocked us both on whatsapp so we can't reply. She's a coward as well as a bitch.

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EmmasMum12 · 08/12/2021 21:07

DH needs to grow a pair pronto. He needs to deal with his mother, tell her you're all now NC and stand up for you

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SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 21:10

We are pretty much NC anyway, we got married three months ago and she wasn't invited. It's been three years since we last saw her. The only contact was DH sending a text when her partner passed away in the summer. That's why it was so unprovoked and out of the blue. Just so nasty.

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legalseagull · 08/12/2021 21:10

Report the bitch to the council and cut her off.

WisestIsShe · 08/12/2021 21:10

@Helpstopthepain

I’d reply ‘wow you’re a cunt 🤣’ and block from your life, not just WhatsApp.

I would tell your Dh to grow some balls and stand up for you as well.

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dollbaby868 · 08/12/2021 21:12

Omg? That's so horrible, what is wrong with some people?? Fml so sorry she said that to you OP

EmmasMum12 · 08/12/2021 21:12

You're NC but have her on your WhatsApp contacts??

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SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 21:15

Yeah she has my number, it's been the same since we met. We've never contacted via WhatsApp before though so she's obviously sought me out and spied.

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LostForIdeas · 08/12/2021 21:22

You need to block her yourself.
On all possible channels.

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SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 21:29

She's now blocked on WhatsApp, she already was on Facebook/Messenger. I don't have any other form of social media. I've blocked her number too so she can't call or text. Not that I think she'll try, this is the first time she's contacted me in three years and it was purely to tell me how ugly I am so she's got that off her chest.

I have sent a text though before blocking her number Blush

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Chloemol · 08/12/2021 21:29

Why didn’t you block her three years ago?

Just block her on everything now

Babysharkdoodoodood · 08/12/2021 21:30

@SummerBluez

She's now blocked on WhatsApp, she already was on Facebook/Messenger. I don't have any other form of social media. I've blocked her number too so she can't call or text. Not that I think she'll try, this is the first time she's contacted me in three years and it was purely to tell me how ugly I am so she's got that off her chest.

I have sent a text though before blocking her number Blush

What did the text say?

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SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 21:31

@Chloemol I didn't even know she had WhatsApp until today. she's obviously got my number saved so I showed up on her contacts list. I think she's probably just installed it and seen me. She's been blocked on FB and messenger since 2017.

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FenceSplinters · 08/12/2021 21:32

What a horrid woman she is! What did you send in your text? I hope it was equally horrible in retaliation.