Would anyone else find this a bit disturbing?

[pollyglot]

We bought a house about 4 months ago from a 70-something couple who had built it. We never met them nor had anything to do with them, but did see them once driving out of the gate, so recognised them. We're down a long drive with trees, and from time to time we see them standing at the gate just staring. I have waved but they just scuttle off. On other occasions, they sit in their car on the road at the gate and look. I have no idea where they live, though I gather they are in a retirement home. I'm imagining that they are annoyed that the garden isn't as tidy as it was when they were here! I'm starting to feel a bit...paranoid!

Annoying but not disturbing. They're hardly likely to be a threat. They're just nosy.

I think I’d find it a bit sad, did they move because they couldn’t cope on their own any more & maybe didn’t really want to move?
I know it’s your house & they’re not your problem but they aren’t doing any harm so I think I’d just leave them to it

This sounds like the opening of an ITV drama. You track down the retirement home, call and find out they died in a car accident 3 months ago

Ok, time for bed

They may have buried a beloved pet in the garden, and be 'visiting' it I guess. And/or they miss the old house.

@ICantFindTheBuffet

This sounds like the opening of an ITV drama. You track down the retirement home, call and find out they died in a car accident 3 months ago

Ok, time for bed

Ok, now I find it disturbing

@ICantFindTheBuffet

This sounds like the opening of an ITV drama. You track down the retirement home, call and find out they died in a car accident 3 months ago

Ok, time for bed

THIS 😬

No, I wouldn't find it disturbing.
I often sit outside my old family home.

I think they are sad about selling

I wouldn't let them know iv seen them
They arent doing any harm

Sad for them but not disturbing for you as such. Have you read The Dutch House by Anne Patchett?

I find it a bit sad.

Awww. You could invite them in for a cuppa. Have a chat. Give them some closure if they need it.

Sorry but this is creepy as fuck and not normal. I can't believe im the first one saying this. People that are saying they're not doing any harm etc - would you honestly think that if it was your house?!

I really wouldn’t care about a couple of old people sitting in their car outside my house, and I don’t even have a long drive with gates to protect me!

I find it a bit sad and also a bit weird, and I wouldn't like it much.

I remember when my mum was alive, she had dementia and constantly wanted to go home to her house with her mum and dad.
One day she was very agitated so I took her in the car to her house. She knew exactly where it was.
It was a nightmare the garden had a shopping trolley and sofa in it. She was fucking furious that someone had abandoned all that shit in her mums garden😂🙈.
Thank fuck the people that lived there never seen us.

I agree with @Maggiethehorserustler.

It is definitely disturbing

I think it’s sad too.
They built it, and must’ve lived in it for quite some time, and therefore it must hold many memories for them. Maybe they (reluctantly) felt they needed to downsize.
I’d do what @UserNameNameNameUser said, and would invite them in.

My sister had the old man she bought from visit a lot. 15 years later and he is a friend

Invite them in

I would love to invite them in, but we are in lockdown just now. I'd also be embarrassed, because the place was always immaculate when we viewed it and it's a bit chaotic just now. I remember the vendor of another house we bought coming back to pick something up, walking in and saying "What HAVE you done to MY house??!!" I have a sneaking suspicion that I'd feel the same about my old houses, if truth be told.

Seems a bit odd to me

That's kind of sad and annoying both at the same time.

@Tooembarrassingtomention

My sister had the old man she bought from visit a lot. 15 years later and he is a friend

Invite them in

Yes !

That is sad for them. If they were looking into your windows that would be one thing, but to be down a long drive with trees can't be causing you much of an impact, although I can understand how you might start to feel uncomfortable. Is this a daily thing OP or just now and again? They are looking at the house/garden and not you and your family.

If you can catch them, why not just go and have a friendly chat? It would be a nice thing to do and you may find out a bit of your house history.

@Maggiethehorserustler

Sorry but this is creepy as fuck and not normal. I can't believe im the first one saying this. People that are saying they're not doing any harm etc - would you honestly think that if it was your house?!

This and I would not be inviting them in either.

I would not like this!

Definitely the opening of an ITV drama.

Do not invite for tea!