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ADs and The Brave New World

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BogRollBOGOF · 20/10/2021 22:55

When you kind of hope that a new thread meanders on quietly because it means that life is being fairly stable...

What are ADs?

Here's the copy and paste job...

Definition of AD
^AD stands for anti dementor.
There are creatures in Harry Potter called dementors, who suck all hope and happiness from you and eventually take your soul. Way back at the start of the pandemic thread after thread was posted on by posters like this and anyone who'd dare question anything or disagree with anything (like putting cheese in your coffee) was bullied off these threads. And so any actual discussion disappeared and it became an echo chamber of misery.^

We are the antidote to that. We follow the rules, but not the "roolz" and we question and discuss with respect to each other. It's all very civil.

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Worldgonecrazy · 17/04/2022 13:01

Does anyone have the link to the first thread?

BogRollBOGOF · 17/04/2022 16:39

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3890613-Some-people-enjoy-patronising-and-depressing-others

Here we are!
It still reads well!

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NannyGythaOgg · 17/04/2022 17:19

Happy Easter everyone

Worldgonecrazy · 17/04/2022 19:32

Thanks @BogRollBOGOF

I was wrong! I thought it would be at least 10-20 years before we were vindicated.

I started to read the old threads but started getting angry at how bloody stupid a scared population behaved, and how complicit the media was in encouraging stupidness.

I saw someone on Twitter that that we have a population who are quite happy to be told what to think, rather than told how to think.

Thank you to my fellow ADs for the sanity.

110APiccadilly · 17/04/2022 19:38

Hello all! Lost you and found you again (not for the first time!)

Happy Easter!

Am enjoying the absence of masks - only place I now have to wear one is doctors/ hospital. And my church, who've been very much on the cautious side, still want you to wear one for singing. (This is, in my case, completely useless as Piccalilli sees it as her cue to play the fun game of, "How far across the church can I ping mummy's mask of I try really hard?")

ISaySteadyOn · 18/04/2022 09:11

The only appropriate response. She's a smart kid. What's her distance record? 😛

Belated Happy Easter everyone. And thank you for these threads. I am so glad to know you all. It has made these years so much less lonely.

SunUpSunDown · 18/04/2022 15:26

Happy Belated Easter from me here too. I've been a (mostly) lurker on these threads over the last two years, and they have been such a help. It provided me with a little space of sanity when I felt very alone. My husband and I went into our local town on Saturday, and even this introvert's crowd-hating heart got happy seeing so many people sat around enjoying the sun and company. It just felt so normal, and it made me realise once again how traumatising the last couple of years had been. The only bit that spoiled it over the weekend was when the vicar said about not shaking hands with others "for reasons I don't need to remind you". My husband and I did a little internal eye roll, and he gave me a great big kiss at that point!

CruCru · 18/04/2022 16:31

Happy Easter all! I hope you've had a lovely weekend.

Pickingmyselfup · 18/04/2022 19:56

Name change here from mightbealittlebitmad..

I have covid! Only took a test because I felt rubbish and had a few spare but now it's left me in a moral quandary. I can't afford to take time off work and legally I don't have to but I told the managers since it's a new job and I didn't want to seem flaky if I needed to call in sick tomorrow. They have said it's my decision so I'm not going in tomorrow but I'll aim to go in Wednesday. I feel paranoid that I'm going to cause mass illness now. I'm not telling anybody else because I don't need the judgment, morals don't pay my bills at the end of the day. Same for sending the kids to childcare, legally I can do I will but I don't want there to be any backlash for it/them refuse to take the kids because I have covid. I need tomorrow childfree to try and get better and the rest of the days to be able to go to work.

As far as I can tell covid is just the same as a standard me illness but with an added bonus of a sky high temperature. I had the exact same thing March 2020, I never get a temperature so I was suspicious it was covid but without tests I didn't know. I've tested whilst feeling rubbish, (same symptoms, no temperature) before hoping it might come up positive so I could get the full 10 days paid but no such luck.

Felt very achey yesterday, couldn't get warm for ages then I spent ages being too hot. Temperature was up to 40 just like 2020 but I felt better, back then I couldn't face eating when it was that high, last night I had dinner happily. Slept really well, woke up with a normal temperature, feeling congested and a bit achey but my throat got worse through the day and feels like I'm swallowing razor blades. That's probably the worst symptom, I've struggled with sore throats as a child and they've always made me miserable, there is just no relief. Hoping for a good night's sleep again, up early to get the kids to childcare then I can come back to bed. Spent the best part of 2 days here though and I'm getting bored but it's exhausting just pottering around doing basic jobs.

In other news the husband and I are separating and I'm going to be moving out once I can secure a shared ownership property. There are so many issues and I can't get past some of his behaviour which was pretty bad, he can't live with me as I am so there we go. I'll only be moving a 10 minute drive away, kids will still go to the same school and the husband is buying me out of the house so not too much upheavel for everyone.

I got a new job in March, I've gone from working evenings and weekends in a pub to weekdays 9-3 in a golf club. Works perfectly around nursery and school, it's practically across the road from my current house which is handy so I leave home, go to nursery, turn round, go to school then carry on down the road to work. Bit of a pain during school holidays because I need to claim my holiday club costs via UC and the only Ofsted registered one is a 15 minute drive in the opposite direction to nursery. It's a 40 minute round trip which is a total pain but it will be much easier when both kids can go and I'm only doing one drop off. Only the summer holidays to go then my youngest starts school. Hoping it might mature him a bit.

I'm feeling in a much better place mentally than I was during the lockdowns but I'm still not quite where I was before then. Things still feel a little flat but I think time will fix that. I can't see us having any more restrictions unless something really bad happens, they will never be able to implement it now after everything that's gone on.

110APiccadilly · 18/04/2022 20:07

I also have Covid. Been feeling a bit under the weather since Saturday and suddenly realised that I should take a test as my 20 week scan was meant to be on Wednesday - and while I'm pretty relaxed about most things I do feel I should probably avoid spreading Covid round an actual hospital! We also have some tests hanging about, left over from when DH had to test regularly for a leisure activity he does.

@ISaySteadyOn - about 5 plastic bucket chairs' worth (our church is not posh enough to have pews), which I'd say is fairly good going.

110APiccadilly · 19/04/2022 12:10

Am now getting increasingly needy messages from Test and Trace. Given all isolation is now voluntary and you can't get a test unless you have symptoms, I don't really see the point. Tempting though it is to say I've had close contact with Mark Drakeford et al.

ISaySteadyOn · 19/04/2022 17:25

🤣

BogRollBOGOF · 19/04/2022 19:39

I hope our disease-ridden ADs feel better soon. It's been a challenge trying to keep a clear rational head through this, but two years of it does shake your confidence in things like having colds/ working out what people expect in the face of a positive test.
DH's throat was horrible for a number of days last month and he genuinely did need the week off work. Not sure if I had it with DS2, but we went off for quiet walks/ bike rides.

Anyone else with children struggling with school holidays these days? I don't know if its that mine are getting older (now 9 & 11... were 6 & 9 when the schools first shut Shock ) or whether it's having been thrown together so long in lockdowns and often having few entertainment options and getting institutionalised into not doing much. My two just now see time off school as an entitlement to lots of screen time. They don't get away with it, but it's just a huge daily battle to get them out. They generally enjoy it once we're out and going, but we've had a number of meltdowns from DS1 this holiday. I pace him, it's not lots of big overwhelming stuff, today it was just going to Costco and an outdoors shop, another day, driving to a village with a nice playground. I'll leave him at home for short periods if I'm still in the neighbourhood, but 1) I don't want to drive off and leave him yet, and 2) I don't want him to bail out of doing healthy things and getting out. He might want lots of house and tech time, but it's not healthy day in, day out. I can't tell if it's age or that living with restrictions too long gave him poor expectations.

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BogRollBOGOF · 19/04/2022 19:40

@110APiccadilly

Am now getting increasingly needy messages from Test and Trace. Given all isolation is now voluntary and you can't get a test unless you have symptoms, I don't really see the point. Tempting though it is to say I've had close contact with Mark Drakeford et al.
Boris wouldn't criticise if you stretch the truth... Wink
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ISaySteadyOn · 19/04/2022 20:35

Yes to the school holidays thing. This one seemed especially long. Odd as it may sound, we had two birthdays in it which helped somewhat but trying to think of other things to do and keep them from screens all day was not easy. You were not alone.

CruCru · 20/04/2022 11:35

This is quite a long holiday for us (over a month). I started off with such good intentions - we were going to do loads of music practice, go on lots of lovely days out, I was going to sort out various things round the house etc.

Ha! I've resorted to bribing the children to even pick up an instrument and I appear to have turned into Jabba the Hut.

toomuchlaundry · 20/04/2022 12:48

@BogRollBOGOF it's partly an age thing. DS started to get a bit like that at that age and he is 17 (so even worse now) so well before lockdown

Ecina · 20/04/2022 16:24

Hello all. Haven't been on MN in months. Used to be an AD through many name-changes, but then decided to come off all SM as my only way to get through mass formation with my sanity part-intact!
Finally been abroad! There are a few countries with no regulations at all now, though I did have to do a lot of research as it was important to me not to economically support any economy with any vax, testing or mask rules.
I suspect we're not out of the woods yet, with Italy still fining the elderly unvaxxed and parts of US/all of Canada still beyond bonkers, and the knowledge that parts of Europe aren't quite as far from their past as was the hope!
I remain determinedly clinging to my pre-c world, untested, unvaxxed, unmasked and resolutely pro-science, pro the Rule of Law, pro-human rights and pro actual health!
BUT lovely to see that the thread is so slow to fill...we must all be a bit happier?! Congrats to Picadilly on the 2nd picallily! It's so so weird that without knowing any of you, we've spent this part of our lives together.
All the best to you all x

BogRollBOGOF · 20/04/2022 16:45

It is kind of pleasing that this one's taking 6m to fill and that we are busying on kind of normally. I'll probably start another one when we're nearly full so we can occasionally say hello. Especially when we get chances to do some flocking 😉

My fb feed is busy with people doing lovely Easter holiday things and more people away than usual which id great to see at long last 😍

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mmmmmmghturep · 21/04/2022 19:58

Absolutely disgusting.

twitter.com/kirkkorner/status/1517145368697262081?s=20&t=it1GCbiVeEe6C0HxZbFayg

Tristan Kirk
@kirkkorner
It doesn't matter if a lockdown gathering was for someone's birthday or not, says a judge 'Were you there with more than 2 people?' Yes = guilty This comes not from a #Partygate probe at Downing St but the prosecution of a new mother who could have done with a lawyer

110APiccadilly · 24/04/2022 10:53

It's been a challenge trying to keep a clear rational head through this, but two years of it does shake your confidence in things like having colds/ working out what people expect in the face of a positive test.

DH and I have both felt not great, but we realised we've not really been ill for two years so our perception of what being ill feels like is off. (Also have never been both ill at the same time since having a child - obviously that means we can't both rest at the same time, at least not completely!)

We've been on the bad cold/ mild flu side of it. Not fun, but no more than that.

justasking111 · 24/04/2022 11:55

110APiccadilly · 24/04/2022 10:53

It's been a challenge trying to keep a clear rational head through this, but two years of it does shake your confidence in things like having colds/ working out what people expect in the face of a positive test.

DH and I have both felt not great, but we realised we've not really been ill for two years so our perception of what being ill feels like is off. (Also have never been both ill at the same time since having a child - obviously that means we can't both rest at the same time, at least not completely!)

We've been on the bad cold/ mild flu side of it. Not fun, but no more than that.

The grandkids are over the winter lurgies so we're safe for a few months 😁. As you say no-one has been really ill here. Hand foot and mouth, slapped cheek syndrome etc have all retreated at nursery and school. Long may it last

BogRollBOGOF · 28/04/2022 16:32

A slightly belated 2nd birthday to us!
I knew it was some point around the end of April, but it was the 25th.

Thank you for all the civilised conversation, confirmation that I wasn't alone in the world and phallic vegetables xxx

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CruCru · 28/04/2022 18:18

Ah, good memory!

Worldgonecrazy · 28/04/2022 18:36

Phallic veggies were great!

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