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Cutting DD's hair.

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DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:12

DD is 4 and has waist length hair, ordinarily I would never have let it get this long but what with lock downs and all the hairdressers being shut it's been allowed to run wild as it were.

She's never been particularly 'good' about her hair but she would, under protest, let you wash it, dry it, brush and tie it back but recently she's just lost the plot with it and any attempt to deal with it is fraught with tears and actual screaming. The neighbours must honestly think we're trying to murder her the way she carry's on. It's ridiculous. So far I'm doing my best to not make a 'thing' out of it,hair is something that has to be done, like teeth and baths etc but if anything that's just spurring her on. Hmm

We have hair cuts booked for Friday and initially I was just going to get it cut to shoulder blade length but I'm honestly tempted to go chin length with a few layers and make it so I only have to brush it and bung a head band on and she's done. We have chatted about it and she's not adverse to the idea, she's excited about going for a 'big girl' hair cut. I just feel a bit guilty. I am being daft. I know this but I just look at that lovely head of golden hair and feel awful about contemplating chopping it all off.

What would you do? Stick with the original plan and go shoulder blade length (still able to tie back) and hope that this is a phase that will pass (I really don't want the level of fuss she's making on mornings where we have to be up and out for school) or do a big chop? I will be getting a lot cut off my hair at the same time (going from shoulder length to a pixie cut) so she won't be 'alone' in a big change. Could that maybe make it fun for her?

UGH, I dunno, it would be nice to told I'm not going to scar her for life by getting her a more manageable hair cut.

Come on you lot, tell me to get several grips or something!

Or shave her head.

Obviously I am joking.

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Comedycook · 11/08/2021 19:13

I'd go for shoulder length...chin length is quite short and if she hates it will take longer to grow back

girlmom21 · 11/08/2021 19:15

Keep it long enough to shove a bobble in!

Bobojangles · 11/08/2021 19:17

Just do it, of she won't let you take care of longer hair Then she shouldn't have it

Have the discussion before hand and make it clear that her options are 1)chop it 2) let you take care of it

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DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:17

@Comedycook

I'd go for shoulder length...chin length is quite short and if she hates it will take longer to grow back
Yes that could work!

I had a pixie cut when I was her age and loved it, I was very head sore and hated having anything done to my hair. I suspect she takes after me.

Great. Grin

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30degreesandmeltinghere · 11/08/2021 19:19

Long enough to tie up and no fringe!!

Plinkplonk1234 · 11/08/2021 19:19

I'd go for chin length. I'm sure she'll be delighted too not to have the fuss in the mornings.

DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:20

@30degreesandmeltinghere

Long enough to tie up and no fringe!!
She had a fringe. Worst thing I ever did. She looked lovely but it was a right pain. We've spent lockdown growing it out so it is chin length now and easily swept back with a head band. Never again.
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devuskums · 11/08/2021 19:20

Is it long enough to cut and donate to the princess trust to make a wig out of? Definitely make sure its long enough to tie back.

AllThatGlistensIs · 11/08/2021 19:21

Thinking ahead to the joy of school head lice sharing, I’d go for long enough to tie back. Sorry OP 😆

DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:23

@devuskums

Is it long enough to cut and donate to the princess trust to make a wig out of? Definitely make sure its long enough to tie back.
If we went chin length it would be. And I would definitely donate it. She has a really good head of hair so they'd be getting a lot.
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MushMonster · 11/08/2021 19:23

Chop the whole thing and get a hairband.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 11/08/2021 19:24

My niece once cut off the left side of her fringe!! Right up to her hairline!! Sil went bonkers!!..
It was classic!!

DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:25

@AllThatGlistensIs

Thinking ahead to the joy of school head lice sharing, I’d go for long enough to tie back. Sorry OP 😆
They had an outbreak at nursery a while back (in the days where you could touch her head and not face a full on melt down) fortunately we avoided them, I'd hate to have to treat them the way she is about it at the moment. Shock
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GotTheDisneyBlues · 11/08/2021 19:26

Another one saying as short as you can go but still long enough to tie back, ready for school 👍🏻

You definitely won't scar her - it's only hair, it grows back, just don't make a big thing of it.

curiouscatgotkilled · 11/08/2021 19:26

All mine had a Bob at that age, it looks lovely and is so much less hassle

KingdomScrolls · 11/08/2021 19:26

I insisted on a chin length bob when I was about eleven, I hated my mum brushing my hair and it was very long and tangled easily and tangle teezers weren't a thing back then. Oh God I hated it, it was more difficult because you couldn't just put it up in a bun or a plait or a pony tail. Also I have very thick curly hair so I looked like I'd been electrocuted.... My hair grows very quickly but it felt like it took an eternity to grow back. Long enough to tie back is an essential requirement to any haircut I've had since

DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:28

@30degreesandmeltinghere

My niece once cut off the left side of her fringe!! Right up to her hairline!! Sil went bonkers!!.. It was classic!!
GrinShe's never gone at it with scissors but she did splodge a big glob of green paint on it at nursery. And she was forever getting glue on the tips of it.
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MonkeyPuddle · 11/08/2021 19:28

At 4 I’d show her some pictures of various hairstyles on similar aged children and let her choose (whilst hoping she went for a pixie cut!)

Wintercoffee · 11/08/2021 19:28

Definitely shoulder length blunt cut so it’s more manageable and blunt cut. Supply IPad and chocolate or sweets 🍬

DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:29

@MonkeyPuddle

At 4 I’d show her some pictures of various hairstyles on similar aged children and let her choose (whilst hoping she went for a pixie cut!)
I have been! She likes them all! Super helpful!

Maybe I should show her pictures of what I'm getting... Grin

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MotherOfCrocodiles · 11/08/2021 19:39

I wouldn't go for a drastic change right before starting school because she might regret it and then if there are kids bragging aboUt their long hair sh e might regret it even more if you see what I mean

DeadButDelicious · 11/08/2021 19:51

@MotherOfCrocodiles

I wouldn't go for a drastic change right before starting school because she might regret it and then if there are kids bragging aboUt their long hair sh e might regret it even more if you see what I mean
I see what you're saying but I feel that would be cue to step in and reassure her that hair grows and she isn't defined by it. Her friends potentially having longer hair than her is not a good reason to carry on the current state of affairs. We still have a good 4 weeks of holiday left here so that's plenty of time to adjust to any change.
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LER83 · 11/08/2021 20:22

My dd had a bob until she was about 7 and able to start looking after her own hair properly. We just used pretty clips and hairbands to keep it out of her face at school, or just did a half pony etc.

Usuallyhappycamper · 11/08/2021 20:44

I have boys with shorter hair and both freaked out about washing it at that age. So shorter won't necessarily make washing it any more fun, but brushing and drying would be easier.

Twinkie01 · 11/08/2021 20:55

DD had a chin length swingy bob at that age, she looked so chic compared to all the other long haired kids so I'm biased. It was easy to keep smart and clean and it cut down on the wailing when trying to brush it as her hair got very stringy as it got longer.

If only I could persuade her sister 🤨

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