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Do you tell your OH everything?

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BlueMoons90 · 20/09/2021 20:16

Just inspired by a recent thread - do you tell your OH everything? I know that's incredibly broad. My DP knows pretty much everything there is to know about me, and I'm very guilty of texting him sporadically throughout the day to tell him very menial things! I put that down to being a SAHM though.

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ilovebagpuss · 23/09/2021 07:37

I can talk to him about anything and he knows most things about me as we have been together for eons. However I don’t share my everyday worries and feelings like if I’m a bit low or missing someone who has passed away I just get on with that myself.
He’s not a big talker anyway but we always share a few details from our day any laughs or big concerns etc.
I tend to share some of the emotional stuff with my oldest friends instead but I could and have gone to him if things are hard and he’s very good in that way.

SisterAgatha · 23/09/2021 07:41

Well pretty much yeah, but only if I remember to Grin

gannett · 23/09/2021 07:46

No. I don't want to give him a stream-of-consciousness ramble about everything I think or do. There's actually a lot of specifics we don't know about each other on account of having never asked.

However I know I could tell him anything I wanted to tell, or he wanted to know. Obviously not breaking friends' confidences, though I haven't been in a situation where a confidence has been serious enough that I've had a dilemma about breaking it.

MatildaIThink · 23/09/2021 07:51

Not everything no, because so much of it is boring, mundane shit, but I certainly tell him all the important stuff and most of the interesting stuff.

slipperybanana · 23/09/2021 07:54

Yes we enjoy telling each other thr wee details and are on the same page with most things so I enjoy chatting and discussing things with him.

He can also be very diplomatic and will make me see things from a different POV if I'm having an issue which is always helpful

DressBitch · 23/09/2021 07:58

Yep. One of my favourite things about our marriage is that I always want to tell him everything first.

GTAlogic · 23/09/2021 08:06

My thoughts and worries and stuff? Yea I tell him.

Things I've done during the day? Mostly.

That I've bought yet more fabric and yarn? lol no!

BigFatLiar · 23/09/2021 08:09

Yes and no.

We talk about any old rubbish, hopes and dreams.
We tell each other about our day if we've been apart (neither working anymore). I don't keep secrets from him but don't tell him stuff about others if I think he wouldn't be interested. I don't think his friends talk much about personal stuff.

Things we don't talk about, when we were working - work, I knew the sort of stuff he did but it was highly technical and it was classified so no talking even to me.

Doomscrolling · 23/09/2021 08:15

Yep, the poor bastard. Wink

GreatHitchenKitchen · 23/09/2021 08:16

He’s not a great listener so quite often has no memory of anything I’ve told him. Not to,d him much about past at slll…there’s stuff he really doesn’t need to know.

He’s also v indiscreet with No Filter. So I’m wary….

But we chat about crap, the dog, news, the cat, his kids, his ex…

Aliveandkicking23 · 23/09/2021 08:17

I can tell DH anything and everything whether he either listens or remembers is another thing.

GreatHitchenKitchen · 23/09/2021 08:18

I lie about plants I’ve bought all the time. He knows but luckily has no idea of how much a plant costs….a well established plant.

Intheswissmountains · 23/09/2021 08:19

Yes we don't have any secrets. I do not discuss anything linked to my work which is confidential.

Od130990 · 23/09/2021 08:31

Most things but I would never reveal to him anything anyone's told me in confidence.

Soyouthought · 23/09/2021 09:17

No. He has no filter and a bit of a gossip.

ILiveInSalemsLot · 23/09/2021 09:23

No. I don’t talk about things that I know my friends and family would like to keep confidential, just like I won’t tell them personal stuff about him.
And no, I don’t tell him mundane stuff. Don’t want to hear his either.

notacooldad · 23/09/2021 10:25

One of my favourite things about our marriage is that I always want to tell him everything first
What does that mean?
Does it mean if your friend tells you something personal you have to tell him?
If so that is appalling.

IdblowJonSnow · 23/09/2021 10:27

No. And he doesn't tell me everything either.

notacooldad · 23/09/2021 10:34

I've been thinking about this and I dont really understand the question.
Does it mean do I tell him every conversation I've had that day. If so both of would be bored shitless.
Does it mean break other people's trust. My friend told me years ago he was going for tests for HIV and he was terrified. He told me because he knew I wouldn't tell a soul but he needed someone to listen. That is not my story to tell. It's not my ' secret' and it has nothing to to do with anyone else.

Theres nothing I cant tell about me and my day to day life or past. Weve been together 30 odd years so he knows me too well!
Usually theres a lot to talk about. But sometimes it's nice just to have an evening snuggled up and not say anything!

OhGiveUp · 23/09/2021 10:35

No, but only because we rarely see each other, so time is precious when we do.

spooney21 · 23/09/2021 12:22

No I don't tell him everything. He wouldn't be interested in lots of things such as minor extended family things, my friends, tv shows I watch etc. I rarely talk about work to him. We do of course talk about lots of other things, and never struggle to make conversation.

I know people who call their other halves several times a day, for no real reason and will answer their calls when I'm with them. They talk about shite (imo)- what they had for lunch, who they saw at the shops, that they couldn't find dc's shoe that morning etc etc. I don't have time for that.

Mondaynightnamechange · 23/09/2021 12:58

@spooney21

No I don't tell him everything. He wouldn't be interested in lots of things such as minor extended family things, my friends, tv shows I watch etc. I rarely talk about work to him. We do of course talk about lots of other things, and never struggle to make conversation.

I know people who call their other halves several times a day, for no real reason and will answer their calls when I'm with them. They talk about shite (imo)- what they had for lunch, who they saw at the shops, that they couldn't find dc's shoe that morning etc etc. I don't have time for that.

I haven’t got time for that, I would find that suffocating.
MrsKDB · 23/09/2021 13:26

No because I find it incredibly irritating and boring when he - or anyone else (MIL) - tried to do this to me. I only have so much bandwidth and don’t want it taken up by mundane or unimportant chatter.

Starbonnet123 · 23/09/2021 13:55

Most things yes but not everything about my stepdaughter, she's 18 and lives with us , mum died when she was a baby , so confidences and things he doesn't want to know about I keep to myself

HunterAngel · 23/09/2021 14:03

Most things. Some things I can’t tell him because of confidentiality issues (work related) and there are things I don’t mention because he can be an awful worry wart and it’s less stressful to handle it myself.

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