I've just found out that DH sends selfies of himself to MIL

[ItEludesMe]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry

Err, my family sends selfies to each other all the time.

I don't think my husband knows what a selfie is.

Hmmm - I sometimes send selfie’s messages to my Mam. It’s a way of staying in touch with someone I love and has loved me all my life. Cant see anything wrong with it to be fair

I'd love it if my boys did this. They're absolutely far from being mummy's boys. But I love photos of people I care about and it's a more fun way of keeping in touch than just a text.

Is this so odd?

My brothers send selfies of themselves eating crisps or after completing a race etc to the family WhatsApp group.

My brothers send selfies of themselves eating crisps
Yes, that is odd. Eating crisps is hardly a spectator sport, God love them 😂

I mean not just eating crisps. Petting a dog that looks like a wolf, standing beside an amusing place name sign, wearing a sticker to show they got vaccinated, are others that spring to mind.

Hang on is this classed as weird? DP often sends goofy face selfies to his family whatsapp (his Mum & siblings) or to his Mum. They all FaceTime often too.

I wouldn't really do it as my family's not really like that but I don't think it's at all weird or funny or odd??

My DD sends me selfies.

Really can't see what's wrong with that.

I don't reciprocate as I'm crap at it and always look like Penelope Wilton just when she comes a zombie in Shaun of the Dead.

@TheYearOfSmallThings

I mean not just eating crisps. Petting a dog that looks like a wolf, standing beside an amusing place name sign, wearing a sticker to show they got vaccinated, are others that spring to mind.

Yeah, that stuff's fine.

@thistimelastweek

If it's just daft stuff to make her laugh, that's fine.

It is ok for men to have a nice relationship with their mother.

Young mothers of today might well be tomorrow's MI.

Agree. So tired of the MIL hate on here. Sure, some are awful, but there are also lots of threads where posters come on to say 'we moved next door to my parents so they could see our kids grow up and visit regularly for dinner, but now his dad just died he calls his mum every other day and wants her to visit for a whole week in the summer, aibu to tell him no way can she cross my threshold?' and posters pile in to say 'eww mummy's boy' and 'your house your rules'.

I see the op was just having a laugh, and I'd laugh too , ust wonder at some of the others.

Lovely. My daughter sends me selfies all the time. Hope my son does too when he’s left home.

I find this oddly amusing,but then I don't ever take selfies.

My husbands daughter does this. She’s late 20s and not only does she plaster herself all over Instagram, she sends them to her dad too. Not sure he knows what to say really. They’re not sexy or anything but it’s just “look at me” all the time. She’s not asked him how he is in years - seriously. Every message starts with “I” and she really doesn’t have a clue she’s even doing it

Why is sending a picture odd? Ours sometimes do to show us where they are or who they’re with. When our son is deployed it’s really nice. I can’t see a good adult relationship is strange at all.

This ^
I mean, mine aren't in the armed forces, but I should imagine that magnifies how nice it is to have silly pictures to know they are safe and thinking about you every so often.
All of us send silly pictures in the family WhatsApps. My dd tends to send me pictures of her bruises after a match. Any of them send me a picture of themselves looking sad and left out, if they get a hint that I might have bought one of the others a takeaway of meal . It's just a modern way of 'checking in' without needing an hour to spare.

@ItEludesMe I have to admit that all of his siblings and him have rock solid self esteem

You mean they're arrogant?!

My son sends selfies to me and he's in his 30s. Normally of him and gf or him and the dog.

Happy, smiling selfies on days out. Or having a BBQ. I love receiving them. Never in a million years did it cross my mind that it may be considered odd!

I don't get what's so funny?

I know Loads of women who send selfies to their mum showing how they look (I don't send any to mine because she'd only say something like "Have you had a fever, or is that a rash" and "I do wish you just cut your hair into a lovely Bob") what's so different a man doing it?! What happened to applauding men who didn't do the whole toxic masculinity thing?

You have to LTB.

It's a shame it's come to this, but I think it's the only way he'll learn.

I sent a selfie to my mum yesterday to show her my new hair cut (although this is literally only about the second time I've ever taken one and it took me ages to figure out the camera).

@VerticalHorizon

Give it another few months and she'll be coming round to tuck you both up in bed... separately!

Read this first without my glasses and read tick and "fuck". Couldn't figure out why no one had reacted to it. 😄

Honestly, I don't understand why there's so many posters who think a man shouldn't have any form of relationship with there mother and men that do are "mummy's boys".

We should wave off our sons and never here from them again so they can have children with a women would thinks it's a requirement to hate her MIL. And presumably who will happily sever all contact with any sons of her own.

If the OPs husband likes to look at himself in shiny surfaces it's hardly weird he takes selfies. If his mam if happy to get sent them there's no harm or weirdness in it!

It was totally tongue in cheek!

One minute men are being knocked for affection towards their mothers, the next for not showing their affection.

It's a photo. Too many here will learn the hard way about missed time between parents and children. If you have the time and inclination, send them a photo, or give them a call. One day you won't be able to.

I don't see what's odd about that at all? A man has a good relationship with his mother and sends her regular photos - what's not to like? I haven't seen my parents for almost two years, and I love it when they send me selfies.

My family and I send pictures of ourselves and things we're doing to each other all the time. We don't live in the same country and it can be years between actually seeing each other so it's nice for us. I don't think it's weird.

Ds used to send me selfies from uni as proof of life; my db sometimes used to send them to Mum when he and his family lived abroad. A picture paints a thousand words and all that.