Cutting DD's hair.

[DeadButDelicious]

DD is 4 and has waist length hair, ordinarily I would never have let it get this long but what with lock downs and all the hairdressers being shut it's been allowed to run wild as it were.

She's never been particularly 'good' about her hair but she would, under protest, let you wash it, dry it, brush and tie it back but recently she's just lost the plot with it and any attempt to deal with it is fraught with tears and actual screaming. The neighbours must honestly think we're trying to murder her the way she carry's on. It's ridiculous. So far I'm doing my best to not make a 'thing' out of it,hair is something that has to be done, like teeth and baths etc but if anything that's just spurring her on.

We have hair cuts booked for Friday and initially I was just going to get it cut to shoulder blade length but I'm honestly tempted to go chin length with a few layers and make it so I only have to brush it and bung a head band on and she's done. We have chatted about it and she's not adverse to the idea, she's excited about going for a 'big girl' hair cut. I just feel a bit guilty. I am being daft. I know this but I just look at that lovely head of golden hair and feel awful about contemplating chopping it all off.

What would you do? Stick with the original plan and go shoulder blade length (still able to tie back) and hope that this is a phase that will pass (I really don't want the level of fuss she's making on mornings where we have to be up and out for school) or do a big chop? I will be getting a lot cut off my hair at the same time (going from shoulder length to a pixie cut) so she won't be 'alone' in a big change. Could that maybe make it fun for her?

UGH, I dunno, it would be nice to told I'm not going to scar her for life by getting her a more manageable hair cut.

Come on you lot, tell me to get several grips or something!

Or shave her head.

Obviously I am joking.

@DeadButDelicious aw that’s good. I would take her to the hairdressers every 6-8 weeks for a trim now. Hair grows about half an inch p/month so I would have an inch off every 2 months to keep her hair at a manageable length until she is old enough to look after it herself. It’s a good idea to take her after every half term at school, then at the start of the summer holidays and the end of the summer holidays for a back to school haircut.

[quote mumsymum25]@DeadButDelicious aw that’s good. I would take her to the hairdressers every 6-8 weeks for a trim now. Hair grows about half an inch p/month so I would have an inch off every 2 months to keep her hair at a manageable length until she is old enough to look after it herself. It’s a good idea to take her after every half term at school, then at the start of the summer holidays and the end of the summer holidays for a back to school haircut.[/quote]
I will be don't you worry! She's back at school in 3 weeks so I think she's good for now. We were in a good routine of haircuts then lockdown happened and that was that. Hopefully we can fall back into that routine now things are a little more 'normal'.

This morning was a breeze, brushed it (with minimal fuss) and banged a head band in. Hair done! Marvellous!

@DeadButDelicious I think many mums feel the way you did in terms of not insisting a shorter haircut because of feeling guilty. I would always advise getting them into the hairdresser chair from a young age for trims and then keeping their hair at a moderate length. I think it’s cruel to wait until they are an older child and then forcing a bob on them, unless they have a greasy mop that they just won’t look after. Even then, I would personally advise giving them a chance to pull their act together before a drastic chop.