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Have a feeling my date might let me down this weekend. WWYD?

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Lucia23 · 05/11/2021 15:39

Long story short: my friend and I were supposed to go to a concert to see our favourite band this in a couple of days. She now has covid, so I've offered the ticket to guy I've been seeing for nearly 2 months.

The band has now said everyone needs to show proof of vaccination, which I have as I had to organise it recently anyway for travel. I told him this/said it isn't as easy as he might think and he responded 'im double vaccinated so I'll have it somewhere. Will make sure I do!'.

I'm the planner mostly, he is more relaxed in general. But in this case I don't think he realises it isn't straight forward and the concert is in 2 days.

If he can't make it, I want to have the chance to ask another friend or sell the ticket. At the same time, I want to give him a chance to sort it. But if he lets me down on the day and I miss it, I'll be upset/it would affect me wanting to keep seeing him imo. How would you handle it? Should I be firm and basically tell him I want to know by tomorrow that he has it?

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Lucia23 · 06/11/2021 14:25

Meant to tag @mumof1or2 there woops

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mumof1or2 · 06/11/2021 14:30

@Lucia23

Meant to tag *@mumof1or2* there woops

Sorry, hadn't read the whole stream when I posted!

notacooldad · 06/11/2021 14:38

I have a friend that is going but seated elsewhere
That's fine. Why not have a drink pre gig with your friend.

I did go to the cinema on my own for first time ever last week...that was something. I just think I'd feel and look a bit sad I mean this in a nice way, other people at the gig (cinema theatre, swimming pool etc) are not interested in you. They are in their 'own zone bubble' and they will hardly register you. Go and do your own thing. Seriously once you've done it a few times you will find it liberating.
I'm not saying I go to every event by myself, of course I dont, but it will be a long cold day in hell before I miss something I want to see or do because my mates or husband cant make it.

but don't really want to miss it either! Go and have a great time!

OhRosalind · 06/11/2021 14:49

did go to the cinema on my own for first time ever last week...that was something. I just think I'd feel and look a bit sad...but don't really want to miss it either!

As someone who used to work in a cinema and a live music venue, it’s incredibly common for people to go to films/gigs on their own and nobody- staff or fellow concert/film goers - will bat an eyelid, honestly.

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Lucia23 · 06/11/2021 15:55

@OhRosalind

did go to the cinema on my own for first time ever last week...that was something. I just think I'd feel and look a bit sad...but don't really want to miss it either!

That's good to hear. I just would ideally like to go with someone else having done a few things alone lately, but I probably will go anyway.

I spoke to him and he is clueless. Says he has the vaccination paperwork, will that not be enough...er, no. I sent him a link to get the QR code & he says he will work it out...I also said I have a friend going and he sounded relieved that I have 'back up'. Ah well. It will all be done in a day or so!

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miltonj · 06/11/2021 17:02

I've literally done this at the door of a train station that required it. It's easy and I hate tech. No photo is required. And takes less than 5 mins. When I ordered my paper copy it took 5 days.

JustLyra · 06/11/2021 21:20

@miltonj

I've literally done this at the door of a train station that required it. It's easy and I hate tech. No photo is required. And takes less than 5 mins. When I ordered my paper copy it took 5 days.

The Scottish app needs photo ID

Dozer · 07/11/2021 10:27

Again, he is not ‘clueless’. He has the means and skills to check the entry requirements and establish whether he can meet them in time. He has chosen not to do this. Shows a lack of regard for your time and money.

XiCi · 07/11/2021 12:24

I spoke to him and he is clueless. Says he has the vaccination paperwork, will that not be enough...er, no. I sent him a link to get the QR code & he says he will work it out
But this has been going on for days and days though, and you knew he didn't know what he needed and you knew he thought the paperwork was enough. If I was going to a gig with someone whether it be DH, mate, sister, mum, niece and I told them they needed proof of vax and they said oh I've been double vaxxed ill find the papers somewhere and I knew that wasn't enough I'd just tell them straight up, no you need to do this I'll send you a link. Would have taken 30 seconds out of your time and saved all this stupid drama

GiantHaystacks2021 · 07/11/2021 13:10

He doesn't sound much interested.

notawittyname1954 · 07/11/2021 13:25

If he can't come go alone. i've been to gigs before on my own because no one else liked the band and its absolutely fine. Don't miss out completely because of it

notawittyname1954 · 07/11/2021 13:26

I also went to an event where someone didn't have the app and the card they gave showing double vaccinated was accepted as long as he has that it might be ok

BakedTattie · 07/11/2021 13:50

I didn’t need photo ID for the Scottish app. It just downloads your status and you show them that. I’ve been to concerts, theatres etc and just shown the screen that shows your vaccinated.

BakedTattie · 07/11/2021 13:51

Actually no, I didn’t download the app. I logged on through safari and downloaded the covid status thing. That’s all they look at. That could be a way for him to do it. He needs the dates of his vaccines or the the user number at the top of his appointment letter.

I’m in Scotland.

FlowerFlour · 07/11/2021 13:55

How can you still be attracted to him when he is so passive? You seem worried about offending him by inviting somebody else but he's not putting any effort in, despite knowing how important this gig is to you.

You've wasted a lot of energy stressing about him; it's too much for such a short relationship. Do you really want to date someone you have to micromanage to this extent? It's only been 8 weeks, you're not too invested yet.

TheOccupier · 07/11/2021 16:57

To the PP saying Ill come across as controlling - if I do, then so be it. I'd rather that than lose out on the experience and the very expensive tickets.

I said that but I didn't mean it to sound critical of you. I meant that he as a flaky nightmare would think that! I would feel exactly.the same as you and would be at least as annoyed, in fact if probably have told him where to go days ago...

Did you make it to the gig?

xksismybestletter · 07/11/2021 17:04

Did you go op?

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Lucia23 · 08/11/2021 00:38

@xksismybestletter

Did you go op?

Yes I/we did go and it was great. It would've been fine if I'd been by myself too, as most of my row didn't show up and was a good vantage point.

He ended up sorting it 2 hours before!! Have to say I did help with it...not sure how difficult it was tbh.

@FlowerFlour no I definitely don't want to have to micromanage. One to watch I think as I'd get tired of that fast.

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notacooldad · 08/11/2021 09:17

Who did you go to see OP
I'm dying to know!

Dozer · 08/11/2021 12:02

Oh that’s good that all was well!

Yes, would watch out for flakiness in general!

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 08/11/2021 16:45

Not the point of the thread but why would you have to miss it if he can't get it sorted. One of my great joys is going to stuff like this by myself. Don't have to worry if someone else is enjoying it, listen to convo from them, just get to sit and watch the film / music / play / chippendales etc.

Doesn't matter if anyone else notices you're by yourself or thinks your a bit sad or whatever, it's nothing to do with them.

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