What makes you sad every time you think about it ?

[Imaybeacat]

There’s been a lot of sharing story threads so i’d like to start one - to start such a sad one
What story or fact about somebody/something etc makes you sad whenever it crosses your mind ?
For me it’s a late singer named Tiny Tim… I watched a video about him a few days ago and it’s been bloody depressing me . Whenever he pops into my head I have to go take a break and do something distracting!! Poor guy.
Need to feel better. Am I alone in this ?

A family member of mine helped dig out bodies at aberfan. Weird coincidence, he died on the anniversary of it.

[quote RicherThanYew]@Duckypoohs I can't speak for others but i don't want people to forget Rebecca.[/quote]
Do understand that people who actually deal with this need to remember and learn from mistakes. Randomers what's the point apart from making your own life a little worse?

@LetsGoFlyAKiteee

Aberfan..just the whole tragedy. Watched a documentary and the guilt of the mums whose children didn't want to go to school that day but were sent in.. gahhh.

Bradford fire..the man who lost his elderly father. He tried to get help for him but time he found someone it was too late and the stand was gone up..and a man who couldn't find his grandma

Aberfan is what made me choose my profession, why I do what I do.

When my husband of 15nyears told me that not only sid he not love me, but that he'd never loved me - and remembering that feeling when my beautiful son, who has some social difficulties, told me that his (first ever) best friend told him "I'm not your friend. I never was. I was only pretending" and just knowing that he would have felt like I felt and hurting for him.

I was so happy he'd got to the point where he could develop the friendships he so desperately wanted and that he had a best friend. Luckily he's moved on and has a new, much better friend now, but remembering his wee face when he told me that

I don’t know what I was thinking opening this thread. I am generally a happy person, but there are so many things in this world that make me desperately sad.

Any stories on the news about children that have been killed/died through neglect. There’s a court case going on at the moment about a 6 year old and every time I open the Daily Fail (strictly for the sidebar of shame) there’s more horrible details about what the dad and his girlfriend did to the poor boy before he died. It made me cry today that that little boy had no joy or love in his life. The story of the 3 year old whose dad squashed him behind a car seat a few years ago haunts me too for the same reasons.

Also my heart breaks for people that are lonely, particularly elderly people who spend all their time alone with little to no human interaction.

And any sad stories involving animals. It’s disgusting how some humans treat animals. But also stories like the baby elephant one above, which will now keep popping into my mind and are the reason I can’t watch animal documentaries.

In general I think I just can’t bear the thought of any vulnerable person or animal feeling alone or afraid - it makes my heart hurt.

Star Hobson😢

Oh, I’m on a roll now.

Any of those stories about children not having friends and nobody coming to their birthday parties. That always upsets me.

@Duckypoohs the killer of Rebecca showed signs of being troubled before he committed the crime. If we acknowledge that the things he did were signals or warnings then each individual in society can perhaps be more alert about who they let into their lives, perhaps we can prevent the same thing happening again. It's a small chance but some chance is better than none.

@AlbertBridge

Yue Yue. 😢

I was living in China when Yue Yue died, and I cried for days over it. That poor little girl.

There are so many memories not just of my own life but the lives and experiences of others that make me so sad it hurts my heart.

I do recall watching something about the Hillsborough disaster and being really affected by it. The agony of waving your relative goodbye as they head off to watch the match excitedly and for them never to return.

As someone else has mentioned- the poppy worthington case, not so much sad more like pure rage that the vermin who did that is still a free man breathing our air!

I also get really sad when I see aged actors/sportsmen/musicians. Knowing they once entertained so many and that they have lost that ability as age creeps in.

So many tbh. I feel everything too deeply

I also cry at cars letting ambulances by and cried at a youtube video of liverpool fans singing you'll never walk alone

Sorry if my message came across as twattish, but at one time I used to love disturbing films, true crime and worse on the Internet until I read something that described it as emotional self harm. That really resonated, your tears and emotions make zero difference. You are just making yourself unhappy. I give a swerve to anything about dead women and kids now. There's a reason it's mostly women interested in true crime and serial killers.

What is that reason?

[quote RicherThanYew]@Duckypoohs the killer of Rebecca showed signs of being troubled before he committed the crime. If we acknowledge that the things he did were signals or warnings then each individual in society can perhaps be more alert about who they let into their lives, perhaps we can prevent the same thing happening again. It's a small chance but some chance is better than none.[/quote]
I agree, women watch this stuff as to gain clues and hints about aberrant behaviour. It doesn't work though, these psychos are adept at manipulation. It's so hard to recognise these signs in real life.

Similar to PPs - any child abuse cases make me break inside, it's the innocence and sheer unfairness of it all. Poverty hurts me too- especially not knowing who needs help or how to help those that I know of.

Specifically Lockerbie. My DF was one of the officers on the scene called from Glasgow. I'll never forget him telling me years later of finding Christmas presents miles away half blown up, and that those hit him harder than seeing bodies covered on stretchers.

James Bulger
Victoria Climbié
Poppi Worthington
Arthur Labinjo Hughes
Riley Siswick
Star Hobson
Gabriel Fernandez
Asiah Kudi

So many more...so many children murdered and neglected and unloved. I remember reading about Asiah when I was breastfeeding my DD in the middle of the night and just tears streaming and silent sobbing. Tears now really when I think about any of those children and the suffering they've endured. Sometimes I'll be having a normal day and do something with my DD and just suddenly be struck by the sheer cruelty and evil those children experienced in their tiny innocent lives. My mouth will go dry and everything seems bleak. The fear they must have felt, the desperation they had to be cared for and loved. I only believe in heaven in the hopes that there is somewhere for these children to have peace and love, otherwise I'm not sure on the concept.

Baby P. That poor little boy. What trauma. And yes similarly Victoria C & James B.

@Duckypoohs I wont pretend to know why mostly women watch or read about true crime. I dont seek out true crime for entertainment but if i come across news reports of murders of vulnerable people (women and girls for example) I feel that i should find out why it happened so i can learn from it and hopefully avoid a sinilar outcome but I had an abusive and neglectful start in life and im paranoid because of that. I hate hate hate the way that true crime cases leave me feeling, it really is like self harm.

@BlameItOnTheBlackStar

I saw a documentary about 15 years ago where a herd of elephants shunned an orphaned baby, and it followed the herd around desperate for food until it passed away.

I broke my heart over it, I cried so much I couldn't eat or anything, DH was . But that wee baby was just so, so sad.

I saw this too, I was howling for days. Hideous.

I think I would agree with Aberfan, I was thinking about that just a few days ago. As tragedies goes, it was really up there.

And Louisa Gould - she sheltered a Russian POW on Jersey during WW2 and was denounced by a neighbour and sent to Ravensbrueck. She was murdered there. She had also lost her son in the war already. Just one of many such stories but one I've remembered.

Victoria Wood dying !

@Duckypoohs Since the death of poor Sarah Everard I am fully inclined to agree that despite the best efforts of many people to protect themselves, the asshole murderer/abusers are good at subverting our suspicions.

Moving my fosterlings on, every time one moves on my heart breaks but it's also an incredibly joyous time.

Reading that Dantdm has depression. The guy can do no wrong in my eyes, my boys love him and he's so kid appropriate. He's having a break from uploading at the moment and he's getting a lot of shit online, people saying he's dead etc and it makes me really sad. I really hope he's OK!

Keith Bennett’s mother never getting his body back, and going to her grave never finding him. I hope that one day in the future they will be reunited
In fact, any mother going to their grave not knowing what happened to their child is heartbreaking.

Jamie Bulger, so sad. My DH worked with a retired police officer from that case. All he would say was that the public would never know the true extent as to what that poor child had suffered.
They should both have been hung.