What did you do for your 40th birthday?

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Just that really...

I simply can't decide whether to spend my budget on a classic party in pub function room (early March) with DJ, buffet and welcome drink, then pay bar.

Or to spend the money on getting something cosmetic done (composite teeth bonding) or something with just a few friends like meal or spa.

What did you do? Please help!

Also Nothing bloody covid
Was planning either a kid free holiday or party with friends and family in local pub

Went to Barcelona with my good friend for the weekend. Then went to ascot with a group of girlfriends. Just had the best time ever

For my 30th i did a 3 day trip to Iceland

Im not sure about 40th , but it coincides with my (suppose our) 20th wedding anniversary.

Im toying with the idea of Vegas and a vow renewal in Vegas. Maybe by elvis haha.

With my bestie, mum and all the kids.

And make it a ten day/2 week holiday.

However, its the expense.

Its entirely possible at the financial difficulties atm , we will all be off to Macdonald's, with discount vouchers printed out ready .

Suppose i wouldn't care so long as i had my bestie, mum and kids with me too.
Sort of. Hahahaha

I went to Milan with the Dh was amazing
Did a weekend with the girls in Vilnius.
Had a big family dinner at a fabulous tapas restaurant.
My 40th went on for weeks , was really spoilt .

Original plan was to go to New York with DH, but small DC and nervous grandparents put paid to that! DH and I had a night away at a posh hotel in the city near us, and we had a big party at our house for friends and family. Also celebrated with friends.

DH also got me a lot of lovely presents including the statement earrings I'd had my heart set on, so that was a lot of money spent.

Would have liked to go a bit bigger with it all and have a weekend away with friends but having a baby to look after put paid to that. Was still fabulous though. And felt so bad for poor DH whose 40th fell during lockdown last year although got me out of some major party planning. We have a deferred trip to Berlin that we'll hopefully make next year...

Mine is tomorrow. Ds1 (12) will be at school so I'll be on my own with ds2 (18 months) till he goes to nursery at 1pm. Assuming he settles ok this time im having lunch with a friend. Then in evening taking ds1 to ice hockey practice as usual. After that ds1s dad (my ex) is gonna bring us all a takeaway.

Im torn between being devastated that no friends or family seem to care and thinking its just anothwr day.

Its your day so be selfish and do what you would enjoy most

Went on holiday (drove with 2 x DC) to France with my entire family, mid divorce proceedings. Was quite possibly the most lonely holiday I have ever been on. My 'D'M picked a fight with me over something my DF knew to be true (mother called me a liar) and yet he didn't back me up on the argument. Said he couldn't remember. I felt hugely betrayed - I really really thought he had my back but he absolutely didn't. 'D'M raised her hand (to my face) to hit me.

Not one to remember with fondness to be honest. It was so good to come home.

Went to Arizona. Stayed in various locations but my 40th was in Tucson in a lovely hotel where there was a birthday card from my mother waiting for me

I had a sodding children's party, basically. I had a newborn and my not-so-DH was useless. He arranged nothing; did nothing to make me feel special at all so I ended up having a bloody children's party at a local hall so I could actually see my friends.

My 50th as a divorced woman is going to be so so much better

Sat at DHs bedside. He'd had his appendix out.

I would definitely spend it on something other than a big party. But then, I'm not a big fan of a massive party. If you wanted both, could maybe reserve a space in a bar for free and invite friends, no tab. Or something? Then you could have a larger get-together plus the meal AND the treat for yourself (which is what I'd really want for mine!) :)

I bought last minute front seat theatre tickets for me and my husband. And fixed the childcare so we could get to a matinee

Mine is in a year. I plan on a safari !

Went to a naked festival, stayed in a solid place rather than a tent! Dinner at Michelin restaurant.

Like a few others here, mine was in the lockdown in March. It was a very different 40th to one I envisioned, but all my family and friends were healthy, so I couldn’t ask for more.

Amazing camping trip with my kids and friends with kids of similar ages. Then a spa weekend with my oldest friend.

Weekend in Edinburgh first class on the train and posh hotel. Went with my 'girls' sister and daughter. Went on a fab ghost tour (more for my daughter than me though it was fun).

I'm more for memories than things.

We went to a lovely local Italian with close family and friends. We paid for it all. Then went to Paris for a -dirty- night

I came home from the hospital with my newborn DD whom I had had 2 days earlier. We were living with my in-laws who put together a fabulous meal for us all to celebrate. So fairly low key but I still had a fuss made.

Happy 40th birthday**@Hockeyboysmum**
🥂🎂🥂🎂

Had a surprise baby post stillbirth 3 months pre 40th. Amazing and joyous but meant my 40th was me looking after a newborn plus 2 olders while my now exH did fuck all and said 'the kids picked' my 'paint your own mug' - only 40th present. Obv I'm still bitter
I made a list of everything I did vs him on the day he 'took off for your birthday' 🤪😂

Walked 6 miles. Played on the swings. Had a picnic from the Co-op. Had a zoom "party" with friends and takeaway. Pretty rock and roll for the start of this year!

Doing my mid-life crisis marathon next year...

Thank you all so much for sharing xx

Got married.

At least DH only has one date to remember...although his track record isn't particularly great.🤦‍♀️

Went to Rome with DH. It was amazing.

Thai food and pub with 2 good friends. One brought my favourite lemon tart to have as pudding in the pub .

Although the biggest gift was finishing my cancer treatment the week before.

BIL is doing a joint family holiday/MIL’s 70th in the Lake District for his.