I’m fairly certain my older sister lied about the paternity of one of her children, I’m not sure why she’d do this but she did have a lot of problems in her life, the child is now an adult. This is what some people call paternity fraud. Another sister pointed out how much the child looks like an old boyfriend she had a very quick fling with while ‘on a break’ with a longer term partner a number of years ago. No one else knows and of course we can’t be completely certain but the dates tie up and her child does not look anything like the man she says is his father, I mean actually opposite in build, height, colouring. Also looks nothing like my sister. I haven’t mentioned it again to anyone since my other sister brought it up and we haven’t spoken about it since.
My sister separated from the fake father a long time ago and recently passed away, leaving the child in question with only one parent, who is probably not their parent. The secret perhaps should die with her. I’m trying to look after her child a bit so spending a bit of time together and when Dad comes up, It’s really difficult. I feel I’m lying and it’s very uncomfortable. I overheard a conversation with my DS ‘well my dad is only x tall and I’m really tall, we look nothing like each other’ so clearly there’s no suspicion.
I’ve no intention of saying anything especially right now, but I’m an honest sort of person and the lie is really doing me in. I’m very fond of my sisters child and he has health problems which might be explained by genetics. I really think it’s a terrible thing for my sister to do, it’s hard not to think very badly of her. If the ‘fake’ dad ever realised to will be enormously hurtful to her child. And I can’t help thinking of the man who has missed out on a lifetime of parenting and the child who has missed out on his father
That’s it really. Any experiences to share would be great