Things that made your ex unattractive

[FuckingFabulous]

I'm not talking about the "s/he was a cheat/abuser/criminal/gaslighter" type stuff, because that is entirely understandable and totally deserves its own thread for all survivors of that fuckery. I'm talking about the small stuff that made you look at them like, "You're grim."

-My ex didn't brush his teeth every day. At one point, I put paste on his brush and it was there and dried on 9 days later. Ew, do not even attempt to kiss me.

-He also pronounced the emergency medical response vehicle as "Ambliance." Cringe, cold chills, skin prickling.

• if he'd been outside doing ANYTHING, even talking to a neighbour, when he came back in he would look at me with an expression of devastated, dead on his feet exhaustion and just say, "Coffee" in a really croaky voice.

Cutting his toe nails on the top of the stairs
Extremely loud sneezing- I have never heard a woman sneeze so loud it scares next doors dog
patting his stomach after farting

1st XH - didn't wash enough (a common theme on this thread!). One day he decided to 'treat' me to a striptease. He wiggled and writhed his way across the room to me while I sat, flabbergasted and squirming with embarrassment, wondering wtf he was doing. Then he presented me with a cheesy knob to suck

Just the fact he was a bit of a wanker was enough to make him unattractive.

@FuckingFabulous (not envy!)

Stingy and moody.

@RiverSkater about six weeks i think (it was a long time ago)

[quote Shodan]1st XH - didn't wash enough (a common theme on this thread!). One day he decided to 'treat' me to a striptease. He wiggled and writhed his way across the room to me while I sat, flabbergasted and squirming with embarrassment, wondering wtf he was doing. Then he presented me with a cheesy knob to suck

Dissome kind of chewing, sucking the inside of his cheeks, maybe he was also grinding his teeth, I don't know.

Wanked audibly in the bathroom, in a huff, if I didn't want to have sex all the time in holiday.

Wouldn't take his tshirt off during sex because of his belly but wouldn't really do anything about it. Claimed he'd "never had a belly before in his life" even though it was obvious from photos he had had, and people were even commented that he'd lost weight from previously.

Suggested I have a bath with wine/champagne & strawberries in his bathroom. It was a large roll top bath and his water heating didn't work well enough (or he didn't want to leave it on long enough) to hear a bath full of water so I was given a half bath that barely covered me of almost like warm water.
I noticed dried up, wizened strawberries in his bathroom bin presumably from the last girlfriend he'd done it with.

*almost luke warm water.

Said he was giving up smoking bit in spite of a cupboard full of gum, patches, and me even arranging smoking cessation appointments for him, still smoked every time he had the slightest pressure. Like most smokers he also claimed he'd keep keep outside but the longer the relationship went on he started having quick smiles in the house, the car etc.

Ate burgers in one multi bite thing - like ge tried to get the whole burger in his mouth or as much of it as he could in one bite, I don't how he didn't choke himself.

Actually licked the plate when I made a caeaser salad once.

*Caesar

1. The sound of his vape bubbling gave me the rage as did his nasal voice. Final straw was finding his large collection of male sex toys. He lasted less than a month.

1. Made noises when he ate. Tolerated it for longer than I should before dumping him for other reasons. Should have known it was doomed.

1. Utter passivity in different areas of life. This covers several men. Having to be 'in charge' all the time is highly off-putting.

he didnt put clean pants on every day. He would turn them inside out and wear them again.

if someone was in the bathroom, he'd go piss in the garden.

He wouldn’t eat anything except frozen chicken and chips, or McDonalds.

Used to smack his front teeth with a fork when he ate anything

His personal hygiene ‘down there’ wasn’t the best, his willy often smelt of stale wee 🤮

@Guineapigbridge

Mine had handwriting like an eight year old girls. Instead of putting dots on his i's he drew little circles

OP, your post gave me a flashback to an ex of mine who was in many ways a perfectly decent human being — intelligent, kind, good-looking, clean (after reading this thread, he was ultra-clean!), but he would also, like your ex, after the smallest exertion (answering an email, taking a shower, making a brief phone call) make this ‘I’m so exhausted I could die’ face that involved doing a pretend pant and letting his lower jaw hang down like a tired dog.

I realised it was over when I found myself saying he needed to go and get checked for anaemia and B12 deficiency every time, because being exhausted after walking down the hall or phoning to make an appointment wasn’t normal.

(And he eventually did, and all bloods came back fine. I concluded he was just an irritatingly low-energy person and ditched him. Which was a good call, because I got back in touch years later, after he’d married and had children, and he appeared to have trained his wife into thinking that he needed to be protected from looking after his own children and household chores. Which, when they divorced and he had to actually start making his children meals/taking them to football/ helping with homework when they were with him, was a Big Shock. )

Would drive to beaches and beauty spots and stay in the car; like perfectly happy to not get even go for a short walk, just drive on to the next place, I found it bizarre & really frustrating.

Would do some kind of hum-growl thing when he was indicating he was turned on.

Would not get glasses even though he seemed like he needed them abd would wave at parked empty cars cause he couldn't tell if they were occupied or not. .Likewise insisted on reading the local newspaper with generic reading glasses held on front of him, because he refused to put them on.

I’m staying single forever!!

His spelling was so poor that his texts were sometimes indecipherable.

When I asked questions to try to establish what he was saying, he would sometimes ring and say it with an exasperated, forbearing attitude; like I was slow/obtuse. I am a graduate in a wordy subject and have taught English to foreign language learners for almost two years.

I literally couldn't make out what he was saying sometimes and that was apparently me being slow and obtuse.

"special" was spelled speshall or something to that effect.

Wanked audibly in the bathroom, in a huff, if I didn't want to have sex all the time in holiday.

I'm sorry, that must've been horrible, but for some reason that really made me laugh.

Audible huffy wanking

God some men are pathetic.

@vampirethriller

Refused to wash his knob because my mouth would do that. When I told him I wasn't going anywhere near an unwashed cheesy penis, he put toothpaste on it to hide the smell. Didn't last long after that.

He put toothpaste??? On his Penis??? Sweet Jesus

Some of these are genuinely making me grateful I am single and pushing me to a vow a celibacy. Repulsive.

Mine didn't own a toothbrush, one of his front teeth has now disintegrated. Doesn't own a hairbrush (he has past shoulder length hair) or a hoover. Used the same kitchen cloth for 5+ years for every surface - sink, bin, floor. Then there was the messaging of various women all over the country on POF, used to meet up with people 100s of miles away where no one else knew him and tell me he was away mountain biking with friends There's plenty more, but I've not got time

@Scotabroad24 yes, and told me I had to suck it quickly because it was stinging!
No ta.

Saying yum

Posing in the mirror telling me that he was a good catch. (Ugh)