My 15 year old son finally put on a wash! He's had no clean clothes or sheets for 2 months

[ItPearl]

And that's how long it took him to crack. Wow. He puts up a good fight. But I think ............................................. I've won this one (?)

I work full time and he sits in his bedroom full time, so I don't think it's too much to ask that he do his own laundry. I told him this two months ago and he responded ''no way''.

So. I feel like I'm getting somewhere! Glad I didn't cave and give in.

ps forgot to say, he hung them out too.

Well done! Getting my teenager to do anything is generally like getting blood out of a stone.

I salute your hard hardcoreness! I always cave in too soon. I also (slightly) admire him but the best woman won the fight.

Thank you comrades!

Well done! "No way" indeed, the cheeky fecker. Pfft!

I applaud you. I hope I will have nerves of steel like you when my kids are teens. No backsliding!

Well done. His future partner will thank you.

This sounds like my son. He used exactly the same bedding at uni for a whole term because he "didn't know how to use the washing machine"

Does he not go to school? Was he stinking?

Good for you!

They all crack eventually. It’s just who holds out the longest

I retired in January due to furlough and I couldn't be bothered anymore itis, anyway point being it has given me plenty of time to just mooch.

I went into his bedroom a few months ago and damn near needed a tetanus, so I refused lifts until it was tidy, his bed is a cabin bed, so hell will freeze over before I change that, but I have been going in every day when he is at work, and picking up juice bottles, food wrappers, discarded socks, t-shirts, he moaned at first but I told him he had, had twenty years doing it his way and it hadn't worked out for me, so now it was my turn.

He knows what to do, he can do it when he bothers, so I know I am not ruining him for some future life partner.

It is always good when the drip, drip, drip produces results.

I would have caved long ago. Despite my girls being 18 and 20 and still living at home, I do all the washing. They know how, it's just easier if I do it all.

I do believe he was beginning to smell, yes. I never got that close, but when I walked up the stairs and his pile of towels and sheets were spilling out of the laundry basket, I did detect a whiff.

@Theoldwoman

I would have caved long ago. Despite my girls being 18 and 20 and still living at home, I do all the washing. They know how, it's just easier if I do it all.

If I didn't work full time I would probably find it the easiest course of action as well.

I would have caved before that sadly as I wouldn't want them bullied for looking or smelling awful at school.

Mazel tov

thank you!

I'm in Ireland so he hasn't been at school since the 28th May.

Well done. You have my full admiration

I’m mostly happy to do DCs along with the family stuff, but occasionally I’ll notice his laundry basket is full and the washing machine empty and suggest he throws on a load. When he refuses it riles me because like you I work FT whilst he stays in bed FT 🙄

Then the stand off begins.

His sheets get done every week and I’ll go in and throw open the windows in his room and bathroom. I consider it a Public Health Service!

Good on you. People need to know you mean business. You definitely won

DS brought his sheets home from uni once & they made me gag when I took them out of the bag! I knew then he didn't have a girlfriend 🤣

Well done! Hopefully he’ll realise it’s not nearly as much of a ballache if he does it little and often - I always found bunging 1-2 loads on in a week was always much easier than letting it fester then needing to do a a massive blitz!

Good work!

I sometimes hold my breath as I walk past my son's (nearly 18) room. He's recently changed his sheets and had a good tidy up, so it's getting better. He's been using the washing machine and tumble dryer and opening his window. It's mainly the crockery that needs cracking down on now.

My husband had absolutely everything done for him by his mum, and now it's a very frustrating and depressing battle to get him to do anything. I'm determined not to inflict that on my sons' future partners.

Well done OP👑 Was there much chuntering while he did it?

DS is more domesticated since he got back from uni , but he's working full time over summer so I have cut him some slack.

When I first lived with DH he was so messy, he would leave dirty clothes where be took them off, wouldn't do any housework. He went to his nan to complain I'd "already started nagging" and she tore hima new one! 😂 After that he stepped up his game straight away. God I miss that woman

My husband had absolutely everything done for him by his mum, and now it's a very frustrating and depressing battle to get him to do anything. I'm determined not to inflict that on my sons' future partners

My MIL would even get up in the middle of the night to get her sons a meal 😳🤬 She was horrified that I expected DH to get his own lunch / supper if I was working.
She would cook full English, cakes at coffee time, full meal including pudding at lunchtime, cakes at teatime, cooked supper (farming so huge appetites) and thought I was mean and lazy. Needless to say he didn’t starve. DS has been completely capable from a young age to help out and feed himself when necessary.

I see absobloodylutely no reason why anyone should be so useless (DH is marginally better after 40+ years....)

@megletthesecond

I would have caved before that sadly as I wouldn't want them bullied for looking or smelling awful at school.

If they got picked on for smelling awful, you'd like to think they get the message and wash their clothes...