Sounds bloody silly but..

[Themeparklover]

I split with my ex of five years at christmas he was abusive ect anyway moving on I was seeing this guy from my county for a while after turned out he was lying about have a fiance and child just utterly draining tbh, I have recently befriended an international cup stacker on tiktok and think he is absolutely lovely how do I go about pursuing more when he lives in a different country I am nervous about manipulative people and was reluctant to reach out but he has completely caught my eye and yes I am aware he likes me ,
Thankyouu x

What’s a cup stacker?

I want to know what a cup stacker is too.

cup stacker??

WTF?! International cup stacker

I’d spend a bit of time alone and do the freedom program etc to make sure you can spot the signs of an unhealthy relationship.

With 7 billion people in the world, the chances that this international cup stacker is The One for you are fairly slim. Why not set your sights a little closer to home to make dating a bit earlier and less pressured. If you have to make a flight of several hours to even spend time together you’re going to end up overly invested and less likely to cut ties if you’re doubting things, having spent hundreds of pounds and emotionally committed to each other already.

Admire his amazing cup stacking skills on TikTok by all means, but yet and meet a nice local lad instead.

Easier not earlier. Fucking phone

An international cup stacker (?) On tiktok who lives in another country. Gotta say it doesn't scream happily ever after to me. Sorry.

And *try and meet a nice local lad, not ‘yet’ FFS

"International cup stacker"... I have no clue 🤨

Very much what it says on the tin! Or cup...

This is probably a better to explain it. It's in the Junior Olympics apparently!

OP, I'm sure he's lovely, but long-distance relationships are hard when you've been a couple first and then moved apart. I'm not sure it's the best way to get into a relationship.

Not going to say his name it will completely give it away but speed stacking essentially, he's a great guy exactly my type and funny, how on earth have I fallen for some guy off tiktok 🤣

You're absolutely right OP - it DOES sound absolutely bloody silly

Cup stacking. 😂😂 I can't believe I watched that video for as long as 16 seconds. Op, you can do better. Why not try a plate spinner?

He does pretty well for sponsorship, he is respectful my age and we have similar interests

Meh, sorry, but this is nothing more than teen fantasy.

You don't know him, have never met him, he's likely filtered his videos to feck too, so he probably doesn't even look the same as you think.

Honestly, give it up & make plans to improve your actual real life in ways that don't make you feel so vulnerable to chasing after pipe dreams & unsuitable men. Counselling might be a good idea, as you are setting yourself up to fail... why

This reminds me of the juggling couple in love from Frasier (Beware of Greeks S5 E16)

if they could do it....

So you're chatting to him via messaging? With a clearly romantic type context?

I'd guess an international cup stacker would have a lot of followers. How did you get chatting?

I'd proceed with extreme caution TBH.

Lol.

Do you think maybe you have bad taste in men op?

With 7 billion people in the world, the chances that this international cup stacker is The One for you are fairly slim.

Would you likely to become a cup stacker yourself,under his guidance. if you met up ?

How do you pursue an international cup stacker? In times if Covid? It's a tricky one. Maybe you could look into going to the next cup stacking competition he'll be at and meet up with him? Does cup stacking pay well or does he also have another real job?

Are you sure he sees this the same way you do? To him you could just be one of many of his tiktok fans.

I guess the first thing to do would be to arrange to meet in person. Or maybe start with a phone/video call if you've not done that.

You split with your abusive ex at Christmas and you've dated a manipulative liar since then. I think your subconscious has deliberately chosen Mr cup stacker because he's far away, safe, a fantasy figure and should remain so. Enjoy the mild long distance flirtation and take some time out to recover emotionally.

Wtf did I just read