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If you have a 3 bed house and 2 DC

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ponderingthisthing · 21/07/2021 21:01

Do your DC share a room?

Currently my 1 year old and soon to be 4 year olds have their own bedrooms, which means that we now have no spare room/ study.

Just thinking forward whether to get them to share a room. Would be interested to hear your experience and views on this.

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princesslarmadrama · 21/07/2021 21:04

If you don't need a spare room or study I would keep the kids in their own rooms.

Whiskycav · 21/07/2021 21:06

No. I wouldn't. It's harder as they get older. They need their own space.

I work in two corner of my own room, rather than move the kids into one

Thursa · 21/07/2021 21:07

They had their own rooms.

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CaptainCorelli · 21/07/2021 21:08

Mine, who had a similar gap loved the idea of sharing and moved into each other’s rooms frequently. However they’d only last a few days at a time and would them get fed up with each other.

LifesNotEnidBlyton · 21/07/2021 21:08

Why would you me your children, who live in the house, share a room so you can have a room "spare"? Confused Confused

Unless you work from home you dont need it for that either, and even if you do theres obviously somewhere else in the house you've been doing it, and your children need their own bedrooms more than you need the room.

Bookaholic73 · 21/07/2021 21:09

My boys are now 21 and 17, but when they were younger they’d fight more when sharing a room.

Orangeinmybluelightcup · 21/07/2021 21:10

Mine slept worse when we tried it. Youngest would wake eldest up too early.

LifesNotEnidBlyton · 21/07/2021 21:10

"make" not "me" ^^ Smile Smile

LifesNotEnidBlyton · 21/07/2021 21:12

and "there's" not "theres" ^^ Do excuse me. GrinGrin

OneEpisode · 21/07/2021 21:12

If you have rare visitors you can ask dc to share just for the visit. The dc with the largest room has to sacrifice it and squeeze (in inflatable etc) into sibling’s room,

Mrsbclinton · 21/07/2021 21:12

My DDs shared until recently, they got along fine but it was always the plan to give them each their own room when the eldest got to about 10.
This involved an extension as we didnt have a spare room.
Personally I would perfer them to have their own space as we seldom have guests.

Sally872 · 21/07/2021 21:13

Own room. Spare room/study is lower priority would only be if an extra bedroom.

If working from home or live far away and have very regular visitors I might feel differently.

m0therofdragons · 21/07/2021 21:14

No (although I have 4 beds and 3dc). It’s okay when small but my friend has a 12yo girl and 10yo boy who share and I find it a bit strange as they have a spare bedroom.

name6785 · 21/07/2021 21:15

When mine were under 6 they shared so we could use the 3rd room, but by the time they were 7 and 4 they really needed their own space, they don't get on terribly well! We ended up upsizing last year, I do firmly believe own bedrooms are preferable where practicable.

MotionActivatedDog · 21/07/2021 21:16

1 and 4 are horrendous ages for deciding to have them share! Grin they will carry on and drive you insane. Keep them separate. Why do you need a study or spare room?

DaisyWaldron · 21/07/2021 21:16

Mine have a 3 year gap and shared (by choice) until the eldest was around 10. For the next year, they each had their own room, but spent at least half the week having sleepovers together.Now they tend to hang out in DD's room watching tiktok together for a while before going to sleep in their own beds.

Splendo · 21/07/2021 21:16

Mine are 5 and almost 2, they've had their own rooms up to now but DS is really cramped in the box room especially as DD adores him so she's always in there playing with him.
We're just about to move them into the master bedroom and use the box room as an office (DH sometimes works from home and I'm about to apply for jobs so I might need that as an option).
Hopefully it will work out ok, and we're planning to move house in 3-4 years anyway so they'll be in separate rooms before high school.

RuthTopp · 21/07/2021 21:16

One each , youngest in smaller of two rooms.

DelurkingAJ · 21/07/2021 21:17

Nope. I have one owl and one lark and so they each kept the other up, nobody got enough sleep and it was a disaster.

WTFisNext · 21/07/2021 21:19

No. 5 year gap between ours so sharing isn't remotely practical whilst we have a choice.

My husband and I working from home simultaneously isn't at all pleasant with no spare room to hide in...but the needs of our children, especially when one is in GCSE mode are more important.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 21/07/2021 21:19

They shared from 1&3 until 6&8. The gap is only 20 months though.

phoebemcpeepee · 21/07/2021 21:19

My 2 (3 year gap same sex) shared a room until around 10 then they were both crying out out for their own space & bedtimes we're starting to shift a bit later for Dc1.

The DC in the smaller bedroom
had a bunk bed & DC in the largest room had single with a trundle 2nd single/convert to double on the proviso they bunk up together if we had overnight guests. Worked brilliantly.

OwlBasket · 21/07/2021 21:21

Mine had their own rooms until they were 4 & 5, then they shared for a few years. We used the other bedroom as a playroom, it was fab. At about 9 & 10 they went back to having their own rooms. Chopping and changing has worked really well for us. Children are close in age (18 months) but opposite sex, DD is the elder. TBH I think they would have shared for an extra year or so if they were same sex.

Sharing with a larger age gap could be harder, I guess.

ImNotWhoYouThinkIam · 21/07/2021 21:22

We gave up one of our reception rooms so the dc could have their own rooms. They shared until they were 15 and 13 and had a "playroom" (which became a junk room as they got older.) I gave them the choice of a more grown up gaming/TV room or separate bedrooms.

ISaidDontLickTheBin · 21/07/2021 21:24

Mine are 1 and 3.5 - technically they share a room but in practice littlest is such a crap sleeper that we've tried him all over the house! Currently as it's so hot he's in a travel cot in the living room.

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