Do you have any friends who are significantly younger than you?

[MsWalterMitty]

My husband has become friends with someone who is in their early 20s. We are in our mid 40s. She has just finished uni, renting a house with a house mate, single and looking for jobs.

DH and I have 2 kids, a house and well established careers.

Just mentioning this to point out that we are at different phases of our lives.

My husband met her through a hobby, so they haven't socialised out side of this. But there's arrangements for us all to get together for drinks/dinner/days out... basically socialising.

I've not met her yet, but she seems lovely, but part of me is thinking is this wierd? Or am I being stupid?

Thanks!

I have a friend who's 22 years older than me.We have kids who are 6 months apart in age.We met when I was 20&her 42

It's not weird;we have a shared interest;thé kids like she and your husband have a shared interest in a hobby.The fact he's attempting to include you in their friendship bodes well.If she gets on with your husband then she'll probably get on with you.Friendship doesn't really have an age gap limit.

not weird.
Through a hobby I have friends around 17 years younger, and older than my DM.

Yes, I have friends both much older and much younger, also met through a hobby. We do socialise together, it’s interesting to see how the concept of a house party/gathering, or a decent night out in town, is different for the 22 year old, me (late thirties) and the 55 year old!

Yup. I have a very wonderful friend who I'm the same age as his mother. That gave us all a bit of a shock! And I'm also friends with his best friend, who is even younger. Sigh. . .

I’m 33.

I have male friends who are aged between 30 and their late 50s.

I have female friends between 30 and 60.

I’ve been friends with many of these people since I was mid 20s, and met them in various places. Work. Hobbies. Friends of friends. Parents of sons friends. Friends of my ex.

Why is this weird?

@SpangoDweller

Yes, I have friends both much older and much younger, also met through a hobby. We do socialise together, it’s interesting to see how the concept of a house party/gathering, or a decent night out in town, is different for the 22 year old, me (late thirties) and the 55 year old!

This is exactly my worry. Will we be expecting different things from socialising.

I have a close friend in her mid 20s so younger than both my DD and also one in her 80s and older than my mum

A brilliant friend was nearly thirty years older than me. We met through nothing other than him living near me. Another is 22 years younger - people are people!

We have friends who are younger than us. DH is 60, I'm 58. Our friends are 42. We have been on holiday with them a few times. We are only a few years younger than their parents. It works well for us all.

I have friends who are old enough to be my mother instead! I get on well with older people and people my age.

Yes i am mid fifties and one of my closest friends who I speak to almost every day multiple times is 27. We were work colleagues. She does act older than her age though !

I'm mid 40s and have friends in their 70s and 80s. I don't have any younger friends though. I used to but I moved miles away and as they were not close friends I don't see them anymore.

I have a good friend who is 26 years older than me, we met at an evening course when I was 24 and have remained friends for the past almost 20 years. He is married with children who are around the same age as me, who I have met a few times over the years. Absolutely nothing untoward has ever gone on, we are just kindred spirits who enjoy each others company. He gets on well with my husband too.

Not younger, but most of my friends are 10/20/30 years older than me.

Here's a very sybical view just to put it out there...
It could be argued that its potentially weird because the older one is the man and the younger one is the woman. It makes the power difference even more uneven. If it was the other way around there may not be a power difference.

Anyway this boils down to trust. Do you trust him?

I'm late 20s but people I'm friends/friendly with are at least in their 30s, mainly early 40s and the person I'm closest to is in her early 50s.

I think if you've got things in common and you get on well, age doesn't matter at all.

Woops * cynical

I’m 30 and one of my close friends is 70! I met her at work

I also have several friends in their 50s again from work and a hobby

I remember a few years ago thinking it strange when my dad car shared for work with a girl my age - but they were just friends and worked together every day and actually it’s not weird at all 🙈

Thanks for the replies! It sounds like I'm making an issue out of nothing :)

@househuntinginthesouth

I'm late 20s but people I'm friends/friendly with are at least in their 30s, mainly early 40s and the person I'm closest to is in her early 50s.

I think if you've got things in common and you get on well, age doesn't matter at all.

Yeah, I do whole heartedly trust him.

I have lots of friends in their 20s and I’m in my 40s. I still feel as if I’m 25 (in my head). I don’t really socialise with my younger friends as I can’t keep up and always regret it the next day!

I have friends who are 15 to 30 years older but we are all female, and have met through hobbies. What is the shared hobby here?

Youngest good mate is 25 years younger. Oldest good mate is 20 years older.

Yes - through work, I’m friends with one lass who is 10 years younger than me, and two other women who are 30 years older than me. I have things in common with all of them, and we happily socialise outside of work.

@LucentBlade

Youngest good mate is 25 years younger. Oldest good mate is 20 years older.

Climbing. So they've only ever met up at the wall, which is sociable. I climb too, but have a few female friends to climb with so don't go to the club.