NC for this just in case.
I am primary care giver for my children. The other parent is refusing to engage with me about discussing a way forward that works for both of us. They have said they have started to ask the children where they would like to live. I haven't agreed that they should do this and that it should be discussed between us. Children were placed primarily with me due to other parents mental health. SS are involved and have said it needs to be between us as no current safeguard (whole other thread). I have been asking for weeks now for us to meet so we can discuss a way forward but this is being ignored. What is a reasonable time to give before I start the mediation process? I can't seem to find this out online. Thanks