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How to address enlarged testicles with FWB?!

59 replies

selflove · 02/10/2021 08:52

I've been seeing a bloke for a while. He's not particularly nice tbh, and I'm going to end it, I was just keeping him there to see occasionally when I got bored etc.

We've mostly had sex in the dark. I do remember thinking his testicles were larger than other blokes I've seen but didn't think that much of it as
a) I haven't seen that many blokes naked, and just assumed they're all different and come in different sizes like women to
b) it's been 3+ years since I was with anyone before him, so tbh was thinking I probably don't accurately remember what most testicles look like anyway.

I'd tried to touch/stroke his balls once or twice early on during blow jobs etc, and he removed my hands away both times so I assumed he didn't like them touched, and was a bit sensitive about the fact they were large or something.

SO, we had sex last night. It wasn't dark. I went to give him a blow job and JESUS CHRIST his testicles (particularly his right one) was absolutely huge. Honestly bigger than if I put both my hands into fists next to each other. It dwarfed his cock. I'm pretty positive that can't be normal. I dot remember then being as massive as that before. So, do I text him?! And tell him they don't look normal and to get himself checked? And if so, how do I even word such a text?! Keeping in mind I was literally about to end things, so I can't word it like "it's because I care about you..." etc

OP posts:
userxx · 02/10/2021 08:54

I can't get past the fact you're giving blow jobs to someone you don't particularly like 🤢.

Re the big balls, surely he's aware.

HollowTalk · 02/10/2021 09:03

I agree with @userxx. Why would you do that to somebody you dislike?!

littleblackno · 02/10/2021 09:08

Yes tell him. Didnt Sean Lock, who recently passed away say that he had a skin cancer picked up because a ONS mentioned a mole to him.

Maybe he thinks the same as you, hes never seen any other testicals and therefore doesnt realise its not normal.?

Maybe txt him "hey, i noticed your testcals looked very swollen, have you had them checked out by a gp?" You could see if you could find a link to the warning signs of testicular cancer.

If he doesnt like it or gets funny with you then you dont have to see him again as you dont like him anyway!

KeflavikAirport · 02/10/2021 09:08

You can give the guy a BJ but not tell him you're concerned for his health?

Sn0tnose · 02/10/2021 09:10

Hi Unpleasant man, I just wanted to have a quick chat about last night. I noticed quite a bit of swelling that wasn’t there before and I think you should probably make an appt to have a chat with your GP. All the best, Selflove.

However, if he has been pro sex in the dark and has been removing your hands, I suspect he’s already fully aware. Your genitals don’t double in size without you noticing.

ItsahardGobbutsomeonehastodoit · 02/10/2021 09:18

If you don't like him and don't care if you see him again then say it straight. Better to shock him and make him realise it's not normal than to sugarcoat it and him brush it off.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 02/10/2021 09:30

It might be a ganglion cyst. Could you try hitting it with a bible?

Actually, thinking about it, it is probably best that you DON'T do this.

Grin
Patxo · 02/10/2021 09:37

"Hi Unpleasant man" Grin

What do you mean when you say he's not that nice OP?

QuentinBunbury · 02/10/2021 09:43

He probably has a hydrocele, they no longer repair on NHS so men with this just have to get fluid drained every so often when the swelling gets too much. Poor man.
I mean, you could mention it but as you are about to dump him it might make him think that's why you are ending it

Briony123 · 02/10/2021 09:45

If this situation was reversed you'd all be up in arms at the "mansplaining". Leave him to sort out his own health, he won't be unaware.

Cookiedough123 · 02/10/2021 09:47

I wouldnt even mention it. It sounds like he is aware plus you're ending it anyway 🤷‍♀️

PleasantFucker · 02/10/2021 09:51

You've just scarred my imagination for a minute 🤢

I wouldn't say anything if you're ending it anyway, I mean, if they're as big as you say I think he knows.

Mariell · 02/10/2021 10:38

Next time he comes round leave out a copy of Viz open on the Buster Gonad story.

Mariell · 02/10/2021 10:39

Does he wear skinny jeans or does he wear harem pants to his it?

Riada · 02/10/2021 10:45

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

It might be a ganglion cyst. Could you try hitting it with a bible?

Actually, thinking about it, it is probably best that you DON'T do this.

Grin

Grin Grin
midsomermurderess · 02/10/2021 11:51

White Lotus immediately sprang to mind.

Jarstastic · 02/10/2021 11:54

If he’s not a nice person why are you rewarding him with a BJ?

Moonmelodies · 02/10/2021 13:18

Perhaps he just has naturally big ones and is a bit embarrassed about them?

Mariell · 02/10/2021 13:20

Always double check. Now does he have large beau-locks or are they normal size and the rest of him is very, very small?

midsomermurderess · 02/10/2021 13:53

Is sex a reward?

Thissucksmonkeynuts · 02/10/2021 13:59

Definitely do the bible thing.
I'm intrigued how the Office for National Statistics helped identify a malignant mole.

Notaroadrunner · 02/10/2021 14:00

He could have testicular hydrocele and be highly embarrassed and not know what it is. It's a fluid build up that can be easily sorted with a minor operation. You've been up close and personal enough to come face to face with his balls so you should just mention it.

Moonmelodies · 02/10/2021 14:11

Do they still want sex when their parts are playing up?

Happylittlethoughts · 02/10/2021 14:20

Why did I think we were past judging women for having sex?! Wisen up !
As far as the swollen testicle I'd probably leave,it. Clues are there that's he's aware and not attempting to communicate about it.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 02/10/2021 14:24

He knows it's swollen. Just don't see him again if you don't like him.

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