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What's the most ridiculous reason a neighbour has got mardy with you?

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NoEffingWay · 31/08/2021 20:00

I once was accused of not saying hello to a neighbour and he told my parents I was rude (I was about 20!). In reality I had said 'hello' but he was totally deaf and didn't hear me Hmm. No amount of explanation would suffice and he spent the next few years staring me down and huffing whenever he saw me.

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onemouseplace · 01/09/2021 07:47

My neighbour over the road got huffy with me when I dared to knock on his door to ask him if it was his builder’s van that was blocking my drive and could he get him to move it as I needed to go out.

DancesWithTortoises · 01/09/2021 08:00

Our neighbour wanted us to take down our glorious 30 year old magnolia tree because sometimes the wind blew its blossom or leaves into her garden.

FuckingFabulous · 01/09/2021 08:17

We asked that her son stop kicking footballs against the side of our house. She came over and got really aggressive asking why it was bothering us. We said she should let him kick the ball against her house and she said "no, I've told him to come here because your house is bigger so he's got more space to practice. We said no, he cannot do that, and she started bleating on that he has anger problems and can we agree a length of time where he'd be allowed to pelt the football at our house and we would just put up with it? No, the fuck he cannot. She has glared at us ever since

LookItsMeAgain · 01/09/2021 08:19

I'm nearly certain that I've posted this story before but my NDN were running a business on their driveway that involved cleaning cars/washing them etc. I'm not using the term used to describe that as I don't want it appearing if they do a search.
Anyway, these neighbours had a habit of parking across the top of my driveway (both driveways, theirs and ours are large enough to park 2 cars off the road) so it was only my side of the driveway that kept getting parked over. So I decided I could park over my own driveway, resulting in them having to park over their own driveway or annoy other neighbours.
When I did that, even though I made completely certain that when I was parked there I wasn't blocking their access AT ALL, I was being called petty.
I regularly had to ask permission to leave my driveway and to be able to return to it, and they thought nothing about that. How they were taking liberties and basically making a pain of themselves to the neighbourhood as there wasn't a single weekend or evening during good weather that they weren't out there cleaning cars and vans so there was always the noise of the power hose and then the high performance vacuum. It was relentless.
Anyway, that evening when I was called petty for making sure that I had unfettered access to my home/driveway/parking by the man of their household who approached me as I parked my car on my driveway quite late in the evening (so they had been watching out for my return and didn't even have the courtesy to wait until I got in to my house before accosting me) was the last time I had anything to do with them. I refuse to accept parcels for them (I would have gladly taken them in in the past).

Sunshineandflipflops · 01/09/2021 08:21

When my NDN stood outside my house to get my attention, then told me he wasn't happy because when I watered my hanging basket (on my property but next to his side path) I got "mess" all over his path and wall. It was a bit of water. Unfortunately for him, it was actually my mum who had watered it so she went round and called him a miserable bastard and he stood there speechless. She is 76 and you wouldn't want to get on the wrong side of her! He might think he can intimidate me (miserable, retired ex-police) as a single parent but not my mother!

shufflestep · 01/09/2021 08:21

@GappyValley
Sounds like our neighbours! We are detached, yet apparently their damp is our fault due to us having soil next to their house wall that boundaries our garden? Although actually that bit is paved...

Their cellar leaks? Also our fault since our pipes must be leaking.... never mind the fact that we had them all done ten years ago, their own plumbing is closer to their house, oh and the cellar has always let water (we have actually pumped it out in the past for the lovely old couple that used to live there).

We had our house painted, soffits, fascias and guttering sorted out over the summer. He complained to the guys doing the work that he'd asked them to have a look at some loose bricks on the top of his house and by four o'clock they hadn't done so.....the fact that we were employing them to work on our house, not his, appeared to have passed him by!

Mumoblue · 01/09/2021 08:25

My neighbours have started being sulky when I ask them to move their 2nd car out of my space. Yes, I don’t drive, but I have visitors that do.
Most of the time I’m fine with them being in my space, but they shouldn’t get moody when I occasionally ask them to move. Hmm

OoglyMoogly · 01/09/2021 08:25

At my first house, the neighbour didn't like me removing a dead bush from my front garden. “Gloria planted that” she sniffed. Gloria was a previous owner but the house had been sold 3 times since Gloria died.

She told her guests at a party to chain their bikes to my front fence and kicked off when we objected.

Same party, her guests were in her back garden (small terraced house) which triggered our security light, so we turned it off and she came roaring round to accuse us of ruining her party as no-one could see while they were outside.

She accused us of cruelty to our cat. He had leukaemia, and had a series of injections after which the vet warned us he must not be around other cats for a certain amount of time, so we constructed a large cat “run” out of chicken wire so he could get fresh air and sunshine (if not freedom) and she reported us to RSPCA. They came around and had no issue with it.

She was as mad as a box of frogs.

Sparechange · 01/09/2021 08:34

We were about to start a big extension and renovation before the first lockdown but thankfully hadn’t started but had planning etc in place.

Early this year, our next door neighbours put their house on the market, around the same time we started the building work. So all the viewings were done knowing there was a building site next door, and with the plans of what we were doing freely available on the council site

Sale was agreed and new neighbours moved in in April

The first thing they did was knock on our door and ask how long the building work was going to go on for.
We said about another 4 months but most of the noisy stuff was done. And if they needed the builders to be quiet for particular times or days, to let us know

Well actually, they said, can we please pause all the works for a bit, ideally til after the summer.
Because they are both NHS workers who are really tired after a tough year and they want to be able to settle into their new house in peace, and would love things to be quiet during the school holidays for their daughter

We said we were very sympathetic to their position, but we were currently without a kitchen, and the back of the house was without proper doors so we needed to crack on, but we would be as considerate as possible.

They then sent a legal letter saying we didn’t have a party wall award. We checked with a lawyer and because we had an agreement with the previous owner plus all the work affecting the party wall was finished, we were legally fine
But in the spirit of being considerate, we agreed to re-do the award with them, thinking it would be a quick call with the surveyor to explain things
He then tried to bill us £2k which we are still disputing now

The wife then put a post on Nextdoor saying they had just moved to the neighbourhood and first impressions were very poor based on their awful new neighbours, and was everyone like this!!

And when we eventually got the party wall paperwork through, we got their full names so googled them

Yes they work in the NHS but not remotely front line roles, and one of them has been on academic study leave writing a paper on something not covid related.

Thankfully our kids are at different schools so I think we can largely avoid each other but they expected us to live with no kitchen from April to September, and only a temporary door securing our house for all that time, so they could have a quiet lunchtime G&T

thanksforyourcommentrandomman · 01/09/2021 09:00

At the start of the first lockdown, one of our neighbours started a Street facebook group, when I sent a request to join it was turned down because I was renting....and he wasn't subtle about it, he actually put that in the declined message. I'd been WFH since the lockdown too and he told all the neighbours that I was on benefits and that they were all paying for me to live there by paying tax. Luckily the majority of them were on my side, they left the FB group and now he has no friends left on the road despite living there for 40+ years. I moved early this year thankfully

AngelsWithSilverWings · 01/09/2021 09:01

My parents house has a large driveway at the end of a cul de sac and they noticed a sudden increase in random cars pulling up and parking or using the drive to do a three point turn ( completely on the drive not just for a bit of extra space to complete the manoeuvre) This was disturbing them and triggering the ring camera constantly.

Mum decided to put some nice planters on the drive to reinforce the message that it was a private drive.

Nextdoor neighbour who they have got along fine with for 20 years went berserk. He stole the planters and then wrote a nasty letter telling my parents he was disappointed that they hadn't discussed the placing of the planters with him and the rest of the cul de sac first.

Things then escalated so badly that when my parents renewed the original 40 year old faded sign that said private drive , access only for number 10 he came and destroyed it! The police were involved and he has since paid for the damage but still maintains he should have a say over what my parents put on their drive.

Turns out due to the lockdown he was running his business from home and the random cars belonged to his clients who were calling to pick up goods they had ordered. The stupid thing is that if he had explained his problem and asked for permission to use the drive my lovely neighbourly parents would have said yes of course!

1moreglassplease · 01/09/2021 09:04

Myself and NDN got burgled in November 2014. Neighbour who lived opposite was the neighbourhood gossip.

She came over on the evening, seeing me let in the emergency locksmith as the back door had been completely ruined. Over the next few days she came over and hammered on my door and windows, even late at night, wanting to know the details. When she didn't get them because everything was in the hands of the insurance company and I was waiting to hear, she then went and told everyone in my road that I'd sworn at our (lovely) neighbourhood postman Shock.

I actually heard this from the postman himself who was a bit bemused but I was livid. I then heard this rumour repeated by someone and so I told them that I'd consulted a lawyer and that they would be a witness in a slander case against this batshit woman. They were terrified and next thing I know she is standing on my doorstep crying and saying she didn't want our friendship to end but "you wouldn't tell me what was going on".

I told her I wanted nothing more to do with her and that she would have to tell everyone that she'd told these lies to that that if I heard one more word about this repeated she would be in court and they would also be called as witnesses. She ended up ruining her reputation without any help from me and nearly everyone avoided her after that.

ARabbitisaBunny · 01/09/2021 09:04

New people moved in next door us. We had a lot in common and quickly became good friends. One day, a neighbour (who I hardly knew) from further down the road knocked and started shouting at me, demanding to know if I thought she was thick! Turns out she was insulted because she’d found out that the new neighbours had asked me and DH to join them at a quiz night at their children’s school. New neighbours/friends had never spoken to the woman, so I’ve no idea why she thought she’d be invited or why it was my fault!

moresugarpls · 01/09/2021 09:12

@mrjonesphonedtoday

Neighbour 1 because I won't let them use my drive. They have never spoken to me. They seemed to think my drive is theirs even though they actually live several houses (and drives) away. Also they have their own drive and I have no idea why they won't use it. They started talking shite about me to anyone who would listen because I was parking in my own drive which prevents them from using it. Then they started parking across my drive (blocking my car in) to make some sort of point. I was fed up of dealing with it all and since they won't speak to me I decided to phone the police to report a car blocking my drive. The police apparently phoned neighbour who eventually moved their car into the road in front of my house. Their hatred towards me has really ramped up since then. Every day they drive past their house and drive and park in front of my house right up to the very edge of my drive so I have to struggle around their car to get in and out. If they're outside when I'm coming and going they stare me down but still have never spoken to me. I've been told by other neighbours that neighbour 1 feels the parking problem is mine so I am the one who should go speak with them. I don't have time for all the drama so I just ignore them.

Neighbour 2 has never spoken to me either but also talks shite about me to anyone who will listen because she is friends with Neighbour 1 and is 'aghast' that I won't allow Neighbour 1 to park on my drive and that I haven't approached neighbour 1 about my problem Hmm

Neighbour 3 was using his leaf blower for hours several days per week all year round right next to my house. He also does diy what feels like daily and there is constant noise which DH and I have tried to ignore for the sake of keeping the peace. DH and I decided to buy a leaf blower instead of raking up our large garden and after using it once for about 15 minutes neighbour came over raging about the noise we were making. He couldn't see the irony of yelling at us after one 15 minute session vs his years of diy and leaf blowing starting from 7:45am most days and going until past 11pm in the summer.

Neighbour 4 we caught him regularly looking into our windows so we put up blinds which I tended to keep closed. The police turned up one day and it turns out he had reported us for 'drugs' and the police said they had to investigate all reports. The neighbour told another neighbour that we must be doing something dodgy if we didn't open our blinds.
Neighbour 5 became enraged when I wouldn't agree to use his window cleaner. We were living in a bungalow at the time and I felt I could clean all the windows myself. He refused to speak with us afterwards.

Where tf do you live???
Fluffytheevil1 · 01/09/2021 09:16

Ndn got a puppy. It howled all hours of the night and kept us awake, we knocked and asked if she could see to it rather than leave it howling all night. She blew up, screeching that I was only renting and I had no right to tell her what to do. Should have known she’d be a dick when we moved in and she said have you bought and her face fell when we said no 🤔 thankfully we’ve moved now. She’s had her house on the market for about 2 years and it isn’t selling. It’s a lovely house, so must be her winning personality putting people off.

TheSquashyHatOfMrGnosspelius · 01/09/2021 09:21

Asshole neighbour with an ego the size of a planet had just had his second hip replacement and was looking after his daughters two GSD's while she was on holiday.

My Shih Tzu was trying to kill them both through the fence so I scooped him up as he is 2% the size of them put together but fearless as fuck as anyone that has ever owned a Shit will know.

In the upswing my neighbour grabbed my dog and was holding above the two GSD's as they were trying to jump up and kill him and Shit was wiggling trying to boss the pair of them. Had the NDN dropped him (what with just having a second hip replacement and all) my dog would have been ripped apart in seconds.

I screamed at him to hand Shit back over the fence but the more I screamed the further into his garden he walked with my dog as bait.

DH heard the commotion, came out and bellowed at the NDN to hand the dog back over and NDN threw the dog at me and stomped off.

I haven't spoken to him for nearly fiteen years when we had coffee in each others houses and been good friends for the four years prior. He has never apologised.

If my dog had died I would have put my work steelies on and kicked him to death myself.

blackheartsgirl · 01/09/2021 09:21

Starting the car and going to work. Like I did every morning at 7.30. And i was quiet eg shut my door quietly and no radio.

He was retired and didn't like getting up before half nine!

thereisonlyoneofme · 01/09/2021 09:40

My NDN (Still there) got the arse with me because I asked them to move a dustbin chock full of dog crap from outside my back gate.

sashh · 01/09/2021 10:18

Slightly dotty new neighbour moved into the house that backs on to mine.

She was always asking for lifts so I decided to make a regular weekly shopping trip and take her with me.

So far so good.

Her daughter came to visit and neighbour went into hospital.

I visited neighbour in hospital and her daughter went, well I can only describe as insane when she found out.

Daughter tried to break into my house to, 'f*ing twat' me. She really scared me.

Neighbour came out of hospital and a week or two later wanted to resume the shopping trip, fine, np.

She arrives at my house with the daughter.

I said, "I can't have anyone in my care who I believe is a threat".

That's when I found out where the daughter's attitude came from, I was called all the names under the sun.

Our gardens were separated by a fence but a solid wood screen type thing was erected and she hasn't spoken to me since.

FatCatThinCat · 01/09/2021 11:03

DS's toys go in the way of him painting his garage. He was in our garden at the time (without asking) and was flinging them across the garden in anger at them being in his way. Dickhead.

meanbeany · 01/09/2021 11:13

@Bollindger

DD went out for a Bike ride around the block and overtook her DD on her bike, mine was not allowed to be the lead. My DD 10 years later got better grades and is going to a Fantastic Uni, hers didn't even make A levels, I never told her, or posted about it, and she actually wanted us to decline the place and DD to go work in a shop like her DD,,,
Whaaaaattt!
butitsmyinsurance · 01/09/2021 11:39

Years ago I lived in a house and the neighbour across the road decided he was going to start selling cars and running a taxi business all from his home. He had a 4 car drive which was always filled with the various taxis, and our road and the surrounding roads were always filled with the cars for sale. We had never really spoken and one day he decided (without a word to me) that during the day when I was at work he would park some of the cars for sale on my drive and photograph them with my house, my newly laid drive, my garden that I spent hours every weekend tending to all in the background of the photos that he would then post on car sale sites. I had all sorts of people turning up to look at the cars and he expected me to send them over to his house. He also wanted to park the cars in my drive when he had scheduled viewings so the potential buyers could turn up at my house, park at my house, walk around to discuss the car for sale, take a test drive and then return to my drive and possibly sell the car all from my drive. This happened mostly at the weekends when I was there and trying to get on with my own busy schedule.
When I found out about all of this and told him to stop he kicked off that I was a B^^^ who was trying to ruin his business and he couldn't see why I should have a problem with him using my property. I tried to tell him that although we were all on the road finding his new business a nuisance, all I was asking is that he stop using my property. He continued to kick off and I eventually got fed up and reported him to the council who came out to investigate and eventually shut it all down. Turns out he was doing more than just selling cars and leasing out taxis. I was ever so glad to move away from that.

thenewduchessofhastings · 01/09/2021 11:42

My NDN (semi detached) hates us for simply living here;they are grumpy gits in their 80's who nobody on the street really talks to.

The weirdest thing they got upset with us for was for having our back garden or professionally landscaped.

The day we moved in they demanded to know what we were planning on doing about that "awful garden".They spent the next years between us moving in and last year constantly having a moan about x,y&z to do with our garden.

We had it landscaped after years of saving to have it done (it was 16K in the end) and they were really angry we could afford to have it done asking the landscapers "how much is it costing them (us)"," well I don't know where they got that kind of money from" and "well my husband had to do our garden himself".

They are even more offended we have our landscape gardeners in once a month to maintain the garden too.

undecided2022 · 01/09/2021 12:34

@Motnight

Wow, undecided2022, your husband is fuming! That changes everything.
Hahhahaha muggle
SantaIsReal · 01/09/2021 12:59

Neighbours are a couple in their 50s. I had just had DC1 and after a horrific birth and hospital stay, we finally got home. That first night home, they decided to have a party where we could hear the music blaring through to the walls. It got to about 3am and we then hear them, mainly her, very loudly having sex! I had had enough at that point, I was tired, ill and sore from having section so I banged on the adjoining wall and she had the nerve to shout through to us!

We are now, surprisingly on very good terms. just took 5 years