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If you have a 3 bed house and 2 DC

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ponderingthisthing · 21/07/2021 21:01

Do your DC share a room?

Currently my 1 year old and soon to be 4 year olds have their own bedrooms, which means that we now have no spare room/ study.

Just thinking forward whether to get them to share a room. Would be interested to hear your experience and views on this.

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gollyh · 21/07/2021 22:07

Think yourself lucky that you have enough rooms for bedrooms.

Why?

Equimum · 21/07/2021 22:09

Ours have their own rooms, but our youngest has a bed that can be converted into a double for when guests come, and we have a ‘put you up’ that he moves to in DS1s room. We don’t have guests staying very often, so it works well for us.

megletthesecond · 21/07/2021 22:11

Mine have never shared. But I would never have guests anyway.

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Cupoftea53 · 21/07/2021 22:12

My eldest two share a room, they are 8 and 10 and have shared since the youngest went into his own room at 6 months. 3 year old has his own room. We have a spare room too. They just like sharing! When the eldest reaches puberty and wants privacy then they can move rooms.

monotonousmum · 21/07/2021 22:12

My youngest (1) is still in with us as she doesn't sleep. Eldest (4) has her own room and we have two spare (but one is downstairs and not really suitable as a perm bedroom). We're still thinking of having them share for few years, as long as they're both happy with it. I'm not even sure I can put my finger on why, but I think they'll enjoy it and may help them bond. If either of them doesn't like it or they don't sleep well then we'll move one into the other upstairs room.

CutePanda · 21/07/2021 22:16

You have 3 bedrooms so use them as bedrooms. You do not have a spare bedroom to use as a study.

user1471457757 · 21/07/2021 22:17

Mine are just 3 and 4.5. They have been sharing for about 6 months and it works well.

Wnikat · 21/07/2021 22:21

Mine love sharing and sleep better when together…

Xuli · 21/07/2021 22:21

Own rooms. Youngest DC has the biggest bedroom so my “office” is set up in there as well. Have an old toddler bed mattress that is used for older DC in that room as a camp bed so rare guests can sleep in their room.

ChocOrange1 · 21/07/2021 22:22

My older daughter (4) is keen to share with the younger one (1) so they will probably share when little is in a her own bed.

At the moment they have their own rooms, but the baby has to share with my husband working from home. Its an office during the day and a bedroom at night so not ideal.

careerchangeperhaps · 21/07/2021 22:22

Mine (21 month age gap, Girl & Boy) shared the smaller room from ages 2&3 until they were about 4&6 (when my youngest started school). We kept the 2nd bedroom as a playroom with a sofa bed.
It worked well when they shared an early bedtime but by the time we moved them, my elder child was staying out later for clubs like gym / Rainbows which meant she was up a bit later and disturbing the little one and he was evil when tired.

HariboBrenshnio · 21/07/2021 22:23

Mine have just separated and they are 5&7. I only did it as my DS is nearly 8 and ready for a bit of privacy away from his sister. They didn't really ask to split and his room has been used as a playroom while it wasn't in use. I think it's lovely if they can share for a while, my two have loved it.

Phrowzunn · 21/07/2021 22:36

We put our 9-month old in with our just-turned-three year old and they loved it. It’s actually amazing what the older one can sleep through 😂 they are 2 and 4 now and when we moved house we offered them their own rooms and they both wanted to keep sharing, they’d be really sad to be split up now, it’s all either of them remember really. I’m sure they’ll want their own space eventually, when the elder one is about 10 I reckon!

Bigboysmademedoit · 21/07/2021 22:37

Mine share/d (no option) 2 boys shared until older one moved away for work. It doesn’t seem to have done any harm - he’s 24 now and in the process of buying his first home near us and wants his brother to come and live with him. When that happens the girls will stop sharing and get their own rooms. It’s only an issue if you make it one.

Rainallnight · 21/07/2021 22:41

Mine share. Aged 3 and 5. We have a spare room for a frequently visiting Grandma (pre Covid) and now working from home

Benjispruce5 · 21/07/2021 22:44

3 beds, 2 DC now 17 & 20. Don’t need a study but have a large landing so have a desk space there.Spare room not been needed. Any guests would be close family and they’d either have our room or is make up an air bed downstairs. I never understand people buying houses for occasions guests.

Benjispruce5 · 21/07/2021 22:44

Occasional

HandforthParishCouncilClerk · 21/07/2021 22:53

I hated sharing with my little brother with such a passion that I don’t even like going to stay at his house now as adults

If you can do separate rooms then do. They may choose to share, but that needs to be their choice.

TiggeryBear · 21/07/2021 23:18

We have a 5 year old and a 3 year old. We are in the process of sorting the 3rd bedroom into the bedroom for DC1 as DC2 is becoming a nuisance at bedtime causing DC1 to go to bed late making them tired for school & having a knock-on negative behaviour at home. The 3rd bedroom was used (until we started to convert it) as a playroom, then as a storage for stuff outgrown etc, then as DPs office throughout lockdowns etc.
Until about 2 or 3 months ago, them sharing a room worked absolutely fine & we intended to continue until such a time it was no longer working. Sadly, this happened sooner than we had hoped as the 3rd bedroom is tiny (we'd hoped to be in a position to move house, but hey ho), resorting in engineer DP constructing a fantastic high sleeper to maximise space & utilise the space over the stairs bulkhead.

BootsScootsAndToots · 21/07/2021 23:28

My 2 share (10 & 5) and the 3rd bedroom has been dh office for the last 18 months.

We've just bought a garden office and will move DC into their own rooms in the near future.

The 10 yo likes the idea of having her own room but really likes not sleeping alone so we'll have to see how that goes

LovelyLovelyWarmCoffee · 21/07/2021 23:53

Our shared until they were 5yo (b/g twins) and we used the 3rd bedroom as guest bedroom / home office / storage. Now they have a bedroom each but will often have a sleepover together. They still speak fondly of when they shared a room 🤷🏼‍♀️

PickAChew · 21/07/2021 23:55

They're 15 and 17, autistic and hate each other.

They have their own rooms at opposite corners of the house!

Twillow · 21/07/2021 23:55

Depends, what sex are the children, how well do they get on, do they share well, do you need a spare room often, do you do much work from home?

Itreallytiedtheroomtogether · 22/07/2021 00:01

Mine are 7 and 9 and have always shared since the youngest was out of a cot - we have a four bed and it never entered my head for them not to share tbh. They would be really sad not to share, but we know that one day we will need to change a room back into a bedroom...we have an office and diy walk in wardrobe type room at the mo.

AlwaysLatte · 22/07/2021 00:04

Our two boys shared until they were about 5 & 7 - they liked being together. We still have a couple of spare rooms though so it didn't take up valuable space. It's ideal for them to have their own space but if there's nowhere to work for instance then sharing is fine.

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