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What is the worst thing that happened at your teenagers party?

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NotRainingToday · 25/10/2021 21:56

My daughter is pestering big time to host a party. She is 18. I am determined not to, for lots of obvious reasons.....
What is the worst thing that happened at your teenagers parties? I need ammunition.

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MazzleDazzle · 26/10/2021 10:32

My DH had a party as a teen, long before I met him. Someone threw a tin of beer into the tropical fish tank! He came downstairs the next morning and every single one was floating on the top, dead.

Angrymum22 · 26/10/2021 10:36

My DS spent most of the evening at a recent party he attended holding his girlfriend’s hair while she was sick. The hosts mum thought he was lovely. I gave him a hair toggle to take with him to the next party,
He has been to a lot of parties over the summer. There is a lot of alcohol, some drugs and most of them smoke but he runs with a pretty wealthy crowd so the host parents have big houses often with dedicated party rooms/barns.
We have a small house so no room for parties😉
They don’t advertise the party but share guest list via WhatsApp groups. Any extras have to be added. Host parents usually insist on list, although most of them have known the kids since they were at primary school so also know the parents and have their phone numbers. They do get up to some antics but on the whole no major incidents. Since most live rurally parents generally drop them off and pick them up. It also means that they don’t have neighbours to upset. I

notacooldad · 26/10/2021 10:42

Absolutely nothing.
Older teen( 18)had a party when we were away the other year and asked if he could have friends round for a small party I agreed. We got back early next morning to find a few bottles in recycling. They hadn't fully tidied up because cheese and buscuits were left out and there was a couple cups of tea that hadn't been put in the dishwasher!
I asked the neighbours if there had been any noise and sorry if they were disturbed and they looked puzzled and asked when!

Parties were a bit more livelier when I was young!!!
I had to ask him if he invited the vicar and his housekeeper round. He said 10 people came ( 4 couples including him and two lads I've known since nursery) They decided to watch the boxing match on telly!

Angrymum22 · 26/10/2021 10:42

Sorry posted too soon.
I think anything can happen but if you know the teenagers and make sure you pin your DD to a list you may have more control. If you DD is a regular party goer then they usually have a “group “ of regular attenders. If she isn’t then you may have more problems. DS’s group tend to have a fair bit of respect and self police.

Vinotinto78 · 26/10/2021 10:46

After witnessing our poor neighbours mopping their living room ceiling after their DS had a party, I’ve decided our kids won’t be hosting any. Police were called out when hoards of kids descended on the street. We’re pretty relaxed about most stuff, but I draw the line at unsupervised house parties. Despite attending a fair few myself in days of yore..

languagelover96 · 26/10/2021 10:56

My sister turned 18 recently. Nothing really bad happened but somebody did knock over a glass of whisky onto the grass.

SpiderinaWingMirror · 26/10/2021 10:58

Do not do it.
Thats the only advice I have. There are good reasons why communal halls often no longer allow 18th Birthday parties.
Save your money and fund a weekend trip to a city.

BearSoFair · 26/10/2021 11:20

God we've been lucky with DS1, some sticky floors and two sprained ankles (a competition to see who could jump down the most stairs apparently) are the worst we've had!

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 26/10/2021 11:25

DS2 had his 18th party on the day of the Euro Final with a dozen mates over for bbq & drinks and the worst thing that happened was that England lost.
😭😭😭

They got in the hot tub after a game, then went out to meet up more friends.
When I dropped them off one of the girls I'd never met before was a bit tipsy; she ran to me, gave me a hug and said "I know who you are, you are so lovely and I love you!" 🤣

They came back at around 2am and I took everyone home. Some got a bit drunk, but nothing earth-shattering.
Honestly, I'd let them have a party at ours without us being present.
They are all such lovely, friendly, respectful people (they tidied up their mess and offered to take the bins out!) I'd trust them completely.
I guess it helps that we know some of them quite well, we know their parents, where they live so they wouldn't dare to be destructive.

girlmama86 · 26/10/2021 11:25

Attended enough house parties in my teens to know never to let DD host one 😂

The worst one I attended was some random boy I never knew, he was only meant to be having a small gathering with a few mates and it ended up being 60-70 random teens that turned up, friends of friends of friends.
Someone flooded the upstairs toilet and it came through the ceiling downstairs, multiple people were having sex in the rooms upstairs, someone dropped a bottle of irn bru in the white livingroom and it exploded absolutely everywhere and a girl I knew was that drunk she was sick all over the bedroom floor then just got up and carried on with her night leaving it there.
The boys mum was supposed to be away for the weekend but must have been called by a neighbor, she turned up in the early hours and called the police.

Pinkginlover · 26/10/2021 11:26

We allowed our DS a few friends round when he turned 18.We knew them all either from school or living within a few doors of us.DD and her friend who were a few yrs older(and very sensible)were there to supervise.Instructions to friends were not to bring alcohol as we would provide it,and upstairs was out of bounds.Despite this,someone brought a can of Guinness,and yes it got spilled on our beige lounge carpet.DD and friend thankfully managed to get most of the stain out and I tackled it too.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 26/10/2021 11:36

I wonder if Covid lockdowns and restrictions altered teenagers view points: DS3's friends were so happy to be able to have a party here in June (the first proper get together since the previous August!) that I probably could've made them clean the windows, wash the cars and mow the lawn 🤣
Any rules I threw at them they happily accepted and complied with.
It felt like they were thinking "yes, we'll do anything just please let us sit around the fire and chat for a few hours!"

They definitely appreciated what they were finally able to do way more than I ever did. It was interesting to see.

TaraR2020 · 26/10/2021 11:49

I think you can just say a firm no and say its not happening, subject closed. She's 18 so can do what she wants elsewhere.

Our teen house parties seem pretty tame by what I'm reading here!

VladmirsPoutine · 26/10/2021 12:00

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba Grin My nephews and their friends were much the same!! I could have probably wrangled them into cleaning the entire house so grateful they were to just be together watching random stuff and chatting!!

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 26/10/2021 12:10

@VladmirsPoutine

🤣
tbh when DS3 told me his friends were arguing about which one of them I love the best I knew I'd never have any trouble from them.
I honestly love them all. They are happy to play games with my youngest 2 and the girls encourage DD (9) spending a bit of sisterly time with them (she is my only daughter, we have 6 sons), though I always make sure she leaves them be after a while!

They are coming on Thursday for another sleepover and they asked that I make Bolognese again. They are all my favourites!!

3teens2cats · 26/10/2021 12:23

Someone vomited over the whole family's toothbrushes. Easy to rectify but utterly gross

VladmirsPoutine · 26/10/2021 12:25

Zing Your household sounds so wholesome! Grin

2bazookas · 26/10/2021 12:32

This was DS1' 18th at our remote rural cottage. We had gone away for the weekend ; he and his friends were lovely and pretty responsible, so no worries.

One of hois mates arrived at the party very drunk :-(( and immediately fell over. Onto an antique chair I had restored and re-upholstered.. He was a 6ft rugger player so the chair broke. DS spent the rest of his party worried sick what further damage might be done to our property so didn't enjoy it.

When we arrived home the place was not just absolutely spotless. pristine and in perfect order, I could smell all the tiled floors had been washed (most of the house, open plan) This aroused my suspicions.Outside the back door were sacks and sacks (all neatly tied up) of empty bottles and cans. Far more alcohol consumed than we would have expected or wished.

DS apologised for the chair and said he would help me fix it. (well within my capabilities). I replied, no, drunk X who broke it is going to pay for it to be professionally restored. DS then confessed that the entire gang , very hungover, spent the whole of the next day cleaning up to pacify dragon on her return. They meant to take the empties away but forgot. Poor kid, he was so crestfallen and he'd done his best. He then took the empties to the bottle bank.

I got the chair repaired , gave DS the bill and he passed it to friend.
Weeks passed and friend did not pay up. So, I wrote a polite letter to his parents asking for payment for the repair of damage to my property done by their drunken son. They immediately paid up and apologised. Their boy told DS they had given him hell , but he still never bothered to apologise to us and DS never invited him to our house again.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 26/10/2021 12:36

@VladmirsPoutine

Zing Your household sounds so wholesome! Grin
Awww, thank you!
2bazookas · 26/10/2021 12:36

I gave him a hair toggle to take with him to the next party,

Still cracking up.

You have raised a lovely gentleman, well done .

StringsnThings · 26/10/2021 12:39

I feel like if you host a teen party then you should get rid of antique chairs.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 26/10/2021 12:45

@StringsnThings

I feel like if you host a teen party then you should get rid of antique chairs.
🤣 quite!
LucentBlade · 26/10/2021 12:49

We always hosted but have a big kitchen diner with conservatory attached so the parties were in those rooms. I removed a few obvious breakables and no carpet to worry about. Have had three incidences of vomiting teens at three different parties. One Girl seemed quite unwell so I drove her home.

After the parties DS and the mates that stayed over always cleared up. After the A level results party which had 20 kids at it I had to step over a couple wrapped up in each other’s arms fast asleep on the kitchen floor to get to the kettle. I think about ten of them stayed over. Ds took a photo of the empty bottles and cans the next day all collected on the breakfast bar. It was a ridiculous amount. DS was really popular at school, I think having parents who were ok with an open house policy helped. Both mine and DH parents were super strict.

Nothing dreadful happened. Last party was New Years Eve 2019. We had a lot of DS mates here as well. I really miss hosting big parties.

Peridot1 · 26/10/2021 13:12

DS’s school,after prom party on someone’s farm. DS wasn’t there. A few decided to make and bring brownies. Hash brownies. A few of them ate too many. One guy discovered a girl out cold and he panicked and called an ambulance. She ended up in A&E. Where both her parents worked.

And then the family dog found the brownies and ate a couple and ended up at the vet.

When my parents went away once my then boyfriend and I hosted a dinner party! Six of us. We even cleaned up. Very sedate,

Cherrysoup · 26/10/2021 13:22

Someone was stabbed at my brother’s not so secret party. I think I was 13, he was 15. Very poor idea.

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