Weeing behind a bush in the park

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To be clear up front; I am neither the person weeing nor the person complaining . Just seen this on a local FB page and thought MN might like to debate this one.

Local park, where there are toilets but not predictable if/when they will be open.

Busy local FB page, someone posted along the lines of 'if you were the woman weeing behind a bush in xxx park today when my children might have seen you with your trousers down, I hope you are ashamed of yourself'

Very mixed responses.... before I share them (or my personal thoughts), what do you think?

That's exactly the sort of wanky thing people post on my local FB page. At the moment it's all about "the owner of the barking dog". They bloody know who it is but no ones got the guts to go and have a face to face conversation.

Shaming on a public Facebook page is pretty shitty. If I’d been there, I would have just assumed they were desperate and looked away.

@Soubriquet

When you gotta go, you gotta go

I would rather squat behind a bush, then take two sulking children all the way home early

You're missing the point. I have problems due to birthing injuries. If I need a wee, I can't just walk the children home early. I literally have to go there and then otherwise I will leak and wet myself. Holding it in and walking home early isn't an option.

Why did I think the poster was a man! Must have got confused.

I agree no one does it for fun/exhibitionism - sometimes you are desperate and there's no loos!

It's always worse somehow when women do stuff like this to other women.

I mean obviously women can be and are horrible but I dunno it's just a shame really.

Happens all the time though- women often seem worse than men when it comes to criticising other women though!

@NiceGerbil I think you'd be justified in assuming that it was a man - you'd expect a woman to be a bit more understanding of the predicament, or at least sensitive enough not to post on FB.

I should have had more sense really.

Sorry men!

I suppose a man who was that angry about it would have tackled her there. Shouted mid wee or waited for her and told her off etc

Maybe

If I'm working on a remote site all day with no toilets there's no way I'm packing up my kit to drive to the nearest garage with a toilet.

I often wee behind a bush. Especially during covid when public loos were closed or places like leisure centres where you could have used the loo were also closed.

I am excellent at bush weeing. I have the position, the way to hold my trousers, where to place my feet perfected and all because of the 300 or so walks I went on during lockdown.

Who cares. It's a wee.

I run longer distances and my pelvic floor has never forgiven me for two heavy babies and a rather rough forceps delivery. Add in hydrating well to run healthily and quite often the motion has me off to a bush by mile 1 despite going before leaving the house. I generally run in countryside, but it's pretty lumpy and if I want a long, flat run through town it is. Several previously accessible toilets are now shut, some probably permanently. One public open space had a well located set for start/ end/ mid-run... gone. Can't access the Council House, the semi-public sports club. The nearest toilets signposted are very helpfully on the opposite side of the river a mile away.

While I have no qualms about a quiet bush in the countryside, it is much more awkward in semi-urban public spaces, and squatting on your ankles with garments around your knees is a compromising position. Exceptionally rare is the woman who does it for the fun of it, and it's very depressing that millions of women restrict their activities including the health benefits of exercise because toilet provision is so poor and does not meet their needs in a judgemental society.

Now I'm not a fan of it as it can be embarrassing, I mean it's not easy for women as we have to pull everything down to go. men are lucky, they just have to pull down a zipper and Voila!

But honestly if your walking ur dogs or on a walk and u really need to go it's an awfully uncomfortable feeling having a full bladder. If I had to go I would make sure I go in a deep secluded bush and I would make sure no one would be able to see.