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What do I do? (Miscarriage related)

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dontletthemugglesgetyoudownn · 22/11/2021 20:42

I found out I was pregnant last Monday, very unexpected and amazing. However I've had bleeding over the weekend so I went to epu and they scanned me today and said a miscarriage is imminent, cervix is open, no discernible baby and bleeding.

It's shit. My issue is. I started a new job on Friday. They said I need to have a d&c on Thursday which is fine because it's my day off but do I go in tomorrow which is my next shift and explain my situation then go home or just call in in the morning and explain why I'm not coming in.
Help!

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unicornsarereal72 · 22/11/2021 20:51

Phone in and tell them. See how you feel in a week and update them. I was signed off for two weeks after my procedure. Be kind to yourself and rest up. Work will wait a few weeks and I am sure they will be supportive.

dontletthemugglesgetyoudownn · 22/11/2021 21:03

Thank you

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dontletthemugglesgetyoudownn · 22/11/2021 22:24

Bump

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dontletthemugglesgetyoudownn · 23/11/2021 00:18

Does anyone else have any advice?

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SmellyOldOwls · 23/11/2021 00:27

Ring them and say you've unexpectedly been called into hospital for a minor procedure and what are your options for leave (if you don't want to take sickness)
I wouldn't go into too much detail at this early stage of the job.

Ilookedatthesea · 23/11/2021 07:19

Ring them - I've had 3 and I really did need time off certainly with two of them. I told work truthfully what was happening and they were incredibly supportive. And it goes down as pregnancy related sickness (in my work anyway) so didn't count towards days off etc. I hope you're ok, every loss is different so listen to your body and what you need. There is no normal here or right thing to do.

cherrypiepie · 23/11/2021 22:52

Same thing happened three days after my perm contract started from an agency job.

I emailed and told them I had a gynaecological problems requiring hospitalisation. The doctor wrote me a two week sick-note and put the same on it. I was off for 5 weeks as opted for medical management and had retain products.

The second time I had surgery and was back at work in a week (told them the real reason that time).

Use your judgement for what feels right for you.

Sorry it happening -it's really shit Thanks I have been there too many times

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