Can anyone help me out, this is really effecting our quality of life.
There is a couple next door that seem to make it their priority to be nosey wherever possible with us. I only noticed how low our fence was recently because we have not long moved in and I’m busy back and fourth into the garden partially doing up the house so I have not noticed how situations are timed so they can ear wig.
I began noticing not long ago that whenever we stepped outside around a few seconds after their back door would open and the washing would immediately be hung out. Small bits of washing would be strategically placed nearer our fence when it could easily go nearer to their door.
Sometimes there’s literally 4 socks hung on the line, at the exact time when we begin talking, right near our fence.
I realised how obvious it was on a wet miserable day that the woman went and put the washing on her line as soon as we began talking outside. And it was one bed sheet or towel.
It then clicked in my head that these line drying days have been happening even on days when the weather is horrendous, rain spitting, grey clouds etc.
The walls are paper thin and whenever we have normal disagreements I feel on edge on how it might come across to them without the context.
We renewed our mortgage beginning of the year because I thought I could manage the situation but the nosey-ness is escalating and now I’m feeling really sh!t about getting a longer term which is now 5years. I should have listened to our gut but we’ve not long moved.
Now this morning my OH has left the house with the kids ready to go to Breakfast Club. We had a heated squabble last night DIY related, both lack of sleep and they must have been propped up against the wall with some popcorn because this morning said neighbour decides to water plants at literally a few seconds before we are talking saying bye to each other and reminding kids about school stuff before leaving.
This is at 7.15am.
I know it’s going to be a warm day but I have not once seen anyone do that on our road, at this house or the last.
I know this person is staying in because they loudly said in their garden to ‘come over because we’re in all day tomorrow’.
OH said eye contact was trying to be made and the watering was done on our boundary fence during the full duration of OH and kids being at our doorstep and he could feel being gawped at.
And the biggest eye opener is OH is always the first to brush something off but he rang me and said ‘yeah, that was weird’. As he is not the type to really ever confirm behaviours.
Even if we make the house more private with plants and trees I am struggling to relax knowing someone is ear wigging at every opportunity. It just feels like the type of people to report and wrongly report just for the drama, I feel completely on edge and don’t know what to do now we have renewed the mortgage.
I appreciate that there may be suggestions to wind them up by saying things but they honestly come across as the type to make a situation a 100 times worse if poked. They play their music outside ridiculously loud and I think it would be a case of them just doing more passive aggressive things if we were ever to say jokey things for them to overhear.
Another rubbish thing is we can’t just point out what they’re doing because is so underhand/covert.
Feeling really helpless and stupid.
Please help :(