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My MIL is actually evil

65 replies

SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 20:55

Huge back story with MIL - was abusive to DH as a child, uninterested in our children but obsessed with SILs, announced my pregnancy at 7 weeks are some examples.

Last contact was on my son's 1st birthday which she made all about her by crying about the mess her adult son had left her house in (fraudulently kept a council house tenancy for four years for her son to live in despite moving miles away with new partner). This was three years ago and we have barely spoken since.

Anyway in 2018 I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 27 years old and had a double mastectomy and reconstruction. Last night I changed my WhatsApp picture to a selfie which I hardly ever take, with my new boobs/cleavage on show.
Woke up to a WhatsApp message from MIL - "WOW you're ugly 🤣"

DH says to be the bigger person but I don't feel it this time.

OP posts:
Shamoo · 08/12/2021 21:33

Oh OP what a bitch. However, she’s so obsessed by you she’s checking out your WhatsApp picture when you’ve had no contact for three years. What a complete loser.

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SummerBluez · 08/12/2021 21:34

My text said "You're the ugly one inside and out. Our lives are so much happier without your poisonous presence. Do not contact either of us again."

OP posts:
Lalaland6 · 08/12/2021 21:39

Stupid cow.
Block. Delete and ignore.
Enjoy your new cleavage, wear whatever you want and be beautiful ❤️
You definitely do not need that toxic poison in your life.

NightOwl19 · 08/12/2021 21:45

@Helpstopthepain

I’d reply ‘wow you’re a cunt 🤣’ and block from your life, not just WhatsApp.

I would tell your Dh to grow some balls and stand up for you as well.

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WitchDancer · 08/12/2021 21:47

@SummerBluez

My text said "You're the ugly one inside and out. Our lives are so much happier without your poisonous presence. Do not contact either of us again."
That was an absolutely perfect response, well done!
Thinking2041 · 08/12/2021 21:57

Your text to her was perfect.

I gasped when I read your post. I can’t believe people like her actually exist..
I’m so glad you can go totally NC.
You clearly are a very strong person given the journey you have been on with your illness alone. Do not let her take away from your pride in taking that selfie and sharing with it.
I also feel so sorry for your partner. It’s horrendous to be subject to her vileness but imagine if that was your own mother? What an awful time he must have had of it. Poor man.

I hope she leaves you both alone.

mcmooberry · 08/12/2021 22:04

Great reply, you don't need to worry that you could have improved it, it was perfect. She sounds awful x

AbsolutelyFuckinFabulousDarlin · 08/12/2021 22:15

Eugh , she sounds vile , so glad you are protecting your children from her
People like her make me shudder

TractorAndHeadphones · 08/12/2021 22:30

well done OP for having a backbone

Timeisavirtue · 08/12/2021 22:34

My MIL told me to have an abortion because my partner (her son) was a waste of space and he will never love it. She also mentally abused DP when he was a child. She changed her tune when DS was born and absolutely adored him, she was like a different person. All the times she was nasty to me DP stuck by my side. It bothered him more than it bothered me, I’ve come across a lot of spiteful people in my life.

Icanflyhigh · 08/12/2021 22:40

You are so much more restrained than me. I think I'd have paid a visit, ripped her head off, smacked her with the soggy end and then asked who the ugly cunt was now!!!

Hold your head high, enjoy your new boobs and cleavage and bloody well enjoy yourself with DH - but tell him to man up a bit too!!

CovidMakesThingsHard · 08/12/2021 22:43

Well done for moving on and blocking her completely. I just don’t understand how these people exist in the world. Well done for the confidence in taking and sharing the selfie.

Derbee · 08/12/2021 22:56

Your text was perfect. Well done! I’d also report her to the council for good measure

Thanksagainand · 08/12/2021 23:01

What does she look like then?! 😄 what a cow

SpookyScarySkeletons · 08/12/2021 23:07

@SummerBluez

My text said "You're the ugly one inside and out. Our lives are so much happier without your poisonous presence. Do not contact either of us again."
Got my Pom poms out for you here!! Great response!

Bloody hell though she sounds vile.

SystemOverloaded · 08/12/2021 23:43

I'd have been very tempted to screenshot and post on social media to show everyone what a spiteful bitch she is, but the best response as done is to completely ignore and block. She wants a response. FIL used to do the same with us and we never once bit back which I know drove him round the bend as all he wanted was a scrap. It gave us the upper hand and made him look a total twat.

Newestname002 · 09/12/2021 05:37

I would tell your Dh to grow some balls and stand up for you as well.

Yep - why do you have to "be the better person" and have this evil witch in your life and life of your child? Absolutely block everywhere and let her son do any interactions with her - but draw your boundaries with him, if you need to, where she's concerned. 🌹

Newestname002 · 09/12/2021 05:41

Just saw your update - good for you @SummerBluez 🌹

SimpsonsXmasBoogie · 09/12/2021 06:01

Great reply

Fatarseflanagan09 · 09/12/2021 07:03

Report her to the council, she’s blocking someone who deserves a council house, text her and tell her she’s not getting access to her grandchild and threaten her with legal action if she attempts to.
Block her from everything and tell your husband to grow a pair, you’ve come through tough times and you don’t need this bitch on your back.

Austen33 · 09/12/2021 16:22

Your DH is right. She isn't worth engaging with. The only thing is to ignore her.
There is more to having a pair of balls than starting slanging matches. His mother knows his views. He didn't invite her to his wedding.

Roundeartheratchriatmas · 09/12/2021 16:28

I’d honestly respond “You’re a cunt there’s no cure for that”

Then block.

Paddingtonthebear · 09/12/2021 16:35

Wtf, your husband said to be the bigger person?! You ARE the bigger person! Putting up with this shit for years and for what? Her to abuse you and him to stand by and excuse it. Fuck that. I would tell him in no uncertain terms that there will be no contact between you and his mum from now on. She is nothing to you but the more concerning issue here is his attitude about it. No way would my husband stand for that.

TheCreamCaker · 09/12/2021 16:39

She's a bastard. Don't have any more to do with her. Block er from any chats/messages. My (late) MIL was a horrible bitch, but yours is worse.

itwasntaparty · 09/12/2021 16:42

Get to fuck and block. Jesus Christ.

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