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What's the most ridiculous reason a neighbour has got mardy with you?

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NoEffingWay · 31/08/2021 20:00

I once was accused of not saying hello to a neighbour and he told my parents I was rude (I was about 20!). In reality I had said 'hello' but he was totally deaf and didn't hear me Hmm. No amount of explanation would suffice and he spent the next few years staring me down and huffing whenever he saw me.

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Bargebill19 · 31/08/2021 20:51

They day we moved in, keys not even in the padlock for the gates, so we could park the car. Engine still running. Neighbours brother comes over and tells me it would be nice if I sat with his sister (actual neighbour) and brought her a daily paper.
I just laughed and said “no, as I don’t even know where the local shop is let alone my kettle, as I’ve not even moved in yet”. Never spoke again to home or his sister.
Once she died, the house is now rented. I have successfully managed to piss off two sets of renters as I won’t allow them to park on my drive. Apparently having a double garage plus two driveways capable of holding five cars each, is not enough space for them. They do need to park in my tiny one car sized drive….. nope, not in my book they don’t. !

PaperMonster · 31/08/2021 20:57

A neighbour complained about us because we had a visitor on our drive which meant he couldn’t position his car/caravan correctly to be able to reverse into his drive as he needed to drive onto our drive to be able to do so.

Hoppinggreen · 31/08/2021 20:57

He could see my dog
It wasn’t doing anything to bother him or barking but he didn’t like dogs and if he looked out of some of his upstairs windows he could see into my garden and he might see my dog
I suggested he not look into my garden from his upstairs windows.
That was no good because if he came out of his front door at the same time as I did and I had the dog with me he might be able to see my dog (Detached houses with a hedge in between).
I suggested he fuck off

WillaWeatherspoon · 31/08/2021 21:08

Elderly NDN banged on my door and demanded to know if I'd been playing the piano (middle of the day, I'd only played for about 20 minutes). I immediately apologised and explained that it's actually digital so I would play with headphones next time so I didn't disturb her. Then she said she wasn't complaining that I'd played but that I'd stopped - she'd been enjoying listening and wanted me to carry on 'for an hour or two'. She got a bit grumpy with me when I explained that I was getting ready to go out so couldn't right now, and she never spoke to me again after that!

EnjoyingTheSilence · 31/08/2021 21:09

These are utterly insane!

FedNlanders · 31/08/2021 21:10

Omg mine is just vile she moans about everything from me not opening my curtains by 9am (I leave the front ones shut because she looks in!!) to working through the pandemic, to having takeaways, having visitors on a Sunday and buying a big car. She also complained to the council we have 2 bins (pay for extra because of big family)

Bollindger · 31/08/2021 21:11

DD went out for a Bike ride around the block and overtook her DD on her bike, mine was not allowed to be the lead.
My DD 10 years later got better grades and is going to a Fantastic Uni, hers didn't even make A levels, I never told her, or posted about it, and she actually wanted us to decline the place and DD to go work in a shop like her DD,,,

IncludeWomenInThePrequel · 31/08/2021 21:16

She put up a fence and paid half - the fence guy put a note through my door saying it'll be £360 for our share.

I never even acknowledged the note but she gave me evils every day after. No fucking way was I paying for half of a fence she wanted put up, plus she never even had the decency to ask!

Theworldisquiethere · 31/08/2021 21:19

I told their child to stop throwing stones at my children

We dared park in our own parking space instead of letting them use it for one of their many vehicles

anotherdeadorchid · 31/08/2021 21:24

Neighbours of my parents were annoyed that they wouldn't pay them for photos they took of us when we were children playing in our own back garden!

AdoptedBumpkin · 31/08/2021 21:26

At our old house, a neighbour got miffed because a postman delivered my parcel to her house. It didn't cause a major problem but they were known for feuds with neighbours.

Bluenotgreenmilk · 31/08/2021 21:30

We parked in front of our house
The house we’ve lived in for the last 5 years with no problems
She moved in and within a month was screeching at us to park 10 minutes walk away while she parked outside her house as normal
We haven’t and have parked outside our house as normal so she got the hump and now glares at us when we see her-and she’s bad mouthed us to anyone who will listen-I.e nobody
We just ignore her and have got on with our lives

Shedbuilder · 31/08/2021 21:36

I lived next door to a family with three teenagers. One played the drums, one the violin and the third used to have her friends round to warble Destiny's Child songs. The mother played at a local church and used to practice her hymn tunes on the piano at 7am on Sunday mornings. I wore earplugs most of the time.

After enduring this for a year or two I got a job a distance away and decided to rent the place out. When I told the people next door they got stroppy and said 'I hope you're going to get quiet tenants, we don't want noisy ones.' I promised that the tenants wouldn't be any noisier than them. As I said it their son launched into a long, incredibly loud drum solo. They never spoke to me again and I hear that they told people I was a terrible neighbour.

HollyStripes · 31/08/2021 21:48

My neighbour got really angry and shouted at me to not let my children play with balls in my garden as they may go over into her garden. she has a large pond and all the children love it but they can drown in ponds. she knows someone who its happened to. so i need to stop my children playing in my garden because they inevitably end up in her garden chasing balls.

i didnt have children at the time. had lived there a year and never once had a child over.

Howareyouflower · 31/08/2021 22:13

[quote dunkaccino]@ComtesseDeSpair I understand your neighbour's concern. Salt is really toxic to plants - if it had washed onto the lawn/plants there could have been a dead patch there for years - it doesn't just kill people, it's a plant killer too (and everything living in the soil) - proper nasty stuff.[/quote]
That's what I thought . I throw the bowl of salt water my husband soaks his feet in, over the weeds in my patio, every day. The weeds won't die.

russiansnowball · 31/08/2021 22:13

The sink in our ensuite corroded and flooded our entire bedroom. We had to call a plumber round to literally stop the water rising above ankle level.

He drilled for ten minutes at 9.45pm. She came out to scream at us for "doing noisy work without informing her in advance'. She literally peered down into our basement level ensuite and could see us wading around in the water, and wouldn't accept that it was just as much news to us as to her we'd need to sort that in the evening.

Hadn't spoken to her before, haven't spoken to her since, and that was about three years ago. Utter horrible cow.

mrjonesphonedtoday · 31/08/2021 22:29

Neighbour 1 because I won't let them use my drive. They have never spoken to me. They seemed to think my drive is theirs even though they actually live several houses (and drives) away. Also they have their own drive and I have no idea why they won't use it. They started talking shite about me to anyone who would listen because I was parking in my own drive which prevents them from using it. Then they started parking across my drive (blocking my car in) to make some sort of point. I was fed up of dealing with it all and since they won't speak to me I decided to phone the police to report a car blocking my drive. The police apparently phoned neighbour who eventually moved their car into the road in front of my house. Their hatred towards me has really ramped up since then. Every day they drive past their house and drive and park in front of my house right up to the very edge of my drive so I have to struggle around their car to get in and out. If they're outside when I'm coming and going they stare me down but still have never spoken to me. I've been told by other neighbours that neighbour 1 feels the parking problem is mine so I am the one who should go speak with them. I don't have time for all the drama so I just ignore them.

Neighbour 2 has never spoken to me either but also talks shite about me to anyone who will listen because she is friends with Neighbour 1 and is 'aghast' that I won't allow Neighbour 1 to park on my drive and that I haven't approached neighbour 1 about my problem Hmm

Neighbour 3 was using his leaf blower for hours several days per week all year round right next to my house. He also does diy what feels like daily and there is constant noise which DH and I have tried to ignore for the sake of keeping the peace. DH and I decided to buy a leaf blower instead of raking up our large garden and after using it once for about 15 minutes neighbour came over raging about the noise we were making. He couldn't see the irony of yelling at us after one 15 minute session vs his years of diy and leaf blowing starting from 7:45am most days and going until past 11pm in the summer.

Neighbour 4 we caught him regularly looking into our windows so we put up blinds which I tended to keep closed. The police turned up one day and it turns out he had reported us for 'drugs' and the police said they had to investigate all reports. The neighbour told another neighbour that we must be doing something dodgy if we didn't open our blinds.
Neighbour 5 became enraged when I wouldn't agree to use his window cleaner. We were living in a bungalow at the time and I felt I could clean all the windows myself. He refused to speak with us afterwards.

HazelBite · 31/08/2021 22:33

Mine complained that I had allowed my female friends to give her husband their phone numbers at a party I had.
They had in fact given him made up numbers as it was the only way they could get rid of his attentions.
After that he was always deeply unpleasant towards me, wheras she would acknowledge me by nodding if she saw me.

putthetubeinthebin · 31/08/2021 22:38

Noisy sex. Which was not all that noisy

Brigante9 · 31/08/2021 22:41

I asked very politely if the neighbour in the flat above would mind turning down his music at stupid o’clock. He punched me, the police were called. He claimed we had broken into his flat, despite the lock being broken and him using a screwdriver for weeks to open the outwards opening door. I’m blowed if I know how we were meant to open the door outwards.

He was subsequently very upset that my DH’s confirmation of joining the police came through the communal postbox. It was put first property, I was very unhappy at moving, but I couldn’t tolerate the constant harassment/threats and having to move meant we got our ‘forever’ house a lot quicker than we would otherwise have done.

Ilovewheelychairs · 31/08/2021 22:51

My neighbour complained because I flushed the toilet during the night and it had woken him up. He took this complaint to my letting agent.

This from the guy who held late night parties, keeping the whole street up til the early hours at least once a fortnight.

He also accused me of throwing cigarette butts out of my window into his front lawn. I told him I had never smoked in my life, but perhaps the butts had been left there from the little huddle of smokers that had stood there the night before during one of his parties. That was another complaint to my letting agent.

I moved about 6 months after he moved in surprisingly.

NeighbourDearest · 31/08/2021 23:04

One neighbour, who lived down the street (not next door), walked past our house one afternoon and heard our child whistling in the back garden. Passive aggressive social media post to the neighbourhood group about 'the whistling child' quickly followed. She's since moved, thank fuck.

Quick99 · 31/08/2021 23:09

I wouldn't let her teenage repeatedly kick a ball against the side of my house and window. Absolute lunatic she was.
We were forced to move in the end the anti social behaviour was affecting my 2 young children but it did us a massive favour as we absolutely love the village we moved to and new school /house.

OhGiveUp · 31/08/2021 23:11

My elderly next door neighbour called me a trollop for hanging my underwear out to dry the first week I was there.
She never spoke to me again for the remaining sixteen years she lived there ( she died )

MedusasBadHairDay · 31/08/2021 23:12

DH was using garden tools, in our garden, at the same time as our children were playing down the other end of the garden.

It was a decently long garden, so they weren't anywhere near the tools.

They were hand tools, not power tools. He was weeding.

I was supervising the children, so they couldn't have got near the tools.

She was shouting at us over the fence that the children were going to die, which of course terrified them, we had to take them indoors as they were crying about the scary lady.

As far as I'm aware she had no mental health problems etc. She just didn't like us, partly because we had friends over who weren't white, partly because we wouldn't tell her our business (she was the local gossip).