Percentages - you and your OH

[Statisticz]

For those of you who live with a partner, what would you say is the overall percentage split of all chores/childcare/life admin?

Please also state if you are male or female.

I’d say for me (F) 60% and OH (M) 40%

(F) 35% (M) 65%

F me 80%, M dh 20%....

paid employment F me 20%, M dh 80%.

Works for us.

50/50

It was F(90), M (10) moved to F(20) M(80) now probably 50/50.

I was doing it all, DH away most of the time and then I got ill…..

Admin
Me(F) 90% H(M)10%

Childcare
Me 60% H 40%

Chores
Me 30% H 70% of what's left after the cleaner has been (I'm pregnant with PGP so I'm taking it easy, otherwise it's closer to 50/50)

50/50 I'd say. I'm female and DH male. He does more of the day to day tidying around the house, I do more of the big picture planning and emotional load.

I’d say 50/50. We both work until the jobs are done then relax together. I do more of the thinking/planning though.

Chores Me, f, 98:2 DH
Childcare Me 100:0 DH
Admin. Me 50:50 DH

When DH has no health issues (he's just had surgery):

Paid employment: 100% me (F) / 0% him (M)
Childcare: 5% me / 95% him
Chores (including gardening): 10% me / 90% him
Life admin: 90% me / 10% him

Household chores: 95% him, 5% me.
Life admin: 5% him, 95% me.
No kids/childcare.

So fairly even.

Admin
Me (F) 90% - DP (M) 10%

Chores
Me 90% - DP 10%

This arrangement suits us. My DP works long, physical hours out of the house. I work from home with flexible hours

Admin: 90% me(F), 10% DH(M)
Chores: 10% me, 25%DH, 65% the cleaner
Childcare: 10%me, 90% DH
Paid employment 80% me, 20% DH

Thank god most people have put "paid employment" in their response. Which has been completely omitted from OP.

Gets my goat massively when people are all "I do all the laundry!!!" And haven't worked a day in the last ten years.

Me (F) and DH both late thirties.

Admin: Me 90% DH 10%
Chores: Me 90% DH 10%
Childcare: Me 90% DH 10% (at weekends this is much more evenly balanced, DH will often get up before me and put bottles in cots)
Paid employment: Me 0% DH 100% (although I do resell all the children's clothes they've grown out of on eBay and bring in a couple of hundred a month or so.)

Probably me/F 90:10 DH/M for it all. Sometimes he does more, normally in the winter when he’s home a bit more, sometimes he does less, height of summer where we don’t see each other one day to the next. He works very long, physical hours for our business and I work 3 days a week out of the home and probably another 1-1.5 from home for said business.
I get frustrated sometimes but it’s the nature of the job!

I’m female, 40s, DH is 30s, both in full time employment, no kids.

Cooking & laundry - DH 100%
Cleaning -me 100%
Bill paying and budgeting - DH 100%
Other admin - me 95%, DH 5%
Shopping 80% DH, 20% me

Me 90% DH 10%

I'm M and had this with my wife a few years ago, she complained that she did 60% of the household chores.

I pointed out that if you factor in the decorating, plumbing, gardening, car care etc etc etc I actually do around 90% of the work around the house.

She said "I'd never really thought about it like that before" and hasn't raised is since.

Dh does probably 90% of the housework and life admin, no children.

50/50

We both currently work full time.

We have both turns as SAHPs and working part time and when one of us was doing that then we also did far more housework/parenting etc as a result

These are all very interesting and of course varied. Each couple/family has a totally different situation obviously .

Me and OH had this little argument recently and he claimed he does 60% of childcare alone - I disagreed.

I mostly go out with the kids, I definitely do all the meal prep and cooking for the them to eat. I do the school runs as well so how can he do 60%? He does nappies (me too), feeding (me too), he does however tend to younger one at night if she wakes but I still don’t think he does 60% of child stuff.

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I'm M and had this with my wife a few years ago, she complained that she did 60% of the household chores.

I pointed out that if you factor in the decorating, plumbing, gardening, car care etc etc etc I actually do around 90% of the work around the house.

She said "I'd never really thought about it like that before" and hasn't raised is since.

Are you renovating your house?

You seem to be spending a hell of a lot of time decorating/gardening etc…. There is no way all this stuff is taking more time than cooking/cleaning/planning etc…in our house

F (me)
life admin and kids 100%
Housework & meals 70%

M (DH)
Garden, DIY and Car maintenance 100%
Housework 30%

I'd say day to day mine is the heavier load. DH had a hard physical job for the first 10 years of our marriage so wasn't at home to split 50:50 with me, and it's stuck like that. We both work part time.

That’s not surprising @Statisticz.

Most studies have shown that women underestimate how much they do whilst men overestimate their contribution….

For childcare it’s probably me (F) 60%, DP (M) 40%

For housework it’s more like me (F) 85%, DP (M) 15%

Life admin (bills, finances, organisation) is 100% me

We both work full time.

@Statisticz

These are all very interesting and of course varied. Each couple/family has a totally different situation obviously .

Me and OH had this little argument recently and he claimed he does 60% of childcare alone - I disagreed.

I mostly go out with the kids, I definitely do all the meal prep and cooking for the them to eat. I do the school runs as well so how can he do 60%? He does nappies (me too), feeding (me too), he does however tend to younger one at night if she wakes but I still don’t think he does 60% of child stuff.

Who is doing childcare while you are making meals? Cooking is actually a household chore not childcare. Not saying he’s doing 60%, just saying you are counting as childcare a task that isn’t childcare.