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We are in a lovely holiday cottage and we keep breaking things. Is anyone else as clumsy as us?

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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 20:12

Day 1: Dog swished his tail and knocked a glass of red wine up the immaculate pastel coloured matt walls.

Day 2: I smashed a wine glass that can only be sourced in the states (I googled) to try to find a replacement myself.

Day 3: The swing bin lid is broken. I'm not entirely sure this was us but there is an inventory at change over and no mention of this so I assume it's our fault.

Day 4: Dog creates a 'viewing window' in one of those tow along bike trailer things. He hasn't chewed it, just rested his head as we were cycling and ripped a hole in the (fairly insubstantial) lining.

I have ADHD and am exceptionally clumsy and used to paying the ADHD tax for all the things I cock up but this holiday has been something else. We've got 5 more days, what will we break next?

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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 21:25

Can't those of you with dyspraxia and ADHD just BE MORE CAREFUL? BE BETTER AT REMEMBERING?

No?

No.

We can't.

A little understanding goes a long way but a few people have seized upon a light thread to shame us.

Why? What are you getting from it? Please don't. Just scroll and move on if you don't get it.

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SpaceBethSmith · 30/08/2021 21:27

Have tried to just focus OP?

Boredhimtodeath · 30/08/2021 21:27

We have no glasses in our house now due to ADHD tax. We all use Klean Kanteens. They also have lids, so no extra cleaning for me either

I use a sports bottle, I drop it at least 4 times a day. Used to have a chillys bottle but I smashed the kitchen floor tiles with it so swapped to good old plastic!

We stayed in an AirBnB recently and I took them with us There was no way I was changing it

I went to an air bnb with no dining table and a white sofa and white carpet. Ate my meals sat on the tiny kitchen floor to reduce the chance of stains!

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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 21:27

@SpaceBethSmith

Have tried to just focus OP?
Why didn't I think of that??? haha
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Boredhimtodeath · 30/08/2021 21:28

Can't those of you with dyspraxia and ADHD just BE MORE CAREFUL? BE BETTER AT REMEMBERING?

And the blind be better at focussing

And the deaf be better at listening

The dead be better at breathing

starfishmummy · 30/08/2021 21:30

We stayed in a holiday cottage where everything g was "named brands" - and I don’t mean IKEA!! The crockery was all Denby. DS (who has SN) is clumsy so I spotted some other pretty but cheaper looking crockery which I designated for his use. I rather liked it, so when we got home I googled the brand only to find it was about twice the price of the Denby! Fortunately we managed the week with no breakages.

SpaceBethSmith · 30/08/2021 21:31

@Boredhimtodeath my people!

I kick mine over every time I stand up. I don’t have a coffee table because I kept falling over it. Room isn’t big enough for a side table, awkward layout too. Last week, I kicked a bowl of cereal clean across the room. That’s what I get for sitting on the floor and dress eating Coco Pops at 2am, then getting up to make a cuppa before id even had a spoonful.

I’ve also put things down onto thin air, for some bizarre reason.

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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 21:32

@Boredhimtodeath

We have no glasses in our house now due to ADHD tax. We all use Klean Kanteens. They also have lids, so no extra cleaning for me either

I use a sports bottle, I drop it at least 4 times a day. Used to have a chillys bottle but I smashed the kitchen floor tiles with it so swapped to good old plastic!

We stayed in an AirBnB recently and I took them with us There was no way I was changing it

I went to an air bnb with no dining table and a white sofa and white carpet. Ate my meals sat on the tiny kitchen floor to reduce the chance of stains!

Yes to no glasses. Yes to bottles with lids attached so I don't have to deal with the cupboard basket of doom to try to find a matching lid and we may just have brought dust sheets with us so we didn't have to sit on the bare sofas...
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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 21:33

@Boredhimtodeath

Can't those of you with dyspraxia and ADHD just BE MORE CAREFUL? BE BETTER AT REMEMBERING?

And the blind be better at focussing

And the deaf be better at listening

The dead be better at breathing

I know, right?

Thank god the sanctimonious of mumsnet are here to talk us out of our issues.

"Be healed!" said some randomer on mumsnet. And thus it was so.

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SpaceBethSmith · 30/08/2021 21:33

I may or may not have bough around 12 spare lids… Blush

starfishmummy · 30/08/2021 21:35

@Boredhimtodeath

We have no glasses in our house now due to ADHD tax. We all use Klean Kanteens. They also have lids, so no extra cleaning for me either

I use a sports bottle, I drop it at least 4 times a day. Used to have a chillys bottle but I smashed the kitchen floor tiles with it so swapped to good old plastic!

We stayed in an AirBnB recently and I took them with us There was no way I was changing it

I went to an air bnb with no dining table and a white sofa and white carpet. Ate my meals sat on the tiny kitchen floor to reduce the chance of stains!

These days we always take an insulated "to go" Cup for ds (young adult, SN) as tipping over a full cuppa is his speciality. Yes they still spill if the drinking hole is open, but it's more of a trickle rather than a flood.
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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 21:35

[quote SpaceBethSmith]@Boredhimtodeath my people!

I kick mine over every time I stand up. I don’t have a coffee table because I kept falling over it. Room isn’t big enough for a side table, awkward layout too. Last week, I kicked a bowl of cereal clean across the room. That’s what I get for sitting on the floor and dress eating Coco Pops at 2am, then getting up to make a cuppa before id even had a spoonful.

I’ve also put things down onto thin air, for some bizarre reason.[/quote]
I once lent backwards when I was sitting on a bunk bed - assuming that the bunk bed was pushed against the wall. It wasn't I got to about 90 degrees leaning backwards before realising there was nothing behind me. At all. My friend pissed herself laughing, luckily I was only 17 and still had the core and back muscles to pull myself back up...

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SpaceBethSmith · 30/08/2021 21:35

I’m not telling you how many I have left though Wink

bumblingbovine49 · 30/08/2021 21:36

@Mollythewally

I'm not sure what all of the snippy comments are about - I've already arranged to pay for the broken items, all of them.

I was asking if anybody else suffers this level of clumsiness.

I'm sorry if that's disappointing of those of you who want to post stern facedly about returned deposits.

We break so many things in this house. I am sure I have ADHD or Dyspraxia and have over the last 30 years spilt so many glasses of drink at home and at work that I am constantly teased about it. My father used to get very annoyed with me but it never helped !

I often miss my mouth with a drink, or put something down and end up missing the table .I am sometimes talking and just somehow my wrist flips while holding a drink. I often get so animated when I am talking that I end up hitting drinks and even bottles over with my hands . It is pretty annoying I suppose but I can't seem to help it. We have had to buy complete new sets of glasses several times until DH bought some really ugly but very durable thick glass ones which seem to have lasted better than most

DS has ADHD and has broken more thinks than I can count in his 16 years. So between him and me we are a very clumsy household

SpaceBethSmith · 30/08/2021 21:38

Christ my typing is atrocious tonight.

Lawd! Oh to have strong core muscles. That is a distant memory.

I remain shocked that I have yet to break a bone (I’m 35).

Middle DD has ADHD and I’ve spent more time with her A&E than the other two combined and quadrupled. The year she turned 2, she had her head glued shut five fucking times. She gave no fucks and was a constant danger to herself.

SimonJT · 30/08/2021 21:40

We’ve got one, sadly our first guests had a handleless fridge as I managed to snap it off on the first open, I also managed to do this to the fridge at Grandmas house, my own fridge has a metal handle so I can’t snap it.

I stayed in a cottage once that had one of those doors that slides in under the oven, I pulled it off the first time I pulled it out to shut the door. The owner lived across the road, she looked quite shocked when she answered the door and saw me there holding the oven door.

UnGoogled · 30/08/2021 21:40

Anyone else so used to bashing into things that a mysterious bruise means nothing? No recollection of where they came from, happen so frequently as to be inconsequential. My partner was horrified when we first got together!

godmum56 · 30/08/2021 21:42

its not just dyspraxia...I now can't lift heavy stuff because of my wrist ache....got fed up with dropping china plates and good heavy glasses so I have now gone to melamine plates and good quality plastic glasses....for those whoa re intersted, M and S do decent stuff and not expensive....I think its on sale now.

Babysharkdoodoodood · 30/08/2021 21:42

@UnGoogled

Anyone else so used to bashing into things that a mysterious bruise means nothing? No recollection of where they came from, happen so frequently as to be inconsequential. My partner was horrified when we first got together!

Yup. Currently have a huge one on my left forearm. No idea where I bashed it.

godmum56 · 30/08/2021 21:43

@UnGoogled

Anyone else so used to bashing into things that a mysterious bruise means nothing? No recollection of where they came from, happen so frequently as to be inconsequential. My partner was horrified when we first got together!
yup....and I hook my sleeves on doorknobs
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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 21:43

@UnGoogled

Anyone else so used to bashing into things that a mysterious bruise means nothing? No recollection of where they came from, happen so frequently as to be inconsequential. My partner was horrified when we first got together!
Yep.

I get this from friends and family all the time pointing out mysterious bruises that I have no idea of the provenance of.

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SpaceBethSmith · 30/08/2021 21:44

I usually have a minimum of 10 bruises on me at any one time.

Once I managed to open the door onto my face, which resulting in me needing a tooth removed. That was a fun day.

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Mollythewally · 30/08/2021 21:44

@godmum56

its not just dyspraxia...I now can't lift heavy stuff because of my wrist ache....got fed up with dropping china plates and good heavy glasses so I have now gone to melamine plates and good quality plastic glasses....for those whoa re intersted, M and S do decent stuff and not expensive....I think its on sale now.
Yes, to the weight also! At home we have cereal bowls made of wheat that can't smash and are also light as a feather. If only neurodiverse people ruled the world!
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Boredhimtodeath · 30/08/2021 21:46

Yes to the bruises. I was once wearing shorts in college and a teacher asked about the bruises on my legs and I just shrugged and said “I must’ve walked into stuff” because I didn’t know where they were from. A safeguarding form must have been completed because I got pulled in and interviewed by the deputy head about my home life.

SpaceBethSmith · 30/08/2021 21:47

Every time I break something, I break out into Taylor Swift

“This is why I can’t have nice things”