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Have a feeling my date might let me down this weekend. WWYD?

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Lucia23 · 05/11/2021 15:39

Long story short: my friend and I were supposed to go to a concert to see our favourite band this in a couple of days. She now has covid, so I've offered the ticket to guy I've been seeing for nearly 2 months.

The band has now said everyone needs to show proof of vaccination, which I have as I had to organise it recently anyway for travel. I told him this/said it isn't as easy as he might think and he responded 'im double vaccinated so I'll have it somewhere. Will make sure I do!'.

I'm the planner mostly, he is more relaxed in general. But in this case I don't think he realises it isn't straight forward and the concert is in 2 days.

If he can't make it, I want to have the chance to ask another friend or sell the ticket. At the same time, I want to give him a chance to sort it. But if he lets me down on the day and I miss it, I'll be upset/it would affect me wanting to keep seeing him imo. How would you handle it? Should I be firm and basically tell him I want to know by tomorrow that he has it?

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Hemingwayscats · 05/11/2021 23:13

Don’t you just need to download the NHS app and it’s there? It’s really easy.

XiCi · 05/11/2021 23:15

What is there to sort? It takes about 40 seconds to open the NHS App. Also, I've been to a festival and 2 gigs, they all said they needed proof of vaccination but I wasn't asked to show it for any of them.

JustLyra · 05/11/2021 23:49

The app in Scotland is different to the one in England

XiCi · 06/11/2021 08:04

I actually can't believe you would rather lose the tickets than go on your own. You'll be sat there in a big venue watching a band, it's not like you'd be able to interact much with anyone through the gig anyway. Do you think everyone is going to be laughing and pointing saying oh my god I think someone came on their own Hmm

I feel sorry for the guy. You obviously asked him because you have noone else to go with and don't want to go on your own. You say it took yourself 11 days to get proof but you want him to magic it up overnight or it would affect me wanting to keep seeing him. Nice. It might affect him wanting to see you, being asked to go with you as an afterthought then nagged for a few days about getting a covid passport. It's very likely they won't even ask for it anyway ime

Oldraver · 06/11/2021 08:44

OP I didnt realise you couldn't screenshot in Scotland. I reckon someone else could take a photo then send it to you

DelphiniumBlue · 06/11/2021 08:48

This all sounds very complicated.
It takes minutes to do it on the App.
If you are worried, why don't you do it with him next time you see him?

TangledUp789 · 06/11/2021 10:16

It doesn’t take two minutes for everyone. I’m in England and I needed to upload photo ID and wait 12-ish hours to get it verified.

KilledByWitches · 06/11/2021 10:56

England.
I went to the theatre the other night and they required proof of vaccine. Three of us loaded the QR code via the NHS app immediately and were not required to provide any photo ID etc.

At the venue the QR codes were scanned and we went in. I did think at the time that this system could be open to abuse, I wasn't asked for ID to confirm my name matched my vaccine passport so could easily have screenshot one from a friend and used it.

I wonder why it asks some for photo ID and not others?

MerryMarigold · 06/11/2021 12:51

@TangledUp789

It doesn’t take two minutes for everyone. I’m in England and I needed to upload photo ID and wait 12-ish hours to get it verified.
You don't have to. There are 2 options. But the non photo ID option runs out quickly.
Sparklfairy · 06/11/2021 12:57

I needed ID (England) for the app but my DM didn't. I'm not sure why!

He's clearly just thinking he needs to find his card as proof of vaccination. Some venues do accept this, but you need to check specifically.

thewhatsit · 06/11/2021 13:12

Assuming you have a smart phone, why would you need a letter, not the App? I know the Scottish app is different from the English one, which is annoying, but they are both pretty similar I thought?
It did take me a few mins to set up the app first time and I had to record myself saying something but once I had it, that was that.

Also, DEFINITELY go on your own if he flakes. Honestly, who cares.. you really want to go and you shouldn’t miss out on something like that if you don’t have to.

Dozer · 06/11/2021 13:22

Agree with the PP saying phone him to establish whether he has the necessary evidence and, if not, when/how he plans to sort it in time.

If his plan doesn’t stack up would offer the ticket to someone else.

Did you pay for your friend’s ticket in the first instance? If not, think it was an error taking on the responsibility for selling the ticket from your friend.

It’s not ‘relaxed’ of him to not make suitable arrangements to do things he’s agreed to do, and when this affects others it’s not on.

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Lucia23 · 06/11/2021 14:00

@Dozer

Agree with the PP saying phone him to establish whether he has the necessary evidence and, if not, when/how he plans to sort it in time.

If his plan doesn’t stack up would offer the ticket to someone else.

Did you pay for your friend’s ticket in the first instance? If not, think it was an error taking on the responsibility for selling the ticket from your friend.

It’s not ‘relaxed’ of him to not make suitable arrangements to do things he’s agreed to do, and when this affects others it’s not on.

I'm pretty annoyed now folks!

I missed his call earlier and he left a message saying he doesn't have the photo id for the licence (the one he is apparently reapplying for) but he has a PCR test result and that he 'will' find the proof of vaccination.

Neither of these things are what has actually been requested. He then went on to ask when to meet etc. We will get refused entry so I will need to tell him no. I'm upset because I hoped he would sort it and because I'll need to tell him I'll need to give it to someone else.

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Pumpkinsonparade · 06/11/2021 14:03

Meet him. Let him look a dick..
Then dump him.

Pumpkinsonparade · 06/11/2021 14:03

Imo people like him who think rules don't apply to them need calling out..

JustLyra · 06/11/2021 14:03

@thewhatsit

Assuming you have a smart phone, why would you need a letter, not the App? I know the Scottish app is different from the English one, which is annoying, but they are both pretty similar I thought? It did take me a few mins to set up the app first time and I had to record myself saying something but once I had it, that was that.

Also, DEFINITELY go on your own if he flakes. Honestly, who cares.. you really want to go and you shouldn’t miss out on something like that if you don’t have to.

If you don’t have acceptable photo Id to get the app then you get the letter. You can’t do the Scottish app without the letter.
JustLyra · 06/11/2021 14:04

Not without the letter

You can’t do the Scottish one without photo ID

Dozer · 06/11/2021 14:05

Yes, his behaviour seems pretty annoying.

Would phone him to resolve it. If he can’t provide the evidence required for entry, you’re not at all U to decide to sell or give the ticket to someone else.

If you can’t find anyone, do go to the event alone anyway!

Dozer · 06/11/2021 14:06

IME people who are flakey like this choose to be, and quickly get their shit together when something is important to them.

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Lucia23 · 06/11/2021 14:09

@Dozer

Yes, his behaviour seems pretty annoying.

Would phone him to resolve it. If he can’t provide the evidence required for entry, you’re not at all U to decide to sell or give the ticket to someone else.

If you can’t find anyone, do go to the event alone anyway!

I'm going to call back but I feel really pissed off and don't want to end up in some kind of argument.

He's being very relaxed about it when I know they are being strict about the rules. We are no further forward than 24 hours ago.

I also really want to see him and feel essentially saying 'never mind I'll give it to someone else' and then we don't see each other could be the death knell this early on tbh.

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Dozer · 06/11/2021 14:14

He’s not being ‘relaxed’ he’s being flaky.

Ok so you’re quite into him.

So one option is to say no more about it, just turn up.

If, close to the time of the event, he realises he can’t sort it and has to pull out, or he turns up but doesn’t get admitted to the venue, if he’s decent, he will apologise and reimburse you for the cost of his ticket. And you just attend alone.

Notebooksarefabulous · 06/11/2021 14:17

Whatever happens............. dont miss the concert! Just go on your own and if you can/want to chat to people around you. Hopefully he will be there too but if not dont miss out. :)

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Lucia23 · 06/11/2021 14:19

@Notebooksarefabulous

Whatever happens............. dont miss the concert! Just go on your own and if you can/want to chat to people around you. Hopefully he will be there too but if not dont miss out. :)
I have a friend that is going but seated elsewhere.

I did go to the cinema on my own for first time ever last week...that was something. I just think I'd feel and look a bit sad...but don't really want to miss it either!

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mumof1or2 · 06/11/2021 14:22

@Lucia23

I mention photo id was needed for the app proof and he said nothing about that *@Tal45*. He just said he would have it somewhere because he is vaccinated. As though he thinks they have him proof at the time which isn't the case.

He's an adult so I don't really feel I should have to walk him through it

They DO give you proof at the time! You get a card which they stamp after each jab. You can either use that or the passport on the app.
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Lucia23 · 06/11/2021 14:24

Again - no this didn't happen in Scotland. We got nothing.

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