How does it make you feel if people cancel on you?

[Wisteriabloom]

I was due to have 3 friends round tonight (the 4 of us meet up every few months), but they've all cancelled🙁 It was nothing fancy, (sausage rolls, cheesecake, prosecco), but I'd shopped, baked, tidied, bought a nice winter Yankee candle to light and am feeling really let down now🤔

One canx yesterday (valid reason - family unexpectedly in the area), another canx just a few hours before I was expecting them - running out of time to pack for weekend away🤔, and the other one texted saying she'd had a full-on day at work and was too tired (hardly any notice at all), I'd set the table by then😠

Dh is trying to cheer me up by opening some wine and puttong on our farourite Box Set and I'm feeling guilty for being a grump! I'll try and cheer up, not fair on him otherwise!!

I love it because I’m an introvert .
The relief is immense.

My last comment was for meeting up for drinks.

….but if I was holding a party/get together (which is extremely rare anyway), and spent a lot of money, I’d be a bit annoyed.

It'snotjustcricket - I know what you mean! Having people cancel on a 'pop in for drinks' plan, is hugely different to cancelling on someone hosting with food & drinks involved! x

Yes, i totally get the 'relegate them to acquaintances' point, after all, it seems like they've relegated me!!

Turkishangora - So sorry to hear that, after you put on such a lovely evening🤔 WHY are people so thoughtless, and ill-mannered?! 😲

It’s rude, (unless it’s a genuine reason). Why agree in the first place.

Exactly Suzi!! i went on Group Chat the day before, and asked if they were still ok to come. This was when the one who had family coming, said she couldn't make it. The other two responded enthusiastically they'd be here and were looking forward to it!

So i shopped that evening, only for them to cancel the following afternoon! 😠 The one who said she was too tired after work gove me a cheery toot & wave from her car yesterday, i looked her way and nodded, but just couldn't bring myself to smile & wave back!

I wouldn't be friends with them, it's just not something that I tolerate. It's a lack of respect. To the planning and emotional energy that you've already gone through to get the evening planned. I just don't understand how people think this is ok in friendships.