She moved into our village about 10 years ago, we regularly saw each other on school runs/at supernarket etc, and within a year became close friends, meeting for coffee, evenings out and sometimes with husbands & kids altiogether, too!
I suppose I've noticed a change in her the last 3 years or so (before Lockdown, so I know that's not to blame).
She never contacts me unless i do first (unless it's about meeting up within a group), but if say, 3 of us are meeting up and the other one cancels, she'll then find an excuse and cancel too, she doesn't seem willing to meet just me, as we used to.
Seems to be a pattern - we'll bump into each other out, she'll say 'We must meet up - it's been ages, let me know when you're free)!' I text her, a day gets agreed on, only for her to cancel with an hour's notice with a lame excuse☹
We always did cards & presents for birthdays (not just the 2 of us but kids & dh's too), but in the last few years she hasn't even put a birthday card through our door (we live almost opposite each other)! I was confused when she stopped so still did cards for her & family for a time, but she expressed surprise when i handed her a card for her dd earlier this year - she said 'Oh I can't believe you remembered - I feel guilty as didn't do anything for your two this year'! She didn't, and even when I turned 50 at Easter she just put a 'Happy 50th Birthday' message on Facebook, no card through the door even. When she turned 50 the year before I bought a nice card & flowers! Tbh I'm happy to just do cards, not presents for friends/neighbours and I'm not materialistic, but feel she more or less ignored my 'special' birthday which confused me.
Since then I've just messaged on Facebook for her & her dh's birthdays, but it seems as though we're 'just' neighbours now, rather than the friends we were🤔
I bumped into her recently and from what she said it was clear she thought my dh still worked at the place he left 2 years ago!!😲 Yet she did know, when he changed jobs! It's as if she's drawn a line under the close friendship we had, as if it never happened☹ I know i haven't done anything wrong. I may not be extrovert enough for her i suppose. I've always been the quieter of the two - which was never a problem, our differences worked, but maybe she feels she knows me so well and sees me around anyway, she doesn't 'need' to spend actual time with me. She's clearly lost interest in my kids & dh too though, I just feel weird about the whole thing. Anybody else had this?
Dh says 'Oh people move on, it's natural, and you've got other friends'! True, but I miss her🤔