Looking for some advice, I have 2 step daughters in their late teens / early 20's. one at Uni, one at boarding school, mum has just moved away to europe with her partner. It's Not long since we moved into our new place me and their dad and they have a welcome home with us when we are around, however their mess and level of respect for our home, despite repeated asking, is grim... so... when we are'nt here I would like them to stay with their mum as I don't want them in our home when we are away. Any suggestions on how to handle as I fear we are all about to come to blows on it??