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Queen to miss Rememberance Day service

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KenAdams · 14/11/2021 09:22

As she has apparently sprained her back.

I do wish the Palace would be honest about her health (without giving details) rather than setting her up to attend events that they know she won't be at. It can't be good for her, they should just say she's out for a while, which at her age would be completely understandable.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-59280608

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HarrisonStickle · 14/11/2021 11:50

@SickAndTiredAgain

Charles looked distraught after visiting his father.

He has that same look on his face today, in fact they all do.

I thought Anne and Edward looked perfectly neutral - sombre for the occasion but certainly not distraught.

Anne's very stoic, though. Charles always seems a more emotional person.
DaphneduM · 14/11/2021 11:50

I agree Charles looked very upset, also Sophie. Camilla, William and Princess Anne looked serious, appropriately so for the occasion. I don't know if it was nerves, but watching it on Sky just before the 11 o'clock two minutes silence Kate smiled, very odd.

minimecantrollerskate · 14/11/2021 11:50

I think the Queen had previously said that there was no way she would miss the RS event, so I think she must be quite ill and I don't buy a sprained back either.

She has reached a fantastic age and had a long reign and I don't think this country will see anyone like her again in the future. Obviously Charles' reign will be limited due to his age now, he will start his job at a time when most people retire.

Rainbowheart1 · 14/11/2021 11:52

I do wonder if she has tried to be queen as long as she can to avoid passing it to her son because the blatant truth of the matter is that it’s a shit job that takes your soul.

PickupaPenguin8 · 14/11/2021 11:54

I can’t imagine at the time she promised to be Queen for her whole life ‘whether it be short or long’ she anticipated living to 95 plus. Young people have no idea of the possible ramifications of old age either.

PurpleFlower1983 · 14/11/2021 11:54

@ItsSnowJokes

I know someone who works for one of the major TV news outlets and they say that her obituary is being updated daily, they expect the news of her passing almost every day. Its to be expected really at 95, but will be a very sad loss to me. We have never known anyone else as our monarch.
Not all that many have now or they were children/young adults when she ascended. It will be a very sad day when she goes and a turbulent time for the country.
Rainbowsew · 14/11/2021 11:55

I wish they'd just said she wasn't attending, that is enough at her age. Whatever reason excuse they gave wouldn't stop speculation.

Itsjustrenee · 14/11/2021 11:56

[quote AutumnAlmanack]@JudgeRindersMinder - I agree, it will be a terrible shock for the country when she does go, even if some people pretend to be quite nonchalant about it. It will be Diana all over again X 10, I think.[/quote]
Can it ever be a shock when someone in their nineties dies.

DaphneduM · 14/11/2021 11:57

I think the Queen's passing will be the beginning of the end for the monarchy. I know from my young adult children, they are no longer seen as relevant in this day and age - whereas we were brought up to respect the Royals, and the Queen has done an amazing job, very dutiful indeed. I know some on this board don't like Meghan, but I think the Royals were very shortsighted in their treatment of her. During the short period of time she was a working royal her and Harry did some amazing stuff and were a formidable team. They're spread pretty thin now - William and Kate don't seem to have the work ethic like the Queen, Charles and Anne.

the80sweregreat · 14/11/2021 11:58

People do smile when they remember something or someone , it doesn't mean anything ! I smile when I remember my own late dad , a veteran of WW2, it's not at all disrespectful is it ? Kate is solemn at all other times. We also can remember the good times of people who are no longer around us.

MrsDThomas · 14/11/2021 11:58

I Don’t understand why they just can’t say that at her age, is it stopping these duties. Still HM but everyone understands. I wouldn’t expect anyone at 95 to continue to attend.

PickupaPenguin8 · 14/11/2021 11:58

I don’t think anyone is going to feel very enthused about Charles taking over either. He’s too old and not particularly popular. So there will be a lot of sadness and nothing to celebrate. At least the Queen was a young attractive woman with her life ahead of her and loads of energy. There’s going to be consternation about Camillas’s role too.

Tyredofallthis1 · 14/11/2021 12:01

I think that when the Queen goes, whether it's in five minutes, five years or whatever, there will be a feeling of missing an anchor. That at least one person with influence was steady, stoic and not so likely to flap. For seventy odd years we've had someone as a figurehead who didn't believe in being silly. Whether you agree with the royals or not, that's a reassuring feeling.

I think I saw a pic of her on a visit with a cane, accompanied by Princess Anne, a few months ago. I thought that Princess Anne looked strained then.

WeAreTheHeroes · 14/11/2021 12:02

Bloody hell the conspiracy theorists are out in force on this thread. I doubt there is anything the Queen's press office panics about - there are plans for all eventualities and suggesting the back problem is made up is crass.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 14/11/2021 12:03

I'm sad that this is the last female monarch I'll see in my lifetime.

Charles, William then George....

SickAndTiredAgain · 14/11/2021 12:05

@MrsDThomas

I Don’t understand why they just can’t say that at her age, is it stopping these duties. Still HM but everyone understands. I wouldn’t expect anyone at 95 to continue to attend.
They may be desperate to say that. Doesn’t mean she’ll let them. I doubt she’s being forced into anything she doesn’t want to do (except perhaps by her own sense of duty).
BalloonSlayer · 14/11/2021 12:06

I just googled "royals at cenotaph" and a picture came up of Sophie Wessex crying. But it was in 2016.

donquixotedelamancha · 14/11/2021 12:06

Bloody hell the conspiracy theorists are out in force on this thread.

If you go into settings there is a box you can tick so that lighthearted posts will be highlighted in a different colour. That will avoid this happening again.

RobinPenguins · 14/11/2021 12:06

I pulled my back coughing a couple of weeks ago and I’m in mid 30s so it’s entirely possible.

That said, it’s probably an excuse for something else. I hope she’s feeling as ok as a 95 year old recently-widowed woman can be. It’s going to be very disconcerting for a lot of people when she dies, I feel like she’s a calming presence. She had that reassuring effect on me when they wheeled her out on the tv at the beginning of the first lockdown last year when people were still scared and panicky about covid.

the80sweregreat · 14/11/2021 12:07

I understand her children feeling ' strained ' by but honestly she will have the best care , the best doctors and the best health care at the end of her life too, which is a lot more than many elderly people receive in an NHS hospital or a care home these days.
It'll be sad when she does die, but that's life and we are all born to die , at least she's had a long and mostly healthy life up to now and her every whim catered for too!
I can't get that upset about her children , they don't have the stresses many others do with elderly parents or have to deal with social services!

donquixotedelamancha · 14/11/2021 12:08

I'm sad that this is the last female monarch I'll see in my lifetime. Charles, William then George....

I don't think we can assume George's gender.

Lockheart · 14/11/2021 12:09

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

I'm sad that this is the last female monarch I'll see in my lifetime.

Charles, William then George....

I hadn't thought about it like this before but yes, that's a very good point and a sad one!

When all's said and done, she's a 95 year old woman. She won't be up to all her duties as normal, and with the best will in the world and with total respect, she is not likely to be around for a great deal longer. I don't think that should come as a shock to anyone, it is what it is and if we're lucky it will happen to us too.

Longdistance · 14/11/2021 12:09

If there is something up with the Queen’s health, they’re not going to announce it around Remembrance Sunday to detract from the main event.
Yes, I agree Charles looked very emotional and on the verge of tears. It was very different this year without the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh.

TravisFountain · 14/11/2021 12:13

A dynastic monarchy's strengths - established heirs - tend also to be its weaknesses. Heirs may be unsuitable, their families may be scandal-prone and harbour ambitions inconsistent with the current monarch's values.

I'm not saying the members of the House of Windsor are the Julio-Claudians exactly, but they are certainly a dynasty with issues.

When the Queen dies, those issues will erupt.

I also thought Charles nearly cried when he laid his first wreath - was that on behalf of his mother?

SickAndTiredAgain · 14/11/2021 12:14

@BalloonSlayer

I just googled "royals at cenotaph" and a picture came up of Sophie Wessex crying. But it was in 2016.
Exactly, they always look like that.

And as for Charles, even if the queen is ok, just her not being there will highlight to him how he might, in a couple of years, be doing this as king. Laying just one wreath, because he doesn’t need to lay one for the queen anymore. Plus his father died this year. Emotions running a bit high isn’t surprising.