What is the worst thing that happened at your teenagers party?

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My daughter is pestering big time to host a party. She is 18. I am determined not to, for lots of obvious reasons.....
What is the worst thing that happened at your teenagers parties? I need ammunition.

I have 2 DS both late teens. They have both had parties without us here and its been fine. Their attitude is that it's their house too so why would they trash it or why would they let their mates trash it. I honestly don't understand how so many people have had bad experiences.

We've had a few parties, and no real damage apart from a chipped kitchen worktop. The mess is always horrible, but they clean it up. It's always loud, but it's just one night. And there is always some vomiting even when they're 18.

But the first one my dd1 had (where I made the mistake of going out but leaving an au pair in charge) had so many vomiting girls, plus a gang of boys from a nearby school arriving with knives, the police coming and a huge number of complaints from the neighbours (from several streets away). All the paralytic girls were from a private school nearby - they were in a horrendous state.

Apparantly that party went down in the records as a legend. I banned parties after that.

But I didn't learn my lesson because I agreed to have one for one for dd2 which had a vomiting girl on the floor (vodka). I had to call her dad. They were only about 15 I think.

The next one for dd3 had me staying in all the time, checking the so-called water bottles (vodka). No vomiting I think. Just loud.

dd2 and 3 had some gatherings this summer in the garden mostly to celebrate end of A levels and gcses. I got accosted in the street by a random woman. There's a whats App group in the neighbours which I'm not a member of, but where my kids and their gatherings seem to be a subject of discussion.

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Waking up in a dystopian nightmare…then I realised it was Brexit reality…

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Finding various pools of vomit in the garden.

My Ds went to a party last Friday. They've all got covid now.

your home will be toast

Those of us on drugs (acid) ended up being responsible for the drunks - including arranging an ambulance.

The vicar’s 15 year old daughter left pregnant.

We allowed our teens parties, but we remain in the house. Occasionally we make an appearance and fish a drunk teen from our pond, or call a kid’s parents if very drunk/passed out

We are both in education and feel it’s our responsibility to “police” a bit. We keep out of sight for 95% of it, but DH can use his scary teacher voice if needed

Basically they are free to have fun but not to harm themselves or others as we owe it to their parents to look after them

One awful party I went to about 30 years ago - the house was basically vandalised. Loads of stuff smashed, food thrown around etc. I remember my friend's Mum arriving home and collapsing, screaming on the front lawn when she saw. (I didn't participate in the destruction btw)

A different friend had a party which passed without mishap - except for the mysterious smell which hung around for weeks. It was eventually tracked down to a cider soaked cheese roll which had been stuffed in a vase in the living room!

I remember one a friend had age 15 when her mum had gone away and left her in the house alone for a few days. This was pre social media and mobile phones - am even now wondering how on earth we got word around. Loads of people turned up. House absolutely trashed. The usual - people having sex, alcohol, drugs, vomit. There is just no way I would let teenagers ruin my house. And they will! It’s all a laugh at that age.

We nicked a for sale sign from another house and put it up in the driveway for when the parents got back from holiday.

Oh, and I got a bit drunk.

None of the parties I went to were this bad!

There were the vomitters, and messy but not many actual breakages or police getting called.

People who say they didn't know, surely you knew leaving a teen home alone while you go away means party?

A neighbour's teen organised a party when his Mum and partner went in holiday. Unfortunately someone posted details on social media and many more people than he anticipated turned up - lots of whom he didn't know. Needless to say the police were called to sort out the inevitable chaos.
I always reminds me of the old yellow pages advert which clearly shows the fallout of damage to your property caused by teen/student parties. (French polisher anyone?)

My friend fell up the stairs and headbutted the wall. Broke her nose, took a big dent out of the plasterboard and got blood everywhere it was quite spectacular.
I spent most teen parties semi passed out and vomiting in the garden. It was a good look.
Our friend used to hold them semi regularly (with parents in attendance). How the police never get called I have no idea. The neighbours must have hated us.

DD’s friends think we’re cool chill parents (we’re really not) and have asked her if they can have a party here. I’ve told her we might be chill sometimes but we’re not stupid. No parties

The parents of a friend of my son have the right idea. They have a summerhouse kitted out for teenage shenanigans.

My parents went on a holiday of a lifetime when I was 16. They spent three weeks in the US.
I spent three weeks in a permanent state of inebriation.

So on balance, it sounds like a bit of a 'no party' then?

I went to a party as a teen where they were doing drugs on the car in the garage, the bathroom sink was pulled from the wall, much drinking and vomiting and that was a tame one.

Someone I used to work with, her teen had a party and one of the "guests" cased the house, came back the next day and burgled it.

We used to regularly have them. Parents always in attendance. They also provided all the booze so that they could monitor what we were drinking. There was the odd one who drank too much and was sick but nothing ever broken etc.

A party held by someone else in Year 11, someone went missing and was found drowned in a pond 3 days later

I attended some horrendous parties as a teen. Think excessive drinking, weed smoking, sex, fighting, broken property etc etc. The most memorable one involved a load of gatecrashers, doors being pulled off hinges, food thrown everywhere in the kitchen, graffiti on walls. I remember leaving the next morning and walking down the road towards the train station, and noticed the hosts father walking up the road towards the house with a face like thunder (he had been away). The host was in a world of shit for that one.

I only ever hosted one when I was about 16 and my parents were away for the night. About ten of us, some drinking but not to stupid levels, music and snacks, neighbours not pissed off at all, a fair success. But I wouldn't risk allowing my kids to ever have a party like that in our home, too much can go wrong

Oh God, so much craziness at the teenage parties of yore.

The parent's highly prized and very valuable Koi carp all died of shock/stress after numerous teenagers decided to skinny dip in the Koi carp pond.

Too many teenagers crowded onto a veranda, causing it to pull away from the house and resulting in extensive structural damage.

More drunken, unprotected teenage sex than you can shake a stick at.

Many, many bread rolls flushed down the loo (why? Why?) resulting in an emergency Dyna-Rod having to be called out, costing £££££s.

I don’t have teens yet but I went to a lot of house parties as a teen. I bloody loved them. Nothing like a teen house party! It’s not the same at peoples houses in your 40s

Anyway the one that stands out is a New Year’s Eve party aged 18 where tons of people turned up to a house who didn’t know the girl hosting, including me and my friends. I can’t remember the details but people were avoiding her in our village for months after that as she was collaring anyone who’d been there to pay towards her parents’ carpet replacement

Others I went to generally involved a lot of vomit.

One I hosted while early 20s in a student house involved 3 people falling through a skylight into the basement below and having quite serious injuries. That was absolutely terrifying.

At my 16th someone punched a hole in the wall. Someone else stepped in a discarded plate of curry and left bright yellow footprints all over the house. My mum returned home and walked in on my friends having sex. The next morning she found used condoms on the floor. She was horrified!

I was once at a party where someone glued everything to the kitchen worktops.

The worst one by far was when someone accidentally smashed the living room window (no idea how!) and someone else decided to launch the garden hose through said window! Then some of the boys decided to dress up in the mother’s clothes.

That was a long time ago and complete free for alls will no supervision and an open door. Nowadays, teens are more interested in posing for selfies than actually having a wild time. If you’re able to supervise in some way and have a say in who’s coming it will probably be fine.

I went to one where a gas cooker was pulled out of the wall and the fire brigade, gas board and police were all called.

Uninvited people always turn up too, someone else had someone set off fireworks in her house (I wasn’t at that one)