Percentages - you and your OH

[Statisticz]

For those of you who live with a partner, what would you say is the overall percentage split of all chores/childcare/life admin?

Please also state if you are male or female.

I’d say for me (F) 60% and OH (M) 40%

My DH says that he’s our gardener, yet all he does is mow the lawn in the months that it needs doing.
He doesn’t weed the flower beds or get the weeds out of the drive/path.

Me 10%
Husband 50%
Sons 40%

I'm disabled so not only does my husband do the majority of stuff he also takes care of me.

Before I was so ill it was a good 50/50.

@PlanDeRaccordement, I don’t know about you but cooking a meal has never stopped me from also looking after the dcs.

@RacistAngst - We have a large garden and 400 year old house, both take a lot of upkeep and yes, we're refurbishing it.

Childcare
Me- 90%
Dh-10%
We only have 1dc 10 so there's very little 'minding' to do.

Admin
Me-80%
DH-20%

Chores
Me-30%
DH- 70%

Diy and garden
Me-10%
DH-90%

I work less though but earn more, so I am at home quite a bit.

Life admin/ chores/ children- me 100% (F)

Work- husband 100% (M)

Me 90% DW 10%. I'm semi retired and DW works full time.

@RacistAngst

That’s not surprising *@Statisticz*.

Most studies have shown that women underestimate how much they do whilst men overestimate their contribution….

Studies also show that men spend 20% more time at work, so swings and roundabouts and all that.

As well as paid employment it makes a difference how old your child is and if there are any special needs. Childcare for a 1y year old is a bit different to childcare for a 2 year old!

OP, if your DH does the tending at night, you might be way underestimating what he does. And if him getting up means he's sleep deprived, it has a greater impact than looking after a child in the day when you're fully rested. I'd suggest an hour at 2am is not equal to an hour at 2pm.

70% me, 30% him, but he works full time and I’m only part time.

Paid employment:
Currently - me 55% DH 45%
As of next month - me 48% DH 52%

Chores including cooking and laundry - me 25% DH 75% (he currently WFH whereas I work in the office. If his new job needs him in the office it will move to 50/50)

Life admin - 50/50

Emotional load and thinking - me 80% DH 20%

No kids yet but I'm currently pregnant and I anticipate him to be extremely hands on

Usually 50/50. Currently pregnant and sick, and am sitting here feeling miserable whilst he hoovers and cleans the bathroom, before he makes dinner. At the moment it’s 95/5

Chores:

(F) 90%, DH 10%

Life admin: 50/50

Paid employment (F) 0, DH 100%.

Works For us.

I'm female, DH male

Childcare - 75% me 25% DH - I've been on mat leave/ SAHM since she was born last year and no plans to go back to my old job but I am starting some freelance work so the childcare balance will change

Household
Me 60 Him 40

Admin 50/50

food shopping / meal planning / cooking / dishes: DH 90% / me 10%

other essential chores / family admin: DH 10% / me 90%

contribution to family + household costs: DH 50% / me 50%

His share definitely involves more practical work and running around.

Admin 98%(F) 2% (M)
Childcare (although more like taxiing to activities now) 75% (F) 25% (M)
Chores 85% (F) 15% (M)
Gardening 5% (F) 95% (M)

I work nearly ft, DH is self employed and works longer hours.

My DH does stuff like cooking (sometimes) gardening, DIY etc....but the difference is they are things that actually some people enjoy or do for hobbies. (Eg DH likes to do dinner on a weekend, listens to 5 live on the radio, has a beer or a glass of wine) No one washes dishes or cleans the toilet to relax!

Chores and childcare: 20M 80F
Earning: 100M

Me (F) 80% him 20%. I work less than half his hours at the moment but due to increase that to 70% (and have worked more before) I expect I will still be doing 80% because DH is a twat.

He did do stuff if i ask him but useless at getting on with it and does it badly....not on purpose he's truly shit at housework and remembering things. He does fix my car though 👍👍

F 80 M 20

F: 60 M: 40

Bills to keep house going and bailiffs away lol- DH 100%

Groceries- Me (F) 100%
Animal care costs- Me 90%, DH- 10% (He pays for vet visits with cats I pay for all food and bedding across 7 pets)

Holidays - 50/50

Soon we will go back to a 50/50 split when our youngest DD starts school in 2022. I worked when youngest DD was tiny and it nearly killed me so I am in much less stressful but lower paid job and PT.

Oh cleaning
DH- 70%
ME- 30%

According to me:

In hours paid work 55F/45M and unpaid 45F/55M

In effectiveness paid work 90%F 10%M, unpaid home related stuff 20%F 80%M, no kids.

According to him:

in hours paid work 60F/40M and unpaid 30F/70M

In effectiveness paid work 90%F 10%M, unpaid home related stuff 10%F 90%M

Childcare 50/50. DH does 2hrs before work, I do 2hrs after work. Weekends is together or even split.

Chores 50/50 DH does all cooking, washing up and food shopping. I do all laundry and cleaning.

Admin Me (f) 90/ DH 10. He’s far too disorganised! It’s not a big job though.

Paid employment: F50 M50
(Although my employment -teacher- requires long hours working at home evenings and weekends, DP's doesn't)
Child care: F80 M20
Admin / Utilities / Bills / Subscr: F40 M60
Social admin (adults and DC): F95 M05
School liaison / trips / consent: F90 M10
Cooking / cleaning / gardening: F30 M70