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Is it cheating or harmless fun?

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Yololollipop · 03/12/2021 23:32

Is it cheating if at a work team party, you are sitting next to a hot college, leaning onto them, brushing against them, put your arm around them, and steal 1 kiss? (Bearing in mind youve had a bit to drink). Or is it harmless fun?

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HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 03/12/2021 23:34

Yes of course it's cheating, would you want your partner to do that with another person who's not you?

NeedsCharging · 03/12/2021 23:34

Cheating.

curlyhairchick · 03/12/2021 23:35

In my opinion, that's not acceptable behaviour whether one can call that cheating or not

Keepitonthedownlow · 03/12/2021 23:35

Well it's a betrayal of trust

PurpleDaisies · 03/12/2021 23:36

Who has described the colleague as “hot”? Him or you?

I would count it as cheating and it’s obvious you do too.

RiverSkater · 03/12/2021 23:39

Kiss on lips or cheek?

Original poster
Yololollipop · 03/12/2021 23:39

But its a one off, and it made me feel excited, and it didnt mean anything and there was no sex or follow up.

Couldnt this just be considered flirting?

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OrlandointheWilderness · 03/12/2021 23:40

No that is cheating.

lilmishap · 03/12/2021 23:40

Would it be cheating if it was Colin/Carol from accounts with the 17 stone, balding, no teeth appearance?

Branleuse · 03/12/2021 23:40

I dont think its either. Its not proper cheating but it aint harmless fun. Its playing with fire

JustLyra · 03/12/2021 23:40

@Yololollipop

But its a one off, and it made me feel excited, and it didnt mean anything and there was no sex or follow up.

Couldnt this just be considered flirting?

Flirting doesn't involve kissing.

I wouldn't consider it 'just' flirting if my DH was physically touching and kissing a work colleague.

Original poster
Yololollipop · 03/12/2021 23:41

@RiverSkater

Kiss on lips or cheek?
Cheek
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JustLyra · 03/12/2021 23:41

Could also be harassment that gets you in bother at work if the colleague didn't want the touching and 'stealing' of a kiss.

NeedsCharging · 03/12/2021 23:42

But its a one off, and it made me feel excited, and it didnt mean anything and there was no sex or follow up

Justify it however you like but don't be surprised if your partner disagrees.
If it didn't mean anything why do it?

PurpleDaisies · 03/12/2021 23:42

It’s not very professional behaviour.

Flirting doesn’t involve kissing. That’s a step further.

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Yololollipop · 03/12/2021 23:42

@JustLyra

Could also be harassment that gets you in bother at work if the colleague didn't want the touching and 'stealing' of a kiss.
No they were also friendly.

Although we are work colleagues, it isnt an official work party as such.

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lilmishap · 03/12/2021 23:43

@Yololollipop

But its a one off, and it made me feel excited, and it didnt mean anything and there was no sex or follow up.

Couldnt this just be considered flirting?

I wanna fuck you. Nah sorry I just turned you on for funsies and feeling excited

Not flirting.
Not cheating
Dumpable though. Absolutely would be getting told to dump by everyone who knew them

dustandfluf · 03/12/2021 23:43

Of course it's cheating ! Do not try and tart it up as anything else and minimise this behaviour. It's not harmless fun at all.

I'd be devastated to find my husband had done this and would leave him. I'd encourage anyone else in this situation to as well.

PurpleDaisies · 03/12/2021 23:44

Reverse?

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Yololollipop · 03/12/2021 23:46

I need to add some background which might explain why i want to justify my actions....

I had a (semi-)arranged marriage, and have a child.

I never had a real choice in my early 20's (Unless I wanted to be disowned, kicked out, etc..). Am I so wrong for wanting some fun?

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lilmishap · 03/12/2021 23:47

@PurpleDaisies

Reverse?
Gotta be surely. Or drunk
Original poster
Yololollipop · 03/12/2021 23:47

Reverse?

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PurpleDaisies · 03/12/2021 23:47

Am I so wrong for wanting some fun?

Not at all.

Just leave your husband first.

lilmishap · 03/12/2021 23:48

@Yololollipop

I need to add some background which might explain why i want to justify my actions....

I had a (semi-)arranged marriage, and have a child.

I never had a real choice in my early 20's (Unless I wanted to be disowned, kicked out, etc..). Am I so wrong for wanting some fun?

None of this changes disrespecting your partner in a way that makes you a cunt.

You want fun then you leave. You don't leave someone at home looking after a kid while your out getting your jollies

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Yololollipop · 03/12/2021 23:49

@PurpleDaisies

Am I so wrong for wanting some fun?

Not at all.

Just leave your husband first.

Lose family home possibly, be ostracised by the asian community and parents, and i was bullied into marrying him in the 1st place (by my parents. He is actually fine/good).
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