Trapped toddler parents: Inspiration and support needed through the summer hols!!

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Following on from the previous trapped toddler thread!
Sorry for rubbish title!

Hi everyone,. How is everyone feeling today?

Are the DC feeling any better?

We've been pumpkin picking this morning and got an orange one, a white and a green one. I've got some of those foam animal face stickers to stick on them as i can't carve them! The farm we went to was selling hay bales and maize stalks too for decoration. Seems to be quite a big thing now to go all out. I think I'll stick with my stickers .

Hope everyone is having a good Saturday so far.

Oh dear, how awful about the dog. Hope your Mum is ok ?@squishymamma

It's so upsetting when pets pass on. We've got a tortoise so hoping it's a while before we face that...

Do you have any more blisters @Camomila? Hope it's not sore for you.

It's so contagious HFM. My husband got it the same week as my DS's and he got them on his face and foot and his foot was in s right mess.

Good evening! Hope everyone is well.

Thanks for all the well wishes for my mum, she's doing alright now I think. I haven't really gotten to speak to her but she seems more upbeat in her messages.

Today we had our church group round for lunch, it was nice but exhausting (there were 10 of us). So afterwards DH wanted to have some quiet time pottering in the balcony area/gardening and I took DS to the playground right by us. He was having a grand time until he fell over and bit his lip. Nothing too drastic but I think a mix of tiredness and goodness knows what else meant he went into full-on meltdown mode, screaming and crying. Nothing calmed him down and it would come in waves...talk about exhausting! In the end I carted him inside, stripped off his rain stuff and sat him in front of the TV with his dummy in. He gradually calmed down and like 20 minutes later was back to his happy, chatty self...seriously, these toddlers!!

So now I am also exhausted and very much looking forward to bed. This week is a really intense one work-wise but is followed by a holiday week while DM and DSis visit so trying to use that as a reward

Did everyone have a good weekend?

Ahhh Dad's had the biggest Poonami ever, I thought they stopped at 2. It's everywhere as I was cleaning the kitchen

Hope you managed to get it cleaned up without too much effort @Chocolatetrifle, we also had a pretty impressive one today...nothing fazes me any more

MIL came to pick DS up from nursery today, apparently it went well but then when we came home he was suddenly not interested in being with her at all. She held him while I put the pram away and he screamed the whole time...felt bad for her. Hopefully he gets more used to her! He's also started doing this thing where he celebrates achieving something (eg putting a puzzle piece in the right place) by waving his fists in the air. It's hilarious to watch kids are bloody hard but so worth it!

Baby is constantly active and I'm knackered 24/7 now though so looking forward to getting him out - everything seems to be so much more effort atm! He seems happy and healthy though so I guess I can't complain.

Hope everyone has a good night!

I've had a bit of a somewhat anxious day. You know when you just have a feeling of dread? They have a covid case at preschool, the first. DS1 came home saying he was shivering there and has said he's had a headache since. He's asleep and no fever but my anxiety is up. He's been in for 3 days after being off for 7 and I really don't want him getting ill again. Is it just me or are all these bugs worse than usual at the moment?

Would you be asking the preschool who has the covid? Whether it's a child or a teacher? I feel really out of sorts sending him in when someone has had it recently or am I over reacting? I can't keep him away for no reason, he's been off enough and we have no reason to but urgh I feel really anxious! Sorry for babbling. Sleep well all.

So DS1 made it to Preschool but has not been himself and seems to have a cold and is on off complaining about his throat again. We've just been in this afternoon and I seem to be eating everything I can get my hands on.

How is everyone?

Ah @Chocolatetrifle I meant to respond to your first message this morning but then DS woke up and...well, you know.

I think it's very normal to be anxious with these things. There's still a lot of uncertainty around it but I think most children have it very mildly if they do get it. When we had it we didn't even realise DS had it, it was only when DH lost his sense of taste and smell that it clicked. You could ask who the case is but I'm not sure preschool will/are allowed to tell you. And obviously nobody wants to have to self-isolate but it might just be one of those bugs we have to accept like the flu...

Hope you feel better about it soon! If it helps, I also feel anxious - but more about tummy bugs because I have a phobia of vomit I'm just waiting for one to hit us because we've been insanely lucky so far, and every time I wake up in the morning I'm convinced DS will have some kind of illness. This post-covid world is a tough one eh?

Not much to report here, DS has been to nursery, he's pretty tired so we're just watching some TV while DH gets food ready.

Hope everyone is well!

@squishymamma thanks for listening! I think DS1 just has recurring tonsillitis. He had a raised temperature yesterday afternoon, and he's complaining about his throat. Has a negative covid test so I'm just going to get him booked in at the GP today to find out what's going on and why his throat is not getting better.

I hope everyone is well. Is anyone up to much? We've not been up to much. I'll keep DS1 off again today. We will potter about with the play doh and attempt some Halloween crafts (perhaps).

DS1 still has the tonsillitis that is not responding to the antibiotics so we've got an ENT referral now, go thinks he will definitely need a tonsillectomy.

How is everyone? Xxx

@Chocolatetrifle I was wondering if he'd need his tonsils out, they usually do with so many repeated infections. Bet he'll enjoy all the ice cream afterwards

DH and I have been ill today with a cold, had a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day and that helped. Think we got it from DS who was a bit off a few days ago but he is fine and went to nursery. We both took rapid tests for COVID and they were negative so that was good.

Feeling a bit meh about life today, anyone else get that? Like I wonder why I'm bothering to put effort into stuff. Probably triggered by a meeting I had which was a little disheartening, and the illness...

Anyway, hope everyone has a good night!

So DS was sick in the middle of the night last night, first time he's ever properly vomited. He was fine straight after and wanted to play despite the fact it was 3am, and this morning he ate 3 Weetabix and was dancing to Wheels on the Bus...so I've sent him to nursery this morning. Such an unknown situation for us, so I couldn't sleep afterwards - we just cleaned him and changed his clothes/bed then put him back in there so I was on hyper alert for any noises. Is that what you guys do too? Or do you stay with them even when they seem fine?

Oh no @squishymama glad he was feeling okay this morning. I don't stay with them just make sure there back in bed and happy.

I don't stay either although if DC is feeling clingy or their bed is wet I might let them sleep in our bed. On towels!!

We seem (touch wood) to be through the sickness wave. DH and the baby got it but are better now as well. Just hanging on to see if it gets me... hope not.

DS2's nursery have gone back to their pre-covid set up with all the kids (age 2-6) in together and just the babies separate, meaning they have a separate dining room again which really confused DS at first but now he seems happier with that than the old set up.

@squishymamma, oh no, sorry to hear about the sickness last night. Glad DS seemed a bit brighter this morning. Hope you are ok too?

No news here. DS1 is still off again. There is another covid case in his preschool room, two within the week. DS2 was at a party for one from 12.30 am until 2.30 am, no idea what caused it. I'm feeling a bit delicate today, desperate for a bit more sleep!

Hope everyone has a good day.

Hi everyone. I am going to catch up with this thread ASAP. But just need a little help! I am so so annoyed myself! I am so frustrated with my toddler all the time, because she wants to do literally everything herself 🙈🙈 she is always wanting to cook, put stickers all over her bed, splash in the muddiest puddles. And she is amazing and learning so much! I need to snap out of automatically moaning at her, letting her do it anyway, and then seeing how much she is getting out of it!! Is everyone else the same? I need more patience
Thanks for letting me rant. :) x

@BeHereNowx32, I think all you can do is let DD investigate as much as she wants and let her do as much as she wants (within safety and reason!). My DS1 was very similar approaching 3, he wanted to do everything himself, he even used to say in his sleep 'I wanted to do it' , which he literally said all day. It's very tiring. I was not perfect and didn't have much patience at times. It did calm down eventually over time. He is very independent but understands a bit more now if he is not allowed to do something. You are not doing anything wrong and we are not saints and cannot be perfect all the time. Hope that helps a bit.

@Chocolatetrifle thank you. Just feel like I’m moaning at her, and then let her do it anyway. I want to seem more positive about things 🙈🙈
We just put her in a bed a few nights ago, and I got stickers to put on it. Obviously she wanted to put them ALL on. I tried to make suggestions and she freaked out! But then when I let her do it, she was so happy. Showing her toys and saying “it looks lovely!” So cute. I just need to take deep breaths before talking lol

Hope you’re keeping ok @Chocolatetrifle I did see quick that your DS is still not well ☹️ so sorry. That’s been a while x

Uh DD was awake 10 - 2 and has woken at 6am. Literally feel like I want to throw up. She's back to nursery today but I've got her birthday party to get ready for as it's tomorrow so can't even lounge all morning.

@BeHereNowx22 DD is at that stage as well. Literally will scream I want to do it at me in a high pitched screech. I just let her get on with it unless it's dangerous or we are in a rush to get out the door. If she's like DS who did this she'll nkt want to do anything shortly

@Motherofmonsters yeah, I think I’m always rushing to get ready to go somewhere. Think I need to make less plans and just slow down with her.
Good luck with today. I hope you can have some time to relax

My hair dryer has broken, it's going to be one of those days today. I'm off to the shops to get the food for tomorrow, were doing afternoon tea type food so nothing to drastic.

Hope everyone is having a better day

Noooo DS2 has been sent home from nursery as he has runny poo D: he was all better (seeminly) from his tummy bug.

DS3 has been awake and grunting most of the night so I barely got any sleep 😴

Oh no @bertiebots that's annoying, hopefully its just the last of it.

I've made it back from shopping, I was tired and hungry so I think I've bought way to much food.... Going to be a shame having all the left over cake to eat

Sorry to hear about the tummy bugs and the bad nights recently. I can join that club too. My DS2 had temperatures of 39 last night, he won't eat and he has pointed to his throat. I think he has tonsillitis again like my older boy, who I think is getting a bit better but who can tell. It's constant. I'm drained. I feel like a terrible mum. I'm teary and on the edge.

I hope your DS gets better soon Bertie.

God you got your shopping done MotherofMonsters. I hope your DD has a lovely birthday party tomorrow. Afternoon tea party sounds lovely.

It's my DS1 4th birthday next week so I want everyone better hopefully. I'm just sitting here waiting for our GP to call me, who is in no hurry it seems.