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Broken bond between William and Harry

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chai1853 · 02/07/2021 16:31

One of the hardest truths to admit is something negative about yourself. But, if you can admit it, and apologize you can work towards healing. Then, if the injured one accepts apology you have a reestablished bond.

I'm speaking as a mum who has 34 years of 1 successful marriage.I fully believe that Diana raised William and Harry to always have each other's backs. William will one day be King. He will need his brother to talk to. Harry needs to be the one that William can always count on, through thick and thin.

When Princess Diana passed,Charles was quoted as saying" They are going to blame me". One way towards healing is acting forgiving for what happened inthe past. Being a positive role model for healing the brothers bond is showing a positive emotion towards Diana. Being present when they did something together to remember their mothers legacy (Diana statue) is one way. Another way is to be actively in their lives by communication. Keeping the lines of communication open by text, phone calls, zoom meetings etc. Not to mention, visiting in person!

People are human, and we all make mistakes. But at the end of the day, nothing is as important as family. Harry and Meghan have some apologizing to do. And William and Charles need to be accepting. It will not be easy, because admitting mistakes never is. To have a family in tact is the real key to happiness.

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FlibbertyGiblets · 02/07/2021 16:32

Thanks for your TED Talk 👍👍👍

Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow · 02/07/2021 16:32

Ok

Palavah · 02/07/2021 16:32

Unless you know both of them personally you don't know what is/has been going on.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

The royal family
working99 · 02/07/2021 16:34
Hmm
Nesbo · 02/07/2021 16:37

For fucks sake why do people get so deeply invested in the ins and outs of relationships they know nothing about. The world is full of families having their own dramas, and the only people who really know what is going on are the people directly involved.

It’s just…fetishistic. They are people, shitting and farting and arguing and screwing and bumbling along through life like the rest of us. Why give a shit?

Funkopopper · 02/07/2021 16:38

I'm sure that as they're browsing the mumsnet boards your thoughtful words of wisdom will ease their troubled minds.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 02/07/2021 16:43

I think nesbo has summarised things quite nicely.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 02/07/2021 16:45

We can all make mistakes.

We don’t all share them with the world. We don’t accuse them of x,y,z and then have different timescales for the x, misrememberings for the y and some toot for the z.

There are plenty on here (not me) who have achieved happiness only by staying well away from toxic family members.

I hope they both are by it and are indeed in a better place.

But by all that is holy, if that had been done to me and my loved ones, I’d be reluctant to forgive.

And I wouldn’t blame any of the ‘accused’ for being bloody wary of them forever more.

Nd to be accepting of an apology it would have to be sincere. And as public as the accusations were.

Sweetchocolatecandy · 02/07/2021 16:46

Know them personally, do you?

Fitforforty · 02/07/2021 16:47

You are way too over invested in someone’s else relationship here. Unless you knew Diana then you don’t know how she raised her children and even if you did it’s there choice as adults as to how they choose to behave.

Having family together is not the key to happiness for many. In fact it’s the opposite.

contrary13 · 02/07/2021 16:47

Why will William need, specifically, Harry to chat to when he's King? He has a brother-in-law and cousins/their husbands whom he's probably now closer to, than Harry, to turn to for a chat... and, failing that, he'll be surrounded by advisors and happens to have a wife. I doubt, very much, that George VI turned to any of his brothers for empowering chats - he would, surely, have turned to his wife for reassurance/bolstering? Do you expect Charles to turn to Andrew when (if) he becomes King? Or is it just William turning to Harry for his Californian victim speak, that you're envisaging?

RatherBeRiding · 02/07/2021 16:49

Perhaps they don't want to repair it. Perhaps they are happier on their separate continents in their individual family bubbles.

Batshittery · 02/07/2021 16:52

Do you think they will be reading this? Confused

2bazookas · 02/07/2021 16:54

Is that you, Meghan?

Hen2018 · 02/07/2021 17:01

Is there a board for these stupid threads?

WeAllHaveWings · 02/07/2021 17:03

Siblings or family fall out. It's nothing new, actually very common, just happens this one is being played out publicly.

Also don't need to bring their parents into it, they are adults now and make their own decisions on their relationship.

Leave them to it.

Strugglingtodomybest · 02/07/2021 17:04

I fully believe that Diana raised William and Harry to always have each other's backs.

Can I ask why you fully believe this?

Janaih · 02/07/2021 17:06

I don't know why people get so worked up about family members minimising contact. They are both grown men with their own wives and children. It's good that they each prioritise their own.

As a pp said, I don't think its a bad thing. People grow apart, but can be civil and polite at gatherings. It's the media creating all the drama.

Aspiringmatriarch · 02/07/2021 17:06

😁 Oh my goodness. I'm sure you're right OP but your post is funny. Bless you. I hope they can work things out.

HollowTalk · 02/07/2021 17:09

I think "They're going to blame me" was about the press, not about his children. He would never speak publicly about them like that.

But really, OP, you need a hobby. This level of interest in the royal family isn't really healthy.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 02/07/2021 17:10

How do you even know they fell out with each other - what do Megan and Harry have to apologise for? How do you know all this 😂

RickiTarr · 02/07/2021 17:15

@Nesbo

For fucks sake why do people get so deeply invested in the ins and outs of relationships they know nothing about. The world is full of families having their own dramas, and the only people who really know what is going on are the people directly involved.

It’s just…fetishistic. They are people, shitting and farting and arguing and screwing and bumbling along through life like the rest of us. Why give a shit?

We, as a country, get judged on the international stage by their antics. So I wish it would stop. Abolition of the monarchy would be an equally acceptable solution.
CormoranStrike · 02/07/2021 17:15

Well.

Erm.

My one insight is even if they do heal (and who knows just how much of the reported rift is true) I wouldn’t be turning to California for private chats once I had the throne!

x2boys · 02/07/2021 17:17

Just another thread to slag Harry and Megan off🙄 nobody knows the truth apart from those involved

longwayoff · 02/07/2021 17:19

Oh OP, read some history. Read about the royals. Then read about the Spencers. To say that neither family has been heavily invested in supportive family relations would be to understate it. Doesnt look like they'll be starting any time soon.

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