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Anyone ever cancelled their wedding on the day because they were ill?

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SnarkyBag · 26/08/2021 16:04

Am lying in bed on day 3 of a mammoth migraine. Have been sick twice and also on day two of hideously heavy period.

It occurred to me this morning when I crawled out of bed to be sick that if today were my wedding day that I’d spent thousands of pounds on I would literally not be able to pull myself together to at least make it through the day.

I know obviously people do cancel weddings but just wondering how ill would you have to be to cancel on the day and alternatively how ill were you if you managed to struggle through regardless?

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Notsurenow43 · 26/08/2021 19:08

Dh went to the doctor on Monday. Was given antibiotics. Back to the doctor on Wednesday and given stronger antibiotics and threatened with hospitalisation. They planned to admit him on the Friday but we got married on the Saturday. He narrowly avoided being hospitalised and he literally looked like a dead man walking

weakpanda · 26/08/2021 19:12

I started miscarrying the morning of my wedding, would of loved to have cancelled it.

Yellow85 · 26/08/2021 19:12

My bridesmaid, my mum and I knocked back anti sickness Imodium with our champers the morning of my wedding. Just incase 😂 Bridesmaid had literally thought of every scenario and planned accordingly

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MiddleParking · 26/08/2021 19:16

I think bodies can be quite good at sensing these things and holding off until afterwards. Lots of people I know, including me, have a tendency to fall ill (with normal viruses etc, obviously not big stuff) after important/stressful events.

MiddleParking · 26/08/2021 19:17

Oh god, how awful. Sorry to hear it

RagzReturnsRebooted · 26/08/2021 19:17

I had a stomach bug on my wedding day. Felt sick all morning, everyone kept saying it was nerves and how sweet (I'm not the type, so I knew it wasn't, I don't get nauseous unless I'm sick).
Spent the evening throwing up while DH slept off his early drinking on the sofa. Luckily we hadn't spent much or planned a reception, so it was fine as I didn't miss anything other than a wedding night shag.

HurryOnHome · 26/08/2021 19:22

Omg @Favouriteworstnightmare that's awful.

Friend of mine was hospitalised just before her wedding (severe illness) . It was postponed, then called off for other reasons. Possibly for the best.

GameSetMatch · 26/08/2021 19:29

I had really bad morning sickness on my wedding day I was only 11 weeks so nobody knew and just thought I was poorly. I was running out the salon to be sick in a grid, it was very elegant! We told everybody during the speeches I was pregnant in the end.

TartanJumper · 26/08/2021 19:30

I think I would have to be extremely ill. even if I had to be wheeled down the aisle, I would want to marry. I would bin off the reception and party, though.

knittingaddict · 26/08/2021 19:41

I used to get really bad migraines in my youth. I would have stumbled through the service, tried not to throw up, apologised to my guests and husband and probably have to take to my bed in a darkened room. I definitely wouldn't have cancelled though. Our wedding was very low key though, so I wouldn't have missed a swanky do or wasted lots of money.

knittingaddict · 26/08/2021 19:43

Thinking about it I was actually ill the night before I got married with a virus type thing, although probably due to stress. I had a Lemsip and whisky and felt fine on the day. Not to be recommended of course, but it worked.

NotanotherboxofFrogs · 26/08/2021 19:44

A friends brother had to cancel on the day, he went out for lunch the day before the wedding with his best man and they both ordered knickerbocker glories for dessert. He had an anaphylactic reaction to the nuts and had never a reaction in his life before to anything.

He was taken to hospital and was there overnight and well into the next day, the hospital made every efforts to get him to the church on time and patched him up as good as possible to be able to attend the wedding but he was told to avoid all nuts and people eating nuts and had epipens just in case.

As he was walking out the main door of the hospital on way, he physically bumped into a teenager who was coming in who by bad luck was eating a bag of peanuts which spilt across him, cue another attack of anaphylaxis, this one was very hard to stabilise.

If he had not bumped into them, he would have been in time for the wedding which was pushed back for 20 minutes to give him time to get there. This was now communicated back to his bride via the church.

While he was being treated one of his friends who was with him started to drive his own car towards the ceremony (about 30 miles away) to let everyone know what happened and explain in person to the bride that he wasn't going to make it for the wedding. Unfortunately he crashed his car into a ditch with about 5 miles to go, so hitched a lift from a passer by. He was unhurt.

The reception went on ahead and carried on without the bride and groom. The bride changed clothes and went to be with him. He was finally discharged a few days later and they were married with a couple of witnesses. He celebrates 25th anniversary next year.

VaguelyInteresting · 26/08/2021 19:48

Was it Caitlin Moran who was miscarrying on her wedding day? I think she wrote about it in her first book.

NotanotherboxofFrogs · 26/08/2021 19:48

Have cancelled my own wedding with my partner due to ill health for both of us, 6 months before our booked date. It is highly likely due to his condition that the day would be spent in resus, due to the same reasons that we spent both his sisters weddings in resus. Strong emotions are not good and he ends up in a coma like state due to cataplexy.

Jconnais1chansonquivavsenerver · 26/08/2021 19:58

@Yellow85

My bridesmaid, my mum and I knocked back anti sickness Imodium with our champers the morning of my wedding. Just incase 😂 Bridesmaid had literally thought of every scenario and planned accordingly

I love that! Brilliant Bridesmaid!

Iusedtobeatroll · 26/08/2021 20:03

I had some horrendous virus on my wedding day. I don't have a dad so my 2 uncles carried walked me up the aisle, I said my vows sat down on a chair, DH dragged walked me out of the church and I managed to make it as far as the speeches before being put to bed by my mother.
I ended up in A and E 2 days later with pneumonia that had morphed into sepsis. I can't remember anything about my wedding day or the days after it- waking up in hospital was one hell of a shock
In the official wedding photo of DH and I outside the church he has me in what looks like one of those artful loving embraces with with bride draped over the groom. Except I look like a corpse in a wedding dress and the artful loving embrace was me draped over DH out of necessity as I would have ended up on the floor otherwise.

Probably should have cancelled it tbh

Kitfish · 26/08/2021 20:14

DH and I both came down with norovirus on the Monday - we were due to get married on the Friday. We were both so ill - I thought we would have to cancel. Had a 4-month old to look after at the time and no family support. It was horrific. Fortunately, we were able to drag ourselves out of bed on the Friday and go through with it. Didn't eat much though.

amusedbush · 26/08/2021 20:21

How funny - I was just thinking about this exact thing a couple of days ago! I was telling someone about the week running up to my wedding as I was rabid about not catching any bugs. A colleague came into my office with a cold and I made him go back to his own office and phone me with his question

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SnarkyBag · 26/08/2021 20:25

I’m impressed by how many of you have carried on like troopers! My wedding was very very low key so cancelling wouldn’t really have been a massive issue.

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Smartiepants79 · 26/08/2021 20:25

A wedding my mum was due to attend ( the daughter of her best friend) was cancelled on the day cos the bride was in hospital.
Gall bladder related if I remember correctly.

Sewaccidentprone · 26/08/2021 20:36

Not me, but ds2 who was 11 mths at the time vomited 4 times the night before our wedding, almost resulting on running out of cot bedding. Great timing. Remarkably you can’t tell on the photos (probably due to the concealer, foundation……). Couldn’t even have a bit of a lie in as had hairdressers appt at 9am.

Ds2 also slipped at nursery and split his nose open a couple of years later on our wedding anniversary. Picked him up at 4 and took him to a&e.

moanyhole · 26/08/2021 20:38

I had an awful pain in my left side on my wedding day. Pain got worse and worse. Took every painkiller going. Dh wanted to bring me to the hospital and cancel the whole thing but so many had travelled I battled on. Spent the day doubling over and then no pain and doubling over. Then I started bleeding. We booted to A and E that evening still in wedding dress. Ruptured fallopian tube from an ectopic and misscarrying a twin in the uterus at the same time. Surgeon said was the closest thing yet and told my dh he was very lucky to have a wife at all. We are both nurses and felt very silly indeed!

CeeceeBloomingdale · 26/08/2021 20:40

I imagine I'd have to be unconscious. I would push through somehow, even just the ceremony if I had the ability

Arsebucket · 26/08/2021 20:43

I did, my first wedding. It was planned for the wednesday, but I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks on the Sunday before and was bleeding heavily on the Tue eve. I had to beg my ex husband to postpone, he didn’t want to let his parents down.

It was only a registry office with parents and no one else though, so it wasn’t a big deal to cancel.
To be honest though, even if it was a huge wedding I would have cancelled, I was devastated and in pain.

Ex MIL was a fucking witch who said it was my punishment for falling pregnant before marriage.

woodfort · 26/08/2021 20:49

@DamnShesaSexyChick

I always think this whenever I have norovirus, there’s just no way I could get married.

Whenever I have a horrible headache I always think how awful it would be to go into labour on a day like that. I think actually people tend to rally though don’t they and your body tends to power through when you’ve got something important on, only to crash afterwards eg when you always get sick at the start of a holiday or spend a weekend in bed ill but are fine for work.

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