What made your childhood good?

[BiLuminous]

Like others, I constantly worry Im giving my children shit childhoods or messing them up. So many people seem to resent their parents. Im estranged as I put myself into care as a teen. I want to have a healthy family and a good upbringing for them, but feel Im carrying on some of the cycles as I divorced their dad a few years ago when they were very young.

If you had a good childhood, why do you think that was? I know theirs is very different to mine in so many ways but I want to be better.

I remember as a young child feeling really safe in our home. We had really close extended family which was lovely. Our education was always considered very important, and they were strict about some things (no smoking, underage drinking, no nightclubs underage) that I resented at the time, but when I look back at friends who I thought had brilliant parents because they allowed them to smoke or bought them drink, I think so differently now.

My dps split up when I was 6, and weirdly what MN considers very healthy boundaries actually was the worst part of my childhood and I'm still getting counselling for.