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Teen Bedtimes….

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ReindeerPoop · 24/10/2021 22:51

Can I canvas opinions on teen bedtimes please?

Y9 & Y11, what time is bedtime term time and then weekend/hols?

Have a feeling I’m being played!!

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YourThoughtsOn · 24/10/2021 22:54

This will be interesting….

Y9 term time, bed at 9.30. She gets up at 7am
Weekend / holidays, bed the same time as us so 10.30 / 11

YourThoughtsOn · 24/10/2021 22:56

It’s interesting hearing what her friends do. Some don’t have a bedtime so are up until the early hours! The friends whose family dynamics are similar to ours go at a similar time

MrsRobbieHart · 24/10/2021 22:57

12yo has to hand phone over at half 9 school nights. Weekends I take it when I’m going to bed.

16yo does his own thing. I ask him to keep the noise down if he is talking to mates after ten. If he is looking particularly tired I’ll insist on an early night.

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GreenLakes · 24/10/2021 22:59

I wouldn’t have a bedtime for a year 11 tbh. At that age you really need to take the reins off and let them work things out for themselves.

They may well be off to university in a few years and ime the DC who have been babied or not given any independence really struggle.

nutmegsteddytoes · 24/10/2021 22:59

Yr 9-9 30pm Term time weeknights
Yr 11-10 30pm Term time

Holidays /weekends are far more relaxed with both so when I go to bed at about midnight,I encourage they do similar.
However,I'm fully aware that they sometimes go later than this as do their friends that they're talking to

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ReindeerPoop · 24/10/2021 23:00

Thanks for posts so far, already useful!

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ReindeerPoop · 24/10/2021 23:01

As in interesting/thought provoking, not as ammunition… just in case in came across like that!

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Momof2boys1girl · 24/10/2021 23:01

My yr 11 is allowed to set his own bedtime as long as he can get up no trouble for school, it works for us

YourThoughtsOn · 24/10/2021 23:02

What are your teens saying OP?

SnowfallSnowball · 24/10/2021 23:03

My DD is in Year 10 and she took herself to bed at 10pm! Although I would have let her stay up later if she wanted.

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ReindeerPoop · 24/10/2021 23:05

Would you mind if I get some more opinions before I say? I’d really like to get a feeling for what others are doing

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2anddone · 24/10/2021 23:05

Term time
Dd year 8 around 9.30 and goes to sleep ds year 11 goes up at the same time as I am going to bed and he would rather be upstairs. He reads until he is ready to turn off his light.
Weekends/school holidays around 10.30 again ds will read

StopPissingAbout · 24/10/2021 23:06

I generally let him put himself to bed but if I see he's tired I'll turn off the wifi and tell him to go to bed. I don't have to do that often though tbh
Yr 9 on a school day I'd expect to be in bed for 9-10. Year 11 I think 10/11. Depends on the dc though.
I've one morning lark and 2 night owls. Morning Lark would happily go to bed at 8 pm and wake up at 5.
My Night owls will go to sleep at 10 and get up at 7

WhatsitWiggle · 24/10/2021 23:08

Yr 9 weekdays/termtime 9:30 bed and she's usually asleep by 10

Holidays/weekends - all bets are off. She's been in bed since 9:30 but I went up at 10:30 and there was music playing and she's just got up to go to the bathroom. This is the latest I'm comfortable with really, she's been told to settle down now.

Tatum1234 · 24/10/2021 23:08

My yr9&12 both go to bed when they like. They’re pretty good and they get up fine in the morning. Works for us.

confusednortherner · 24/10/2021 23:09

Yr 9 and 11 here both by 10, later in holidays but they will go earlier if they have to be up early ie 6:30am swimming, 7:30 am stables. Pretty good at knowing what they need where as I'm permanently exhausted 😴

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 24/10/2021 23:11

Year 9. Term-time around 9 to 9.30pm (she gets up at 6.40am)
Weekends and holidays between 10 and 11 pm depending on how tired she is and what's going on the next day.

kittenkipping · 24/10/2021 23:13

My year 9 is devices down for 8.30. In bedroom. Reading and audio books/ music until she wants. She's never awake past 10.30.

CouncilHousedAndViolentBaby · 24/10/2021 23:14

@Tatum1234

My yr9&12 both go to bed when they like. They’re pretty good and they get up fine in the morning. Works for us.
Agree with this 100%
redtulip12 · 24/10/2021 23:15

DD now year 12 but when was y11 I tried to get her in bed for 11 but she is a nightmare and it's often nearer midnight. Had it affected school work I would have been stricter but she's always been a straight A* student so I pick my battles.

AlexaShutUp · 24/10/2021 23:16

Mine is now 16 but she has been setting her own bedtime for years. Sometimes she has gone to bed too late, and she has been tired the next day. Now she understands that that's not such a good idea. Smile

Cattitudes · 24/10/2021 23:16

@Tatum1234

My yr9&12 both go to bed when they like. They’re pretty good and they get up fine in the morning. Works for us.
Yes similar. If they seem tired I might chase them off to bed earlier but as long as they are up and ready for school/ the day I am happy to let them self regulate. They are fairly compliant, if they are up late it is generally due to homework earlier in the day. They are not up gaming half the night. They never have been children who need lots of sleep. Under different circumstances I might have different conditions.
HippyChickMama · 24/10/2021 23:19

Ds is year 10 (but late August born so only just). During the week in term time he goes up at 9pm and reads in bed until 9:30/10pm. He's up at 6:30am on school days. Friday, Saturday and school holidays he goes to bed between 10 and 11pm and is usually asleep fairly soon after, he's rarely in bed after 7am though, has always been an early riser.

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ReindeerPoop · 24/10/2021 23:20

The PPs that are saying their teens self regulate, do you go to bed and ‘leave them to it’ or are you also night owls?

Thanks again for replies, I’m finding them really interesting!

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Kinlocrhum · 24/10/2021 23:22

Year 9 at boarding school. When at school lights out 9.45pm, no phones - Mon to Thurs, and Sunday.
Fri and Sat can keep phones overnight, and make their own mind up about sleep, although in their own rooms by 10.30pm.
At home pretty much up to her, although she's so busy she's usually tired! So maybe midnight. All night owls here, but can still get up early.