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Anyone ever cancelled their wedding on the day because they were ill?

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SnarkyBag · 26/08/2021 16:04

Am lying in bed on day 3 of a mammoth migraine. Have been sick twice and also on day two of hideously heavy period.

It occurred to me this morning when I crawled out of bed to be sick that if today were my wedding day that I’d spent thousands of pounds on I would literally not be able to pull myself together to at least make it through the day.

I know obviously people do cancel weddings but just wondering how ill would you have to be to cancel on the day and alternatively how ill were you if you managed to struggle through regardless?

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Blueeyedgirl21 · 26/08/2021 16:52

I think I’d have to be literally hospitalized- emergency Appendix op or blood clot or asthma attack or something like that, and literally not be out for the time of the wedding. I can’t imagine just canceling especially if people have travelled. In your case you could potentially get some sort of emergency gp to prescribe something for both the nausea and pain and maybe transexamic acid or something g for the period? You’d be completely do-Lally but at least present, and could maybe re do the pictures another day when you felt better and just do ceremony, quick speech thanking people and then leave them to it to party?

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SnarkyBag · 26/08/2021 16:56

Hypothetically I’d have no issue with people just cracking on with the party without me. I dunno maybe I’d make the effort if I was still a fresh faced twenty something. Maybe 25 years of marriage and peri menopause has robbed me of any notion of romance I just literally don’t think I could summon the strength today

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StCharlotte · 26/08/2021 17:24

I'm hungover today (from a wedding!) and I'm going away tomorrow (for another wedding). Every time I get up to think about packing I have to sit down again. Definitely would have struggled to get married today!

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Guineapigbridge · 26/08/2021 17:29

I had to plow through my wedding at 9 weeks pregnant and VERY morning sick. I threw up at least twenty times on the day. It was before I'd told anyone I was pg (husband knew) so all vomiting was done in secret. I drank apple juice and soda water as fake champagne.

Twilightstarbright · 26/08/2021 17:42

I had a friend who was very unwell on her wedding day with an autoimmune disease. She had to go to lie down after the ceremony before the dinner and pretty much went to bed after the meal.

hocusspocuss · 26/08/2021 17:55

I had a UTI on my wedding day. Still did it tho 💪

SpnBaby1967 · 26/08/2021 17:57

I had an horrific summer cold and a temp on my wedding day. Hadnt sleep and honestly felt rough as shit.

I still looked better in our wedding photos than my DH who has a black eye (that's a whole other story)

Carycy · 26/08/2021 17:59

I think the only thing that would stop me would be full on d and v where it’s coming out both ends at the same times. Luckily for us that happened on the honeymoon, not the wedding day.

atleastitswarm · 26/08/2021 18:00

I often think this OP! I think about how lucky I am that despite being a fairly sickly person I’ve never been unwell on an important day. Some of the days I’ve had awful flu or migraine etc and feel like such shit that even watching tv feels too much I always think oh my god what do people do if they wake up on a huge occasion and feel like this

riotlady · 26/08/2021 18:01

My dad came to my wedding recovering from a severe chest infection and pneumonia. Could hardly manage to speak to do his speech but got so drunk by the end of the night he was dancing away on the dance floor. Said he felt better the next day so maybe it was curative!

Bloodybridget · 26/08/2021 18:02

Not an illness, but someone I knew gave birth to her seventh child in the early hours of her wedding day. Her older daughter carried the baby up the aisle behind her.

DamnShesaSexyChick · 26/08/2021 18:03

I always think this whenever I have norovirus, there’s just no way I could get married.

Favouriteworstnightmare · 26/08/2021 18:15

Outing but my ex husband & I flew to my home area to get married followed by his family amongst whom was someone carrying a bug which ripped through the wedding party in the run up.

My husband to be and various other family members ended up in out of hours for anti sickness jabs. We had to pause the ceremony so he could be sick and we finally sat through our meal when he promptly fainted when he cracked open a bread roll. Ended up in a&e in my dress for several hours. Got back to the party and no one had saved me a bit of pudding. Was disproportionately gutted about that.
We broke up 9 weeks later as he was in love with his best female friend. Which was nice.

BiscuitLover09876 · 26/08/2021 18:19

This was my absolute fear for about a month before I was very, very careful for that final month!

iloverunningslow · 26/08/2021 18:40

Not on my wedding day, but I had that horrendous migraine in early labour. I obviously wasn't allowed decent painkillers so I had to use literally any other means necessary as not going through with the forthcoming event wasn't remotely an option.
I also had to take work exams that you got fired if you failed, and a no show counted as a failure. I never had a migraine during one but I did have one the day before and I was so deeply afraid! I always used to bring in a variety of drinks, sweets, salty crackers, extensive collection of painkillers...

BikeRunSki · 26/08/2021 18:46

A colleague had norovirus on her wedding day. She did the registry office bit, then went to hide in her room. Her DH partied for the both of them.

Bigpjbottoms282 · 26/08/2021 18:50

I was so worried about this in the run up to our wedding as I have an autoimmune disease. Thankfully, for once in my life, it gave me a day off!

I remember reading am article with Angela Griffin and her husband had a stomach bug on their wedding day, made it through the ceremony and missed the evening do.

PotteringAlong · 26/08/2021 18:51

I know someone who literally dragged herself through the ceremony and then went back to bed and didn’t make it to a single section of the reception. We took lots of photos for her

Bigpjbottoms282 · 26/08/2021 18:53

PotteringAlong poor thing, what was wrong with her? Was she upset to miss it? I can imagine being really upset at the time but it becoming a great story to tell the grandkids.

Ifyouarehappyandyouknowit21 · 26/08/2021 18:56

Not on the day but on our one year wedding anniversary, we went into lock down, I had a high fever and very unwell (Covid I think) and just thought, thank god I got married a year before! I wouldn't have been able to get married that day. I couldn't even get out of bed

PotteringAlong · 26/08/2021 18:57

@Bigpjbottoms282 norovirus. Was in bed the whole day before but knew they wouldn’t get their money back so they cracked on.

The wedding lasted less than 2 years, so it might have been a sign!

Sackofnickles · 26/08/2021 18:57

Yes - but luckily it was abroad and an in house hotel job so they were able to do it a few days later!

MrsMoastyToasty · 26/08/2021 19:01

We went to a wedding reception (social club type of place) where the caterer had fallen ill the same morning and was unable to do the preparation and deliver the food.
Bride and grooms families did a ring around (pre mobile days so no texts) and everyone brought a dish of something nice.

bathorshower · 26/08/2021 19:03

This was a concern for us - DH gets migraines, which are occasionally so bad he can't speak. And if you're so ill you can't speak (or move...) then I'm pretty sure you can't legally consent anyway. Thankfully he was fine on the day, though we did ensure the timings meant he could eat at normal meal times (including beforehand).

ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 · 26/08/2021 19:04

Possibly outing but I was unwell with pneumonia on my wedding day I really had to battle through and looking back at photos, it was obvious. I wasn’t hospitalised but needed another 3 courses of antibiotics and 4 courses of steroids after that. Took me weeks to recover. Bloody awful!

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