Birthday- whats reasonable

[CustardCreamsAndMintTea]

Its my birthday. I'm on my own with 4 kids who are too young to do anything to celebrate. I tried to make plans with friends, but all busy and can't commit to anything anytime soon. I know lots of people have to spend their birthdays like this, and had made my peace with it- people are busy.
But I'm bloody hurt today by all the "Happy Birthday, have a great day" messages, and even worse "what are you doing to celebrate?"
It feels humiliating to say "Eating a box of celebrations alone because everyone I know is too busy!"
I'm just posting because I feel sorry for myself. I need a good shake and I'll be back to myself in the morning.

I put this out here at 1430 this afternoon and by 2330 I still hadn't had a response. Just like my birthday invites. Is there something making me invisible? Do I come across rude of weird?

Happy birthday Op 🎉🎂

Happy birthday op!! Having 4 x dc is amazing!! I and 4 before I was 25.. Busy life but wonderful also!!
In years to come things will be easier and they can spoil you!!

Happy Birthday @CustardCreamsAndMintTea sorry you haven't had a great day I've been on off mn all day and it's the first time your post has appeared

Maybe try and arrange something for the weekend

Thanks. Small and all, but it made me feel visible. Thank you

You don’t come across as rude or weird at all, @CustardCreamsAndMintTea! Some posts just seem to get missed, I think it’s pretty random.

I just had a very alone birthday and it was grim. I’m just glad it’s over now.

I don’t know what the answer is. Wishing you a Happy birthday doesn’t seem helpful in the circumstances, but I totally get you.

Happy birthday OP. You don’t come across as rude or weird and you’re allowed to feel sorry for yourself, we all have this expectation of a good day on our birthday. Hopefully tomorrow will be better for you.

Happy birthday to you!

I find things need planned far in advance to work around childcare, friends diaries etc. Why not think ahead to next year and plan a spa trip or dinner with friends?

Even with just the kids you could have had a small tea party? X

Happy birthday @CustardCreamsAndMintTea!!! Sorry it has been shit.

Your friends sound very selfish!!! Do something at the weekend just for you maybe (without kids if possible?).

🍺🍷🍾🥃🎂🍰🍔🍟🌮🍕🍷🍷🍷😁xx

Happy Birthday op it's mine too.
I don't normally do anything, this year I stuck an open invite on Facebook "I'll be at x pub on Saturday from 7pm why not drop in"
It turned out to be a lovely evening and several people I wouldn't have thought of contacting 1-1 came and we had a great catch up.
Would something like that work?
If you can't get a sitter you could do an open house invite?
People obviously care enough to say Happy Birthday 🎈

@Jumpingintochristmas you are right. Better to be proactive. I'm looking to next year

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

It's tough when this happens. I have it at Christmas and bdays. I'm rooting for you with a birthday cheer !

Ps, no you’re not weird in the slightest!!!

You’re just pissed off - your birthday was shite, very normal to feel that way!!

Happy birthday OP xx

@Rainbowunicorn76 Happy Birthday! Open invite was a cool idea. Impressed

Happy birthday OP. It's shite when people are too busy. It will get better as your kids get older, why don't you join a few clubs or something to try and meet new people.
I've put posts up before too that no one answers. I think some posts just get lost at times and it's nothing personal.

Wishing you many happy returns. It's not personal, sometimes people are just shitty/self-centered. I have had the same. It's nothing to do with you, I promise 🌹

Happy birthday
Sorry it hasn't been the best of days.

@CustardCreamsAndMintTea totally do what @Rainbowunicorn76 said! Why wait till next year? Do it for weekend if possible

@Rainbowunicorn76 @Workinghardeveryday trendsetting I would not have the courage this year. Id end up alone in a bar, but its a great idea.

Happy birthday!! Sorry it wasn’t as you’d have wanted but hope the chocolates made it a little special for you xx